Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen

I have a coaching session for you this week, and in these sessions, I aim to pick topics that are universal. Maggie is brave today and coming on the show with a topic many of us struggle with, resentment, self-abandonment, and the rocky road to self-compassion.  I wanted to give this topic a voice because it’s incredibly common. To normalize what it looks like when women find themselves stuck in cycles of indecisiveness, resentment, guilt, and burnout. Maggie’s story is specific, but the themes? They’re everywhere. In this session, we unpack what’s getting in the way for Maggie and work together to create small, actionable steps that bring her closer to showing up for herself in meaningful ways. Her willingness to do the work on herself offers something for all of us - especially if you’ve been taught to prioritize everyone but yourself. You’ll hear us talk about:  What it really looks like to explore resentments and why it matters (10:53) How self-abandonment sneaks into everything from parenting to partnership (26:19)\ Why you don’t have to forgive someone in order to heal (28:07) How indecisiveness connects to fear, self-trust, and early family dynamics (28:39) What self-compassion can look like in real time (especially when it’s new) (36:41) Resources: Coaching Single Sessions with Andrea No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, Richard Schwartz Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/677 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You know what I used to call numbing out? A mini vacation. Whether it was wine at the end of the day (I’m now 13 years sober), scrolling endlessly, or just anything to avoid feeling the full weight of my emotions, it all came down to one thing: avoidance. And that’s exactly what I’m getting into in this solo episode, the real reasons we numb, what it costs us, and how to begin doing something different. This one goes beyond “just stop doing it.” I’m talking about the discomfort, the deep emotional wiring, and why it makes total sense that you’ve been avoiding hard feelings. But also, how the shift starts. (Hint: it’s not by beating yourself up.) I’m pulling straight from my book How to Stop Feeling Like Shit and breaking down specific tools to start feeling your feelings, even if you’re a beginner. What You’ll Hear: How numbing and avoiding are really about running from emotions What my therapist told me that I really didn’t want to hear (spoiler: she was right) The “holy emotions” we’re often most afraid to feel: grief, shame, terror, rage The biggest clues that you might be avoiding emotions (including the empathy test) Three key tools to start feeling your feelings: acceptance, curiosity, and self-trust The role of somatic work, breathwork, and psychedelic therapy in emotional healing You’re not broken because you’ve been numbing out. Your body’s been doing its best to keep you safe. This episode is about getting curious, not judgmental; and starting to build a new way forward, one brave feeling at a time. Resources: How to Stop Feeling Like Shit - The 8-Week Experience How to Stop Feeling Like Shit (book) Minisode 675: New Level, Old Devil: Why Family Of Origin Stuff Keeps Showing Up Episode 658: Lesson 1 on self-abandonment, codependency, and self-trust Episode 659: Lesson 2 on The Four Holy Emotions: How Grief, Terror, Rage, and Shame Unlock Your Power My Ketamine Therapy Journey secret podcast series Facing Love Addiction, Pia Mellody When Things Fall Apart, Pema Chodron Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/676 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’ve had the phrase “New level, old devil” in my notes for years. YEARS. And somehow, it never made it into an episode… until now. Apparently, it wanted to be the finale of minisodes. And honestly? It’s perfect timing, because this one runs deep. (And yes, this is the last minisode I’ll be airing, but don’t worry, the weekly podcast isn’t going anywhere! Just scaling back on the extra minisodes. You’ll get two episodes a month that are interviews, and the other two will be longer solo episodes, similar to the Coming Home to Yourself Series.)  Here’s the deal: every time you uplevel—whether it’s in your career, relationships, boundaries, or just giving yourself more damn rest—old stuff tends to come roaring back. Not because you’re doing it wrong, but because growth shakes loose the beliefs you’ve been carrying around since childhood. That family-of-origin stuff? It doesn’t just vanish. It waits in the wings until you're strong enough to deal with it.  The truth about those unconscious narratives is that these beliefs are old stories with loyal roots. What you’ll learn in this episode: Why personal growth often triggers unresolved family-of-origin stuff The truth behind “new level, old devil” and how it shows up Six key reflection questions to identify where you’re stuck or playing small The difference between explicit and implicit messages you absorbed growing up How we unconsciously engineer our lives to avoid rejection, discomfort, or being “too much” The connection between your current habits and your need for belonging What it means to wear emotional “armor”—and how to start taking it off The difference between top-down and bottom-up healing work Tools and modalities to start untangling old beliefs: journaling, somatic work, EMDR, psychedelics, and more How this all ties into the habits covered in How to Stop Feeling Like Sht* When you start waking up to the ways you've been staying small, it can feel overwhelming. But here's the thing—you didn’t choose these stories on purpose, and you’re not broken for believing them. This is your invitation to get curious, offer yourself some grace, and begin rewriting your life in a way that honors who you are now—not who you had to be back then. If this episode resonated and you’re ready to finally break free from self-sabotaging habits and start choosing yourself on purpose, join me in How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t: The 8-Week Experience. We start May 15. Details are HERE!  Resources from this episode:  How to Stop Feeling Like Shit - The  8-Week Experience Episode 671: Life Lesson 10 on Growth Isn’t Linear, And That’s the Whole Damn Point My Ketamine Therapy Journey secret podcast series Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m talking with award-winning neuroscientist and author Anne-Laure Le Cunff about how to stop letting goals run your life and start experimenting (in small ways) to a more fulfilling one. Her new book, Tiny Experiments, offers a practical, science-backed approach to navigating uncertainty, ditching perfectionism, and making real progress, on your own terms. We dig into how the pressure to always achieve can mess with your mental health, why your brain freaks out when things feel unclear, and how small experiments can lead to big shifts. Plus, we talk about the beauty in what these tiny experiments hold - data and feedback about what worked, what didn’t, whether to keep going, to stop, or to change something up. Anne-Laure’s challenge for you, after listening, is to ask yourself: “What tiny experiment can I try this week?” What You’ll Hear: How living in a goal-obsessed world affects our mental well-being and sense of self-worth (5:24) The reason we are so afraid of uncertainty in our careers (9:06) “Tiny experiments” and how they can help you find your personalized map to a fulfilling life (13:29) Perfectionism is often a barrier to both happiness and progress – adopting an experimental mindset can help you let go of the need to be perfect (20:42) A few simple, experiments you can try right now (without overhauling your entire life) (35:45) Resources: Join the How to Stop Feeling Like Shit 5-Day Challenge🎉 How to Stop Feeling Like Shit 8-Week Experience Anne-Laure’s websiteAnne-Laure’s newsletter Tiny Experiments: How to Live Freely in a Goal-Obsessed World Anne-Laure on Instagram Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/674 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Friend of the show Susan Hyatt returns, and we’re getting into it, from the fears that keep us quiet to the fire it takes to reclaim what we want. Susan is a Master Certified Life Coach, bestselling author, and TEDx speaker who helps women turn up the volume on their lives, whether that means speaking up, starting over, or finally saying yes to themselves. In this conversation, we unpack what it means to come home to yourself in midlife, how to navigate the overwhelm of today’s political and social landscape, and why movement isn’t just about fitness—it’s emotional fuel. Plus, Susan shares her Comeback Compass for bouncing back after setbacks and the real talk we need around menopause, the orgasm gap, and women’s health in 2025. What You’ll Hear: How to reframe the fear of “who do I think I am?” (6:28) The role of physical movement in personal growth (8:52) Why creating before consuming is key to staying grounded (18:33) Susan’s Comeback Compass framework for handling setbacks and building resilience (21:28) What Big Yes Energy actually looks like (and how to tap into it) (25:46) The emerging conversations in women’s empowerment that deserve more airtime (29:27) Resources:Join the How to Stop Feeling Like Shit 5-Day Challenge 🎉How to Stop Feeling Like Shit 8-Week ExperienceSusan’s websiteBig YES  Morning  Susan on Instagram Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/673 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hot flashes, brain fog, mood swings… sound familiar? If you’ve ever felt like menopause hijacked your body and left you wondering what the hell just happened (or concerned that it may in the years to come), you’re not alone. But as this week’s episode assures you, you’re definitely not powerless. I’m talking with Tamsen Fadal, author of How to Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life, and Feel Even Better Than Before. Tamsen’s on a mission to flip the script on how we talk about menopause, less quiet suffering and more hope and empowerment.You’ll hear us talk about what your doctor probably isn’t telling you, how to advocate for yourself in midlife, and why menopause isn’t the end, it’s a damn evolution. In fact, for me, it was the path to coming home to myself.What You’ll Hear What surprised Tamsen most about women’s experiences once she started speaking up about menopause (5:17) A crash course on when to get tested for menopause symptoms (hint: you don’t have to wait until you’re miserable) (6:45) The truth about hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and the myth that it causes breast cancer (10:24) How we can finally change the narrative around menopause (15:48) How partners and family members can step up or how to bring them into the conversation so they actually get it (19:22) The unexpected gifts that come with perimenopause and menopause (yes, there are some!) (22:09) Could hormones be the reason you suddenly don’t give a shit anymore in midlife? Plus, why that shift can actually be the start of real freedom (23:24) The connection between menopause and big life changes, relationships, careers, identity shifts, and how to know if it’s your hormones or your partner that’s the problem (29:09) Resources:Join the How to Stop Feeling Like Shit 5-Day Challenge - We begin on April 28th! 🎉Tamsen’s book, “How To Menopause”Tamsen on Instagram @ tamsenfadalThe M Factor: Shredding the Silence on MenopauseThe Men’s Guide to Understanding MenopauseThe Menopause SocietyBook recommendations:I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/Episode link:http://andreaowen.com/672 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Before we jump in… if you’re feeling stuck in people-pleasing, perfectionism, or self-sabotage—this is your sign.I’m hosting a free How To Stop Feeling Like Shit 5-day challenge to help you stop abandoning yourself and start showing up like the confident, grounded woman you’re meant to be.One small (but mighty) shift each day. Five days. Big energy. Real momentum. Join us HERE. **********We’ve reached the final lesson in my 10-part series on Coming Home To Yourself, and this one brings it all together. If you’ve ever thought, “I should be further along by now,” you’re not alone, and you’re not failing. Growth is layered, not linear. It’s messy, spirally, and sometimes uncomfortable, but that’s not a problem, it’s the process.In this episode, I’m exploring what real healing and fulfillment look like. You’ll hear why chasing big, sexy goals can be a form of self-abandonment, how tiny experiments can shift everything, and why self-compassion is one of the most powerful tools we have. Most of all, I’ll remind you that the important thing isn’t the pace, it’s that you keep showing up. Because coming home to yourself is the success story.What you’ll hear about in this episode: Growth is Cyclical, Not a Checklist: It’s not about fixing the same thing over and over, but meeting familiar patterns with more awareness, strength, and self-compassion each time. The Myth of the Big, Sexy Goal: It’s not about achieving X to finally feel worthy—it’s about noticing when chasing the goal is really just abandoning yourself in disguise.  Tiny Experiments over Giant Goals: It’s not about massive overhauls, it’s about trying small, time-bound shifts like “do this for 7 days” and letting curiosity lead. Your brain thrives on it, and showing up is the success. Self-Compassion & Forgiveness Are the Real Flex: You’re not behind, late, or broken. Growth means making space for grief, rage, shame, and fear, and forgiving the past you who was doing their best. Let Go to Move Forward: It’s not quitting, it’s trusting. Letting go makes space for aligned goals, deeper love, and the unshakable truth that no matter what, you’ve got you. Download the worksheet and review the summaries for all ten lessons at http://andreaowen.com/671Resources from this episode:Find me on Instagram! @heyandreaownHow to Stop Feeling Like Shit 5-Day Challenge Coming Home to Yourself Private CoachingWrite Your Way Through It Group CoachingGetting Damn Good At LifeSign up to make sure you don’t miss any of my birthday episodes!Episode 502: Breaking generational cursesBook recommendations:I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/Episode link:http://andreaowen.com/671 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today's lesson is radical self-acceptance, how to stop fixing yourself, and finally come home to who you are. Why did I choose this as one of the 10 topics? In my nearly 20 years of coaching women, self-acceptance comes up again and again. It’s a pattern I see so often. If you're in a transformational period, doing deep work, chasing self-improvement, and still not feeling like you’re enough... you're not alone. That push to grow while still feeling unworthy? That’s exactly why this topic matters.If you're someone who keeps chasing the next thing, thinking that will finally fix you or make you feel complete, and it’s still not landing, this is the episode I really want you to hear. To make this easy to follow and offer some reflection, I'm breaking the episode into five powerful parts, including the truth about why this is so hard and why it’s something we tend to circle back to again and again in our personal growth journey.Of course there is a worksheet for this episode! Download it at http://andreaowen.com/670What you’ll hear about in this episode: What the Hell Is Radical Self-Acceptance? It’s not about loving everything, but seeing yourself fully, without judgment or sugarcoating. Why It’s So Damn Hard: Cultural and generational messaging to be smaller and quieter, internalized shame from decades of shape-shifting, and the fear that self-acceptance means becoming stagnant. The Wisdom of Your Inner Child: How unmet needs and childhood wounds shape perfectionism and people-pleasing, and why re-parenting in small, present ways leads to true healing Embodied Wisdom—Learning to Trust Your Body's Intelligence: Relearning how to trust your body’s intelligence, notice somatic cues, and practice self-acceptance through breathwork, rest, and nervous system care How to Actually Practice Radical Self-Acceptance: Shift your inner dialogue, build safety through compassion, and give yourself permission to be messy, soft, and worthy. Resources from this episode:How to Stop Feeling Like Shit Group Coaching ProgramComing Home to Yourself Private CoachingWrite Your Way Through It Group CoachingGetting Damn Good At LifeSign up to make sure you don’t miss any of my birthday episodes!Lesson 1: Self-abandonment, codependency, and self-trustLesson 2: The Four Holy Emotions: How Grief, Terror, Rage, and Shame Unlock Your PowerLesson 3: The Magic of SurrenderLesson 4: Life Purpose: Coming Home to YourselfLesson 5: What’s Important for a Long-Term RelationshipLesson 6: Healing My Relationship with Love: From Heartbreak and Fear to Acceptance and Trust Lesson 7: The Three Things We’re All Searching For - Freedom, Feeling Alive, and WholenessLesson 8: Leaving People Behind to Find YourselfEpisode 557: Reparenting and inner child work with Cybele BotranBook recommendations:I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/Episode link:http://andreaowen.com/670 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever gotten to that place in your life where you're carrying so much…plates are spinning in the air and at the same time, somehow you seem to be juggling all of them.And then, one of them falls. Maybe you get an annoying email, maybe you have a minor inconvenience, or maybe someone cuts you off in traffic. Whatever it is, big or small, it's the quintessential “straw that breaks the camel's back”.Then you fall apart. Perhaps a mental and emotional meltdown ensues. I found myself there last night, and wanted to jump on the podcast to record a short minisode to tell you if you're there, or it's recently happened, or even if you've ever been there in the past, I see you.Being in that place reminded me of the quote, “Don't give up 5 minutes before the miracle happens”. It's not easy to do life, especially right now. There's so much stress and pressure upon us as humans, as women. Listen to this short episode as I talk more about this, and offer a couple of small strategies to help you walk through this type of fire when it happens. I see you, I understand you, and I love you. xoxo,AndreaResources from this episode: How to Stop Feeling Like Shit Group Coaching ProgramComing Home to Yourself Private CoachingSign up to make sure you don’t miss any of my birthday episodes!Lesson 2: The Four Holy Emotions: How Grief, Terror, Rage, and Shame Unlock Your PowerBook recommendations:I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/Episode link:http://andreaowen.com/669 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Leaving people behind can be painful, but it’s often necessary when you’ve chosen growth, healing, and self-trust. There will be moments when you realize that not everyone will walk the path you’re on, and that’s okay. Even though it can feel like it, letting go doesn’t mean you’re too much; it simply means you’re stepping into deeper spaces that some people haven’t reached yet.Also, the depth of connection is not just about what you bring. For a long time, I thought what I brought would be enough because I could make up for what the other person lacked, but it’s also about how deeply the other person has explored their own heart and soul.Ending relationships while you're on a journey of finding yourself is one of the hardest things you'll ever do. It’s gut-wrenching, messy, and often feels like the universe is testing you. But it’s also a powerful lesson in choosing yourself, even when it feels impossible.In this episode, I’ll explore how to navigate the grief of leaving people behind, adjust to relationships, or saying goodbye with grace, all while honoring your own healing.Download the worksheet to dig deeper into this process at http://andreaowen.com/668What you’ll hear about in this episode: Understanding the Pull to Let Go of Certain Relationships: Healing and aligning with your values leads to craving depth in relationships, revealing gaps; surrendering to the truth, not the fantasy; avoiding self-abandonment, and trusting yourself to let go when hope keeps you stuck. The Grief of Actually Letting Go: The grief of holding out hope that someone will change can feel easier than the grief of accepting them as they are. Creating Boundaries, Making Adjustments, and Saying Goodbye: How to adjust relationships, set boundaries, and say goodbye with love and clarity, while honoring your healing and not self-abandoning for someone else's comfort. Resources from this episode:How to Stop Feeling Like Shit Group Coaching ProgramComing Home to Yourself Private CoachingSign up to make sure you don’t miss any of my birthday episodes!Lesson 1: Self-abandonment, codependency, and self-trustLesson 2: The Four Holy Emotions: How Grief, Terror, Rage, and Shame Unlock Your PowerLesson 3: The Magic of SurrenderLesson 4: Life Purpose: Coming Home to YourselfLesson 5: What’s Important for a Long-Term RelationshipLesson 6: Healing My Relationship with Love: From Heartbreak and Fear to Acceptance and Trust Lesson 7: The Three Things We’re All Searching For - Freedom, Feeling Alive, and WholenessBook recommendations:I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!  MSN is supported by:We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/Episode link:http://andreaowen.com/668 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices