Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen

Today’s minisode comes from another listener request! She wanted to know more about how to overcome insecurities to achieve BIG goals. Below you’ll find some of the exercises and questions I talk about in this minisode, but make sure you listen in to get the whole enchilada. Big goals are a long game, so let’s first talk logistics. First, break down what you want to do into smaller chunks, and then from there, even smaller. Sometimes it can help to look at the reality of what you’re trying to accomplish, and then remind yourself that you’re one human, and it’s going to take time, perseverance, and grace. Next, I’m going to give you some questions and exercises to do that will help you break them down so you can work through them and hopefully overcome them. Let’s start with why is this goal important to you? Does it honor your values? How do you anticipate it’ll make you feel when you reach it? Is this goal solely important to you, or is it important to you that you reach this goal so others will perceive you a certain way (this isn’t always bad!)If this goal is successful, are you afraid something will happen then? For example, sustainability, what people will think, outgrowing certain people. Thinking about the specific insecurities you have around this, when was the first time you remember feeling those insecurities? Can you narrow down when it became an insecurity? It’s okay if you can’t, instead, think about other areas in your life you feel that specific kind of insecurity. What if the goal doesn’t work out as you want it to, think that through. How will you recover? What do you need to say no to in order to keep taking action? And when you do that, what are you saying yes to? Also, know that you’ll likely have insecurities forever. You’ll get past some and get new ones. Or some you’ll overcome and they’ll come back later when you make bigger or different goals. It’s normal, especially in our culture that constantly makes us feel we’re not enough. Resources from this episode: Make Some Noise bookGet a personalized, signed copy of any of my booksBook recommendations:I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/Episode Link:http://andreaowen.com/577 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s episode is based on a listener's request about how to recover from the betrayal of infidelity. Michelle Mays joins me to discuss cheating, the betrayal bind, and solutions for healing. Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She is the author of the new book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst, and she is the founder of the Center for Relational Recovery in Northern Virginia outside of DC. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Cheating and what makes sexual betrayal so devastating and problematic? (3:37) The betrayal bind is what happens when we experience betrayal at the hands of our most significant other. (8:08) Every betrayed partner goes through three specific injuries. (16:08) The role of gaslighting when a partner is cheating (19:54) Michelle answers, “Can you actually heal from betrayal and cheating?” (28:08) “Your relationship may not be salvageable, but you can absolutely heal from betrayal and move into the rest of your life and thrive and flourish afterward.” AND “If you are trying to heal your relationship, that is possible. The deciding factor is whether you are both in it 100%.” (29:50) Resources from this episode:1:1 Coaching with AndreaMichelle’s websiteMichelle on InstagramBook recommendations:I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/Episode link:http://andreaowen.com/576 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, a former client turned podcast guest, Rebecca, bravely opens up about her journey through infertility. Rebecca shares the highs, lows, and everything in between, providing a genuine and vulnerable perspective on her challenges.This episode goes beyond the struggles of infertility, delving into the experience of coming out on the other side without the expected prize. Rebecca sheds light on the often-overlooked aspect of finding joy in a childless existence, walking through grief, and looking for support. Whether you've personally faced infertility, know someone who has, or are just curious about the realities of the journey, this conversation provides a compassionate glimpse into a story that resonates with many. Rebecca's openness and courage in sharing her narrative offer solace and understanding to listeners who may find comfort and connection in her words.In this episode, you’ll hear about: Rebecca opens up and shares her fertility story (4:28) Reconciling the grief that comes with infertility (23:53) Some of the unhelpful things people do or say (30:48) How Rebecca moved forward after the heartache (37:53) Focusing on the joy of a childless existence (39:45) Resources from this episode:1:1 Coaching with AndreaPsychology TodayWorld Childless Week websiteGateway // Jody DayBook recommendations:I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/Episode Link:http://andreaowen.com/575 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A few weeks ago, a long-time client of mine was wrapping up one of her sessions. I typically ask my clients at the end of a session, just like I ask my podcast guests “Anything you need to say or ask before we wrap up to make sure you feel complete?” It invites them to say anything at all, but when it comes to clients, many times they say outloud the thing that they’ve been afraid to say. “Got any advice on how to leave a long-term relationship?” She asked me. “Oh, yes. I do.” I replied. Listen in to this minisode where I talk about what I told her, which includes advice on listening to your gut instead of your trauma, the “messy middle”, and how you may always have feelings for your former partner. Resources: Private coaching with Andrea Book recommendations:I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/Show link:http://andreaowen.com/574 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We're revisiting a topic that affects many — Impostor Syndrome. Who better to guide us through this complex pattern of self-doubt than renowned expert Dr. Valerie Young? It's been a decade since we last explored Impostor Syndrome on the podcast! Dr. Young, co-founder of the Impostor Syndrome Institute, joins us to shed light on the latest insights and information surrounding Imposter Syndrome.In this conversation, Dr. Young takes a moment to articulate what Impostor Syndrome is and how it subtly infiltrates various aspects of our lives. She leaves us with a powerful mantra: "The only way to stop feeling like an impostor is to stop thinking like an impostor."In this episode, you’ll hear about: Dr. Young takes a few moments to describe imposter syndrome and how it shows up in our lives (4:43) Imposter Syndrome coping and protecting mechanisms such as overwork and overprepare or procrastination (9:06) What research shows about the competence of women in the workplace (15:44) Rethinking risk-taking and cultivating “chutzpah” (16:20) Dr. Young answers, “Some people say impostor syndrome is a good thing -- do you agree?” (22:13) Impostor syndrome demands immediate, usable solutions; the goal is not to “fix” anyone. (26:31) Resources from this episode:1:1 Coaching with AndreaDr. Valerie Young on Imposter SyndromeImposter Syndrome Coping MechanismsBook recommendations:I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/Show link:http://andreaowen.com/573 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Happy holidays! This week, we are talking about relationships on the show. Whether you are single or in a relationship, my guest and I cover many topics applicable to all listeners. I’m thrilled to welcome back a familiar face, the dynamic Kate Anthony. If you've been following the show, you know Kate as a multi-time guest, bringing her wisdom to various discussions about shit that matters with unqualified people, which is a series I do here on the show.But this time around, Kate is donning the hat of a qualified expert ready to tackle topics ranging from the role of porn in relationships to the challenges posed by addiction, mental illness, and emotional abuse. Kate also shares how to tell a partner you want a divorce in a clear, kind, and absolute way. As the author of the new book "The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage," Kate brings a wealth of knowledge to the conversation. She is also the acclaimed host of "The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast," a New York Times recommended show. Beyond podcasting, Kate is the visionary behind the groundbreaking online group coaching program, "Should I Stay or Should I Go." This program empowers women to navigate life's most challenging decisions through coaching tools, relationship education, geeky neuroscience, community support, and profound self-work.In this episode, you’ll hear about: The first thing women need to look at when trying to decide to end a relationship (6:55) Kate provides insights into the prevalence of narcissism in contemporary society, addressing the question: "Do you believe there are as many narcissists as people seem to think these days?" (11:47) Emotional abuse and what it looks like in a relationship, including the two crucial facets of emotional abuse (17:02) Shedding light on sexual abuse in marriage (35:42) Insights on effectively initiating and navigating the divorce conversation with a spouse, ensuring that it resonates and has a lasting impact. (43:52) Resources from this episode:1:1 Coaching with AndreaKate’s websiteKate’s bookBook recommendations:I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/Show link:http://andreaowen.com/572 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you hoping to start a new habit or even quit drinking in the coming year? This episode explores the transformative power of habits and the sober-curious lifestyle, featuring Casey McGuire Davidson, a Life & Sobriety Coach and the host of The Hello Someday Podcast for Sober Curious Women.Casey, with her background in helping high-achieving women break free from alcohol's hold, shares insights applicable to any habit or behavior change. We discuss resolutions to positively impact health and explore best practices for sustaining motivation when that initial drive fades. Dry January takes center stage in our conversation, with Casey emphasizing that the act of abstaining from alcohol goes beyond a temporary trend – it's a gateway to understanding the difference one can feel.Listen to hear ideas that can be a catalyst for positive change in various aspects of your life.In this episode, you’ll hear about: Some resolutions that can improve your health (4:39) Best practices that can keep people going after the initial motivation fades (9:05) Dry January - it’s not just about quitting drinking. (15:07) Casey answers, “Why is quitting drinking a change more and more people are interested in making?” (21:54) “Once you stop drinking for a period of time, you can’t unknow the difference you feel.” (30:58) Casey McGuire Davidson is a Life & Sobriety Coach and the host of the Top 100 Mental Health Podcast, The Hello Someday Podcast for Sober Curious Women. As an ex-red wine girl who spent 20 years climbing the corporate ladder while holding on tightly to her love of wine, Casey’s passionate about helping busy women stop drinking and create lives they love without alcohol. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, NBC News and over 70 sobriety, motherhood, mental health and wellness podcasts and publications.Resources from this episode:1:1 Coaching with AndreaDaring Way™ Coaching with Andrea Casey’s websiteCasey on InstagramAtomic Habits, James ClearDopamine Nation, Dr. Anna LembkeBook recommendations:I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/Show link:http://andreaowen.com/571 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Before we get into it, I have ONE coaching spot open for the new year! Is it you? You can read more about it HERE. Have you ever seen or heard the quote, “How you do one thing is how you do everything”? Well, I’m here to tell you that, no, it’s not. In this minisode, I’m riffing on the notion that when someone is faced with a conflict, that it’s then you find out who they “really are”, their “true colors”, or their “true character”. It’s easy to jump to deciding that someone is terrible based on how someone acts and treats you during conflict. When we see someone acting out of character, we want a reason for it. It’s unusual, and we want to make sense of it. And maybe you’ve been that person! When I was going through a terrible divorce in 2006, I was not my best self. At times I was vindictive, mean, and I lashed out. Does that make me a mean, vindictive person? No, it makes me a normally kind human being who’d just been traumatized, didn’t have the coping skills to deal with what she was going through, was in a tremendous amount of pain and fear and often was acting from that place. That will happen to all of us. I also get into the topic of compassion, both for yourself when you’re in this place, and for other people. This is NOT to say you can let people treat you badly, but you can see where they’re coming from and set boundaries. Resources from this episode: Coaching with AndreaRe-parenting and inner-child work with Cybele BotranBook recommendations:I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/Show link:http://andreaowen.com/570 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I'm thrilled to have you join us today as we dive into the fascinating world of Family Constellation Therapy. I've got an incredible expert with me, the insightful Liza Miron. With Family Constellations and Ancestral Healing, Liza helps you heal the hidden or limiting issues from your Family System that keep you blocked and repeating negative patterns so you can live your life with love, joy, abundance, health, and success.Liza sheds light on the profound healing potential of Family Constellations, a therapeutic approach that might not involve stars but unveils a galaxy of insights into our lives. Don't miss out on this transformative conversation that might be the key to unlocking your path to healing and happiness.In this episode, you’ll hear about: Family Constellations: Liza explains what family constellations are. They have nothing to do with the stars; they are a healing method. (3:42) How Family System entanglements impact our relationships (7:36) How to heal entanglements and the trauma we unconsciously carry from the Family System (22:10) Liza answers, “Can someone do this mode of healing if they are adopted and don’t know anybody from their biological family?” (30:03) Resources from this episode:Get Coached by Andrea on the Podcast Buy a Signed Copy of Andrea’s book!Liza’s websiteEpisode 81: Family constellation therapy with Natalie BertholdBook recommendations:I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/Show link:http://andreaowen.com/569 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Cait Donovon returns to the podcast this week! Previously, she joined me for a conversation about burnout recovery and boundaries. In this episode we talk a little bit more about burnout, but mostly about what it means to achieve work-life balance. For those of you new to Cait, she is the host of FRIED. The Burnout Podcast, a Keynote speaker, author of the book "The Bounce-back-ability Factor" and a burnout aficionado.  Cait helps us explore the evolving landscape of work-life balance, unraveling cultural shifts and emphasizing the importance of creating boundaries in a world where the lines between work and personal life have blurred.Whether you've experienced burnout or are seeking clarity on work-life equilibrium, this episode provides a roadmap to navigate burnout culture and reclaim a more harmonious life.  In this episode, you’ll hear about: Burnout culture: what it is and how it shows up. (5:14) Work-life balance: the cultural shift from the natural segmentation we had between life and work and how we must now make an effort to create boundaries between work and life. (14:40) “We're trying to get more life, but we don't have the energy to do it. We think we don't have the time to do it, but that's probably not true because most of us spend an hour a day on Instagram.” (19:15) Cait answers, “What does it mean to find work-life balance?” (29:01) Burnout recovery can be a long process for some, and Cait explains why. (35:56) Resources from this episode:Get Coached by Andrea on the Podcast Community SurveyCait’s websiteEpisode 528:Burnout Recovery, Boundaries, and Better Communication with Cait DonovanBurnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, Emily Nagoski PhD and Amelia Nagoski DMABook recommendations:I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/Show link:http://andreaowen.com/568 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices