
Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
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Jun 3, 2020 • 1h 10min
Season 10 Episode 17: Racism in Dating
With the death of George Floyd and the nation-wide protests for black lives matter this week, it's time we really pay attention to how racism plays into everyday life – including dating. We compiled a few of our past episodes about the struggles of dating as black men and women in modern times. Really listen as we talk with Yelitsa, Sofaya, and Chris about how they navigate racist comments on dating apps, the extra hardships that come with dating as a person of color, and how best to openly discuss sexual racism to help put an end to this behavior.For the full episodes:S7E7: Dating as a Black Woman: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/season-7-episode-7-dating-as-a-black-woman/id1084105171?i=1000418697968S8E13: Sexual Racism: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/season-8-episode-13-sexual-racism/id1084105171?i=1000438130527Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merchandise.A big thanks to Do the Bay for these resources to help during this time:Consider donating to the following impactful causes: Black Lives MatterMinnesota Freedom FundNationwide Bail FundAmerican Civil Liberties Union (ACLU)The Marshall Project - nonprofit criminal justice journalCenter For Racial JusticeCampaign Zero - policy solutions to end police violenceProtesting? Here’s a guide to staying safe.Not comfortable protesting? Here are other impactful ways to help. Here are some excellent resources for further education: What is Systematic Racism? - an easy-to-understand video seriesHistory of Racist US Laws and their effects throughout American historyThe Case for ReparationsThe Road Not Taken - Housing and Criminal Justice 50 Years After the Kerner Commission ReportSocial Exclusion: The Decisions and Dynamics that Drive RacismLynching in America: Confronting the Legacy of Racial TerrorHow To Stop Police Violence - excellent Twitter threadEducational Resources via Black Lives MatterCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Mint Mobile: Get 3 months unlimited premium wireless service for $15/ a month: https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 27, 2020 • 1h 10min
Season 10 Episode 16: Relationship. Are you sure you want one?
Of course you want a relationship...but do you..do you? We unpack if we really need relationships with Simone and Brendon, who created their own great relationship, only to un-create it 8-years later. We discuss why relationships are a choice, how to live a full-life whether you're in a relationship or not, and what's really important if you do choose to be with someone.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merchandise.Thank you to our partner for this episode:Best Fiends Puzzle Game: Be the HERO of the story with this 5-star rated FREE puzzle adventure. Download for free on the app store or google playBetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Mint Mobile: Get 3 months unlimited premium wireless service for $15/ a month: https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 20, 2020 • 1h 8min
Season 10 Episode 15: He said YES!
Why are we still waiting for the man to propose in 2020? Join us as we chat with Lauren about how she proposed to her now fiancé and took control of her love life. We discuss decoupling what traditions matter to you, how to continue to break down gender barriers, and the future of weddings with COVID-19Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merchandise.Thank you to our partner for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Mint Mobile: Get 3 months unlimited premium wireless service for $15/ a month: https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 13, 2020 • 1h 7min
Season 10 Episode 14: The Art of Virtual Sex
From sex parties to steamy video chats, it's getting hot in here this quarantine! Listen as we chat with Mischa Byruck about the art of phone sex and what goes down at a virtual sex party. We discuss honing in on your sensual voice, why virtual methods can be so erotic, and how to ease into virtual sex.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merchandise.Check out Mischa Byruck at https://www.evolve.men/Thank you to our partners for this episode:Best Fiends Puzzle Game: Be the HERO of the story with this 5-star rated FREE puzzle adventure. Download for free on the app store or google playGeneration Tux: Get 10% off the entire groom’s party at generationtux.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Mint Mobile: Get 3 months unlimited premium wireless service for $15/ a month: https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

May 6, 2020 • 59min
Season 10 Episode 13: Zumping
You guessed it: there’s a new quarantine dating term. Listen in as we talk to Julia, who put zumping on the map through her viral tweet after being dumped via zoom. We discuss how zumping is way better than being ghosted, if this trend could continue post-quarantine, and why the term sounds so negative despite being a respectful option right now.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merchandise.Thank you to our partner for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Mint Mobile: Get 3 months unlimited premium wireless service for $15/ a month: https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 29, 2020 • 1h 4min
Season 10 Episode 12: Love is not enough w/ Mark Manson
Love is all you need...or is it? This week we talk to best-selling author and blogger Mark Manson about why love is not enough to make relationships work. We discuss the reasons we settle for less than situations, why it's time to ditch the fantasy, and how we can take more ownership over our love lives. Warning: F-bombs are gonna be dropped!Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merchandise.Follow Mark @markmanson and get his new Audible original 'Love is not Enough' . Learn more at https://markmanson.net/Best Fiends Puzzle Game: Be the HERO of the story with this 5-star rated FREE puzzle adventure. Download for free on the app store or google playCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Mint Mobile: Get 3 months unlimited premium wireless service for $15/ a month: https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 22, 2020 • 55min
Season 10 Episode 11: U up? Let's DFH w/ Jordana Abraham
Despite all that’s been going on, dating app usage continues to soar...and we got to chat with Jordana Abraham, the founder of Betches and the dating app Ship, about the future of online dating. We discuss how dating apps can start to mimic IRL, how DFH is the new DTF, and ideas about the next big dating tech craze.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merchandise.Thank you to our partners for this episode:Empower: Download this mobile banking app and get $5 at empower.me/dateable with the code DATEABLEBetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Mint Mobile: Get 3 months unlimited premium wireless service for $15/ a month: https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 15, 2020 • 1h 17min
Season 10 Episode 10: Love is Blind Part 2
So is love blind? Find out which one of the ladies Ryan asked on a date and how their date went down amidst COVID-19. We discuss their perspectives of each other once looks are revealed, if their virtual impressions matched reality, and if a connection was formed throughout this experiment.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merchandise.Thank you to our partners for this episode:Empower: Download this mobile banking app and get $5 at empower.me/dateable with the code DATEABLEBest Fiends Puzzle Game: Be the HERO of the story with this 5-star rated FREE puzzle adventure. Download for free on the app store or google playCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Mint Mobile: Get 3 months unlimited premium wireless service for $15/ a month: https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 8, 2020 • 55min
Season 10 Episode 9: Love is Blind Part 1
We were so obsessed with Love is Blind that we recreated our own rendition! Follow along as we hear the impressions Ryan has of Rachel, Lacy & Taylor and their feelings towards him after communicating through their own version of the pods. We’ll discuss assumptions made sight unseen, how active listening changes everything, and if love can really be blind.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merchandise.Thank you to our partners for this episode:Empower: Download this mobile banking app and get $5 at empower.me/dateable with the code DATEABLEBetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Mint Mobile: Get 3 months unlimited premium wireless service for $15/ a month: https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Apr 1, 2020 • 1h 6min
Season 10 Episode 8: Quarantined from Fuckboys w/ Shallon Lester
It’s a pandemic...but luckily we got Shallon Lester to tell it like it is about how to not murder your partner during quarantine and how to use this time to self-isolate from fuckboys. We discuss the difference between fuckboys and clueless men, changing your dating patterns to find someone that treats you right, and using this time to focus on the #1 person in your life – you.Check out Shallon's Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester and her podcast 'Girl on Top': https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/girl-on-top-shallonxo/id1463991214Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merchandise.Thank you to our partners for this episode:Empower: Download this mobile banking app and get $5 at empower.me/dateable with the code DATEABLEGeneration Tux: Get 10% off the entire groom’s party at generationtux.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Mint Mobile: Get 3 months unlimited premium wireless service for $15/ a month: https://mintmobile.com/DATEABLE* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy