

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
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Feb 10, 2021 • 1h 17min
S12E1: Socially Distant Yet Emotionally Available w/ Connor Beaton
We're back and about to break down exactly what it means to be emotionally available with men's coach and founder of ManTalks, Connor Beaton. We discuss how emotional availability shows up differently for men and women, indicators to see if your partner (and yourself!) are emotionally open, and why we need to stop being afraid to scare off the wrong f*cking people.Follow Connor Beaton at @mantalks and check out his podcast 'Man Talks' on all your favorite podcast players. To learn more about Connor visit https://connorbeaton.com/.This episode is brought to you byBetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEKensington’s newest title from THE DUKE HEIST by Erica Ridley. You can find THE DUKE HEIST wherever books are sold or visit ericaridley.com.Gobble: Get 6 meals for $36 plus free shipping visit gobble.com/dateableCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Feb 3, 2021 • 1h 18min
BONUS: Are you Dateable? w/ Nikki Novo from The Final Swipe
From body language on video calls to dodging f*ckboys during COVID, these are the things we need to think about right now. We're talking in this week's bonus episode about navigating through it all as we air an interview we did with Nikki Novo on the Final Swipe. We discuss how to balance horniness with staying safe, all the cultural shifts happening during this time, and keys to staying #dateable through it all.Follow Nikki at @nikkinovo, check out her book and podcast 'The Final Swipe: Heal your heart, find your person, and end the dating search for good' on all podcast players (for the podcast) and on Amazon (for the book): https://amzn.to/32TXfaZThis episode is brought to you by Kensington’s newest title from Marina Adair, HOPELESS ROMANTIC. You can find HOPELESS ROMANTIC wherever books are sold. Find out more at kensingtonbooks.comCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jan 27, 2021 • 47min
BONUS: What you know bout love
From Kamala & Doug's #relationshipgoals to Yue turning 40, there's so much to unpack as we also dive into the top 6 episodes that changed the way we view love and relationships. We'll discuss having trust in your timing, the balance of knowing yourself vs. relating to others, and how this all relates to relationships during the pandemic.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Thrive Cosmetics: Get 15% off your first purchase athttps://thrivecausemetics.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEBetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEGobble: Get 6 meals for $36 plus free shipping visit gobble.com/dateableCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jan 20, 2021 • 32min
BONUS: The Worst Dating Advice...from Dating Coaches
We're saying RIP to some of the worst dating advice we've heard from dating coaches. In this week's bonus episode, we'll discuss why certain dating advice should not be taken if you want to be in a healthy relationship, how certain advice is so outdated despite being given today, and how freaking good it feels to say f*ck the rules!Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Kensington Books: Check out the latest title by Kate Pearce The Rancher Meets His Match. Available on Kensingtonbooks.com or wherever books are sold.Thrive Cosmetics: Get 15% off your first purchase athttps://thrivecausemetics.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEGobble: Get 6 meals for $36 plus free shipping visit gobble.com/dateableCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jan 13, 2021 • 45min
BONUS: Our 2021 Dating Predictions
So dating in 2020 was a bit different than we expected yet ironically some of our predictions did come true! What's in store for 2021? On this week's bonus episode, we are giving our dating predictions based on what we know in today's world. We'll discuss the changing landscape due to COVID-19 still, how we can build off of some of the things that actually worked, and why these trends can actually improve our love lives during this crazy time. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Thrive Cosmetics: Get 15% off your first purchase athttps://thrivecausemetics.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEBetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEMagic Spoon: Grab a variety pack of Magic Spoon healthy high protein, low carb cereal at magicspoon.com/DATEABLE and try it today! Use the code DATEABLE at checkout to get free shipping.Gobble: Get 6 meals for $36 plus free shipping visit gobble.com/dateableCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Jan 6, 2021 • 32min
BONUS: Setting your 2021 Intentions (for love)
F*ck our 2020 visions, it's time to set some 2021 intentions! We are officially in the offseason and diving into what you all shared about how you'd be changing your love life in 2021 and the intentions you're setting to get there. We'll discuss why intentions can set you up for success, the types of intentions we set, and how to stay hopeful for 2021.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Thrive Cosmetics: Get 15% off your first purchase athttps://thrivecausemetics.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEKensington Books: Get lost in a good book! Check out Fairy Godmothers, Inc by Saranna DeWylde. Filled with quirky charm, sexy romance, witty banter and refreshing, unique characters, the first installment of this series is the perfect Rom-Com with a touch of magic. Get your copy today at Kensingtonbooks.com or wherever books are sold.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 30, 2020 • 1h 40min
S11E20: Can you have it all? w/ May Lee
What happens when you prioritize your career over relationships and starting a family? Will you regret it later....or not? We're chatting with news anchor May Lee about the choices she's made over the last 25 years when it came to balancing her career with relationships. We discuss the tradeoffs that inevitably happen, the different gender dynamics at play with successful women, and how you can be happy no matter what path you end up taking.Check out @mayleeshow and the May Lee Show on YouTube and wherever you listen to your favorite podcast!Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEThrive Cosmetics: Get 15% off your first purchase athttps://thrivecausemetics.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEMagic Spoon: Grab a variety pack of Magic Spoon healthy high protein, low carb cereal at magicspoon.com/DATEABLE and try it today! Use the code DATEABLE at checkout to get free shipping.END OF YEAR MERCH SALE! New year, new merch. Get 21% off through 1/1 using the code SHOP21: http://dateablepodcast.com.com/shopCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 23, 2020 • 1h 14min
S11E19: Why can't we just be honest? w/ Jared Freid
Let's get honest for a minute as we chat with comedian Jared Freid about the root of "bad dating behavior" and why it can be so damn hard to be honest. We discuss how it can almost be "ungentlemanlike" to be totally upfront, why ambiguity leads to situationships, and what's really going on in man's brain while on the relationship train.Follow Jared @jaredfreid and check out his podcasts U Up? and JTrain. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEThrive Cosmetics: Get 15% off your first purchase at https://thrivecausemetics.com/dateable with the code DATEABLENEW MERCH! We just dropped our line of merch with masks, cute tanks & tees, comfy sweatshirts, mugs, stickers, and much more! Check it out today: http://dateablepodcast.com.com/shopCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 16, 2020 • 1h 47min
S11E18: How you're wired (for relationships)
If you're into attachment theory & personality types, prepare to have your mind blown as we chat with Dr. Avigail Lev, PsyD about how our thought patterns and beliefs (aka our schemas) shape everything from how we show up for relationships to which partners we choose. We discuss how early childhood shapes how we show up in relationships today, the love traps we tend to fall into due to our beliefs, and how you can change your behavior to have the love life you've always wanted.Learn more about Dr. Avigail Lev and her services at CBT Online and Bay Area CBT. Take the relationship schema quiz to find out your own: https://bayareacbtcenter.com/relationship-schema-quizFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEThrive Cosmetics: Get 15% off your first purchase athttps://thrivecausemetics.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEMagic Spoon: Grab a variety pack of Magic Spoon healthy high protein, low carb cereal at magicspoon.com/DATEABLE and try it today! Use the code DATEABLE at checkout to get free shipping.NEW MERCH! We just dropped our line of merch with masks, cute tanks & tees, comfy sweatshirts, mugs, stickers, and much more! Check it out today: http://dateablepodcast.com.com/shopCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 9, 2020 • 1h 26min
S11E17: Dating with Depression
Whether you've experienced depression yourself or loved someone in the thick of it, it can be difficult to navigate relationships – if you let it. We're chatting with Tony about how he's been managing his own depression and how it's played into his dating life. We discuss the stigma still associated with depression especially for men, how you can support yourself and others when mental health challenges arise, and why this doesn't have to hold you back from finding a loving partner.Disclaimer: We are not medical professionals and this episode reflects our own experiences. We recommend reaching out to a therapist beyond this episode if needed. If you are experiencing suicidal thoughts or have a friend who is, to reach a 24-hour crisis center call 1-800-273-TALK, text MHA to 741741, or call 911. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEThrive Cosmetics: Get 15% off your first purchase athttps://thrivecausemetics.com/dateable with the code DATEABLENEW MERCH! We just dropped our line of merch with masks, cute tanks & tees, comfy sweatshirts, mugs, stickers, and much more! Check it out today: http://dateablepodcast.com.com/shopCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/
A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy