
Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
Latest episodes

Oct 14, 2020 • 1h 22min
S11E9: Addicted to Love
You've probably heard of many forms of addiction: drugs, gambling, sex – but what about relationship addiction? We're unpacking what it means to be addicted to love with Celebrity Rehab go-to expert Sherry Gaba and how she overcame her own relationship addiction. We discuss the signs of being a relationship junkie vs wanting to find love, how this addiction can take on unhealthy obsession, and how to find your own confidence – relationship or not.Follow Sherry at @codependencycurious and check out her new book, Love Smacked available today! Also, check out Sherry's Wake Up Recovery communityFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merch.Thank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 7, 2020 • 1h 14min
S11E8: Puppy Play
This may be doggy style with a mask...but not the way you're imagining. Join us as we get a glimpse into the world of puppy play as our guest Chris tells us all about the fetish. We discuss the sexual and non-sexual side of being treated like a dog, how puppy play can be a good intro to kink, and why you shouldn't yuck someone else's yum. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merch.Thank you to our partners for this episode:Function of Beauty: Save 20% on your first order at functionofbeauty.com/dateableCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 30, 2020 • 1h 30min
S11E7: Hacks to Looking your Best
Let's be honest: looks matter when it comes to dating. Whether it's on a dating app or the first time you meet IRL, we're chatting with makeover expert Kimmy Seltzer about the small tweaks you can make today to show up as your best self. We discuss how both women AND men can dress for your body shape/height, the photos that need to be added (and eliminated) from your dating profile, and why these small changes can help build confidence from the outside, in.Follow Kimmy at @kimmyseltzer and listen to the Charisma Quotient on Apple Podcasts or your other favorite podcast playersFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merch.Thank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE.This episode is brought to you by Kensington’s newest title from Kerrelyn Sparks, THE SIREN AND THE DEEP BLUE SEA. You can find THE SIREN AND THE DEEP BLUE SEA wherever books are sold. Find out more at kensingtonbooks.comCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 23, 2020 • 1h 23min
S11E6: Interracial Love in 2020
Love may know no color but it doesn't mean there's not a lot to consider, especially in our current climate. We're chatting with Kofo & Theo about how race has played into their relationship and how the BLM movement has propelled it even further. We discuss why having tough conversations are a necessity, how to support your partner and fight this fight together, and what it means to bring a black baby into this world in today’s day.Follow @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merchandise.Thank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 16, 2020 • 1h 30min
S11E5: Sexless in the City
Let’s talk sex, no sex, our relationship with sex, and more as we're chatting with Kat Harris about her conscious decision to abstain from sex until marriage – especially while living in a city like NYC. We discuss the difference between sex and intimacy, whether or not vibrators count in popping your cherry. and standing by your beliefs when dating.Follow Kat @therefinedwoman. Listen to The Refined Collective on all podcast platforms. Follow @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merchandise.Thank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE.Shapermint: Get an extra 10% off on your order at shapermint.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 9, 2020 • 1h 12min
S11E4: The Boyfriend Manual
Nope, this isn't like an instruction manual from IKEA but we're chatting with Vasanth about all the little things that help you become a better partner. We discuss different types of small gestures that have a huge ROI, how to adjust your moves based on your partner's love language, and why women can (and should) also be doing these little things for their partner.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merchandise.Thank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE.Everyplate: Get 3 weeks of EveryPlate meals for only $2.99 per meal by going to EveryPlate.com and entering code DATEABLE3.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sep 2, 2020 • 1h 30min
S11E3: 51 First Dates
When nothing seems to be going right in your dating life, the only logical step is to go on 51 first dates and document it all through a podcast, right? We're chatting with Kimmy & Liza about how this experiment helped uncover and break their bad dating patterns for good. We discuss why CGS (cool girl syndrome) is the demise of dating, how to break free of fuckboys, and why it's so important to ask what you want for in relationships. Follow Kimmy & Liza @51firstdatespod. Listen to 51 First Dates on all podcast platforms. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merchandise.Thank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aug 26, 2020 • 1h 13min
S11E2: Love in the Time of TikTok
And it goes like...download TikTok, make a video that goes viral, meet a cute girl, fly across the country, and define the relationship on your road trip back home. Is this a movie or love in 2020? We're chatting with Josiah & Natalie about their turbo relationship that started virtually and has resulted in them being together as a full-fledged couple. We discuss how virtual dates can be romantic, why right now is the best time to take a risk when it comes to relationships, and how to open yourself up to possibilities of finding love in unexpected places. Follow Josiah & Natalie @itsjosiahmiller @natalieotono. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merchandise.Thank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE.Best Fiends Puzzle Game: Be the HERO of the story with this 5-star rated FREE puzzle adventure. Download for free on the app store or google playCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aug 19, 2020 • 1h 19min
S11 E1: Trust in your timing
Are you where you thought you'd be at 30? 40? 50? Especially when it comes to finding love, we're diving in with Christina Bradley, the author of 'Which way to Happiness?', to discuss why there's so much pressure to finding 'The One' by a certain age. We discuss why certain milestone years are such triggers, how you can start living on your own timelines, and how to create your own happiness no matter where you are in life.Check out Christina's book 'Which way to Happiness?' (formerly 30): https://amzn.to/3aFuFMVFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merchandise.Thank you to our partner for this episode:Download the Likee app today on your app store today to join the video creation fun and potentially go viral overnight! Just search L-I-K-E-E on your app store.Webflow: build an amazing flexible website that's code free so you don't need a developer! Use our affiliate code:https://webflow.com/?rfsn=4547774.45fe66&utm_medium=affiliateCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aug 12, 2020 • 1h 20min
BONUS: How to Rethink Relationships Post-Quarantine w/ Liza & Kimmy from 51 First Dates
From traveling (virtually) via Hinge to being #teamchrishell, we're wrapping up the dating app experiment and chatting with Kimmy & Liza on 51 First Dates about the shift in dating mindset that might occur after 2020., We'll discuss taking those socially distanced dates up a notch, the dangers of false intimacy, and how COVID has ruined f*ckboys hopefully forever. Also, 1 more week until we're back with Season 11!!Follow Kimmy & Liza @51firstdatespod. Listen to 51 First Dates on all podcast platforms. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merchandise.Thank you to our partner for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE.This episode is brought to you by Kensington’s newest title from Kate Pearce, THE REBELLIOUS RANCHER. You can find THE REBELLIOUS RANCHER wherever books are sold. Find out more at kensingtonbooks.comCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy