Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen

Today’s topic is one that’s near and dear to my heart and probably yours– emotions. As someone who’s had quite a journey in this arena, I’m always looking for ways to better understand them, as well as allow emotions to run their course naturally. I’m talking more specifically about “off loading” emotions, a subject I learned more about in my Daring Way™ training. It comes specifically from Brené Brown’s book, Rising Strong, and in this episode, I’m breaking down all of the ways we avoid dealing with our emotions. At the end of the episode, I’ll also go over some ways to process emotions as well. Happy emoting! Resources from this episode: Follow Andrea on TikTokRising Strong bookThe Body Keeps the ScoreWhen the Body Says NoBook recommendations:I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/Show notes link:http://andreaowen.com/561/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week we are exploring the distinction between joy and happiness and why joy is a critical practice, especially in the face of suffering. Tanmeet Sethi is my special guest, who is the author of “Joy is My Justice.” She is also a board-certified Integrative Family Medicine physician and Clinical Associate Professor at the University of Washington School of Medicine.  The podcast explores the intriguing concepts from Tanmeet’s book, delves into joy as a path towards healing and even contributes to healing our ancestral wounds.Tanmeet spent the past 25 years working on the frontlines of the most marginalized communities, as well as globally with victims of school shootings, survivors of hurricanes, citizens impacted by police violence, and psychologists in Ukraine under attack. Tune in to this enriching discussion as we navigate the intersection of joy, healing, and social justice with guidance from Tanmeet.In this episode, you’ll hear: The difference between joy and happiness (5:29) Why joy is a critical practice when someone is suffering and why it’s critical for marginalized communities as a path to healing from oppression (11:11) The tools in “Joy is My Justice” activate the vagus nerve of the nervous system and help cultivate Joy (21:57) Healing our trauma and finding our Joy affects our genes and heals our ancestry (26:36) Psychedelics as a way to harness inner wisdom and inner healing; it is a potent way to catalyze joy (30:35) Tanmeet answers the question, “What is “embodied micro-resistance?” (40:11) Resources from this episode:Private coaching with AndreaTanmeet’s websiteTanmeet’s bookTanmeet’s TEDxTalkJoin Andrea LIVE on TikTok on November 15th at 3pm PST / 6 pm EST @heyandreaowenSubmit your questions for this fun AMA-type TikTok live - email support (at) andreaowen.com with your questions.Book recommendations:I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/Show notes link:http://andreaowen.com/560 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Trigger Warning: This episode contains conversations about severe mental health and suicide. If you are sensitive to these topics, please take care. I'm joined by the compassionate and highly experienced Dr. Nicole Washington, a mental health advocate who aims to reduce the stigma surrounding psychiatric illness. In this episode, we discuss how to recognize the need for mental health help, explore some thoughts and ideas around solutions for mental health struggles, and address some of the stigmas around mental wellness. Dr. Nicole Washington has dedicated her career to caring for underserved communities, individuals with severe mental illness, and high-performing professionals who don't typically seek mental health services. She tirelessly educates the public on mental health topics through her private practice, podcast, speaking engagements, and written work. Tune in to gain valuable insights into the complexities of mental health and the power of seeking help when needed.In this episode, you’ll hear:Dr. Nicole works with people who are not typically consumers of mental health services, namely underserved communities, those with severe mental illness, and high-performing professionals. She shares about why she ended up in that demographic. (3:09)What “mental breakdown” or “nervous breakdown” means - it means different things to different people. (8:37)Debunking myths associated with suicide (11:41)How to know when it is time to make an appointment with a psychiatrist or get inpatient treatment (16:52)Dr. Nicole answers the question, “Do you see a pattern in what could be the solution to mental health struggles?” (22:40)What someone can do if they’ve experienced having their vulnerabilities or mental health used against them (30:54)Companies and other kinds of workplaces are waking up to the importance of mental health. Dr. Nicole shares what people can do to make positive changes in their workplace, like instituting mental health days, etc. (34:26)Resources from this episode:Private coaching with AndreaDr. Washington’s podcast episode on suicideDr. Washington’s websiteNational Alliance for Mental Illness http://andreaowen.com/559 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s minisode comes from our listener survey from earlier this year. The listener wanted me to riff on the damage lying to yourself causes.Oof, am I right? You’ll hear a theme in this episode about self-compassion. When we’re trying to move away from lying to ourselves, we need to always try and come from a place of self-kindness and compassion. In this minisode I’ll pose a very important question for you to answer, as well as suggest an exercise that you can do at home to dig deeper around this particular behavior. Get out a piece of paper, your journal, or your notes app and get to work! I also talk about self-abandonment and how it relates to this. 👀This was such a juicy topic, thank you so much to the listener who wrote in and recommended it! http://andreaowen.com/podcast/558 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today, I am joined by the wonderful Cybele Botran for a truly enlightening conversation that delves into reparenting and inner child work. Cybele is a SHE RECOVERS® and Holistic Recovery Coach, dedicated to empowering sober or sober-curious women. Cybele’s mission is to guide women in shedding the heavy burdens of people-pleasing and perfectionism, and instead, foster the growth of resilient boundaries while rediscovering the pure essence of their inner child.This episode is a captivating exploration of inner healing, reparenting, and the rekindling of your inner child. Don't miss this opportunity to learn, grow, and rediscover.You’ll hear: Inner Child Energy vs. Inner Teen Energy and the distinctions between the energy of your inner child and the more adolescent inner teen (8:50) Cybele introduces us to the concept of reparenting. This journey is about becoming your very own nurturing parent, guiding yourself with compassion and understanding. (11:43) R.E.P.A.R.E.N.T - an acronym for healing: Cybele walks us through each letter of her powerful acronym, R.E.P.A.R.E.N.T. This acronym is a roadmap, designed to help women establish a profound connection with their most tender selves. (14:31) We discuss the intricate process of grief-work. This is a vital aspect of healing and reuniting with your inner child (30:54) Resources from this episode:Private coaching with AndreaCybele’s websitehttps://andreaowen.com/podcast/557/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

One of my favorite people, Britt Frank, returns to the podcast this week! We are exploring a topic suggested by a listener - obsessive love and love addiction. When I received this suggestion, I knew Britt was the perfect person to help me address things like what is obsessive love versus healthy love. Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP is a trauma therapist, teacher, and speaker who specializes in the "Science of Stuck." She works to empower people to understand the inner mechanisms of their brains and bodies. When we know how things work, the capacity for CHOICE is restored and life can and does change.In this episode you’ll hear: Britt starts out by defining “love addiction” and then explains the difference between love addiction and someone who has an anxious attachment style (5:03) What is actually happening when someone feels like they have obsessive love (14:47) We explore a list by SLAA about twelve characteristics of love and sex addiction (17:01) “Awareness without shame creates change.” (23:02) How to heal from love addiction: the first step is detox and withdrawal (26:46) “The solution to love addiction is self-parenting.” (37:22) Resources from this episode:Private coaching with AndreaBritt’s websiteBritt’s bookEpisode 356: What is love addiction? with Dr. Alexandra KatehakisEpisode 358: Healing from Narcissistic and Traumatic Relationships with Britt FrankEpisode 397: Narcissistic Abuse, Trauma, and Healing with Britt FrankEpisode 436: How We Heal Ourselves: A New Perspective on Mental Health with Britt FrankEpisode 456: Relationship series: Healing from Traumatic Romantic Relationships with Britt FrankCharacteristics of Sex and Love Addiction by S.L.A.A.Self Parenting: The Complete Guide to Your Inner Conversationshttps://andreaowen.com/podcast/556/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Recently a colleague I was catching up with asked me if I still love 1:1 coaching as much as I used to and I immediately said YES, and launched into an excited monologue of why I love it so much. There was such enthusiasm in my “speech”, that I turned on the mic and camera, and made both a podcast episode and video for you. This is especially for anyone who’s been interested in working with me. You have the option to check this on video, so if you’ve ever wondered what I look like when I record a podcast episode, check it out (hint: it’s not glamorous!)You’ll hear me talk about in this minisode/video:  The thing that happens when I know I’m not a good fit for someone. And I used to be this person!  What’s absolutely REQUIRED in order to see changes when you hire me as your coach.  What one of my most recent clients said about the ending of our coaching together.  What “the work” actually entails in terms of you, the client.  Some of the many things you get from working with me so we don’t need to work together forever.  When you think about hiring a coach like me, what needs to happen first within you.  Resources:Read more about coaching with me Quick application page  https://andreaowen.com/podcast/555/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Rose Hackman is on the show this week! Rose is a journalist whose work on gender, race, labor, policing, housing, and the environment―published in The Guardian―has brought international attention to overlooked American policy issues, historically entrenched injustices, and complicated social mores. Rose’s book, Emotional Labor, is a journalistic deep dive in which she shares the stories of hundreds of women, tracing the history of emotional labor, exposing common manifestations of the phenomenon, and empowering us to forge pathways for evolution, justice, and change.Throughout our conversation, we often discussed emotional labor from the female perspective and explored its effect on race, class, relationships, and the workplace. If, after listening to our conversation, you’re intrigued and want to learn more, I encourage you to check out Rose’s book! In this episode, you’ll hear: Emotional labor: Rose describes what it is and looks like in different scenarios (4:18) How race, gender, and class unequally shape the load we carry (6:28) Rose answers, “Do you think women going through “the great divorce” is indirectly related to emotional labor?” (15:27) Our conversation moves to solutions, and we discuss some strategies for leveling the imbalances that contaminate our relationships, social circles, and households (30:47) Rose shares tools or rebuttals for when someone makes you feel as though the work you are doing is not real work (38:08) Resources:Private coaching with AndreaRose's book is hereRose on Instagram Rose on TikTokLaura Danger’s episode on the division of laborhttps://andreaowen.com/podcast/554/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is the second of two archived episodes that I’ve pulled from last year, because, well, this one was one of my favorites! I hand picked Carole Cullen to come on and talk about what it means to be a Certified Gottman Method therapist and she delivered! Next week we’ll be back with all new interviews!We’re wrapping up the relationship theme this week with guest Carole Cullen. I specifically wanted to include a guest in this series who was trained from The Gottman Institute and Carole fit the bill and y’all— she is amazing! In this episode, we talk about the seven principles for making relationships work. I took lots of notes while I was interviewing her and I’m sure you’ll get a lot out of this too  Carole Cullen is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, AAMFT Clinical Supervisor and public speaker. She is a Certified Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapist specializing in working with couples in crisis. She has a group practice in Wake Forest, NC where she helps couples learn practical tools to reconnect with their partner and create a lasting love. We talked about: Carole shares, in detail, the seven principles that make relationships work (4:24) Emotionally focused therapy for couples in crisis (32:42) Creating a secure attachment with your partner (and realizing your partner is not responsible for healing your childhood wounds) (35:23) Resources:Coaching with AndreaCarole’s websiteThe Gottman InstituteThe Seven Principles for Making Marriage WorkGetting the Love You Wanthttps://andreaowen.com/podcast/553/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Last week I interviewed a journalist named Rose Hackman, who wrote a book called Emotional Labor: The Invisible Work Shaping Our Lives and How to Claim Our Power, and it got me thinking about a few things. So much so that I turned on the mic right after I got off Zoom with her, and recorded this minisode for you. First, I muse on what emotional labor looks like at work, but more specifically, as I personally reflect on my past relationships, what it looks like in romantic partnerships. I know my experience isn’t uncommon, so you may see yourself in my story. We all have patterns in our lives, and most of us have had them for decades. It’s a HUGE ask to expect yourself to see the patterns you don’t like, and just change them. There’s a lot of “messy middle”. This minisode is about identifying those patterns and hopefully coming to a decision about what you’ll accept… and for the things that have become unacceptable, or what I call in the episode “too expensive”, deciding what you plan to do about it. Resources:Buy a personalized, signed copy of Andrea’s book (or books!)Rose Hackman’s book, Emotional LaborMake Some Noise on Amazonhttps://andreaowen.com/podcast/552/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices