
Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
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Dec 16, 2020 • 1h 47min
S11E18: How you're wired (for relationships)
If you're into attachment theory & personality types, prepare to have your mind blown as we chat with Dr. Avigail Lev, PsyD about how our thought patterns and beliefs (aka our schemas) shape everything from how we show up for relationships to which partners we choose. We discuss how early childhood shapes how we show up in relationships today, the love traps we tend to fall into due to our beliefs, and how you can change your behavior to have the love life you've always wanted.Learn more about Dr. Avigail Lev and her services at CBT Online and Bay Area CBT. Take the relationship schema quiz to find out your own: https://bayareacbtcenter.com/relationship-schema-quizFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEThrive Cosmetics: Get 15% off your first purchase athttps://thrivecausemetics.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEMagic Spoon: Grab a variety pack of Magic Spoon healthy high protein, low carb cereal at magicspoon.com/DATEABLE and try it today! Use the code DATEABLE at checkout to get free shipping.NEW MERCH! We just dropped our line of merch with masks, cute tanks & tees, comfy sweatshirts, mugs, stickers, and much more! Check it out today: http://dateablepodcast.com.com/shopCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 9, 2020 • 1h 26min
S11E17: Dating with Depression
Whether you've experienced depression yourself or loved someone in the thick of it, it can be difficult to navigate relationships – if you let it. We're chatting with Tony about how he's been managing his own depression and how it's played into his dating life. We discuss the stigma still associated with depression especially for men, how you can support yourself and others when mental health challenges arise, and why this doesn't have to hold you back from finding a loving partner.Disclaimer: We are not medical professionals and this episode reflects our own experiences. We recommend reaching out to a therapist beyond this episode if needed. If you are experiencing suicidal thoughts or have a friend who is, to reach a 24-hour crisis center call 1-800-273-TALK, text MHA to 741741, or call 911. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEThrive Cosmetics: Get 15% off your first purchase athttps://thrivecausemetics.com/dateable with the code DATEABLENEW MERCH! We just dropped our line of merch with masks, cute tanks & tees, comfy sweatshirts, mugs, stickers, and much more! Check it out today: http://dateablepodcast.com.com/shopCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dec 2, 2020 • 1h 25min
S11E16: Body Image & Dating
How much does body image play into our romantic relationships or lack thereof? Spoiler alert: quite a bit. Join us as we talk with Erin about some of her past experiences and how she held onto the idea that her relationships (or almost relationships) didn't work out due to not being thin enough. We discuss how body image impacts us all regardless of our shape, size, or gender, how to re-write your own narrative of what makes you attractive, and why we need to be a bit kinder to each other through it all. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Function of Beauty: Save 20% on your first order at functionofbeauty.com/dateableNEW MERCH! We just dropped our line of merch with masks, cute tanks & tees, comfy sweatshirts, mugs, stickers, and much more! Check it out today: http://dateablepodcast.com.com/shopCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nov 25, 2020 • 1h 19min
S11E15: Is 'too fast' a bad thing?
In a COVID-19 word, relationships are moving at turbo-speed...but is this a good thing? Join us as we talk with Ketan about dating during the pandemic and his virtual romance that resulted in him flying across the country to meet IRL. We discuss the 'fail fast' mentality and if this is good for relationships, how the loneliness of the pandemic has changed our behaviors, and why turborelationships can be a fantastic thing even if they don't work out. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLENEW MERCH! We just dropped our line of merch with masks, cute tanks & tees, comfy sweatshirts, mugs, stickers, and much more! Check it out today: http://dateablepodcast.com.com/shopCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nov 18, 2020 • 1h 35min
S11E14: What's holding you back? w/ Nikki Novo
What if you knew you were on the right path when it came to finding true love? Join us as we chat with medium and author Nikki Novo about the biggest things that are holding us all back from having the love life we've always wanted – whether you're single or in a relationship. We discuss releasing the anxiety and fear of the future, how to get out of our own way, and why intuition can be our #1 tool to navigating our love lives.Follow Nikki at @nikkinovo, check out her book and podcast 'The Final Swipe: Heal your heart, find your person, and end the dating search for good' on all podcast players (for the podcast) and on Amazon (for the book): https://amzn.to/32TXfaZFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Bitcast: Clip, collect, and share the best ideas on podcasts with the new social podcasting app. Available now to download on the app store: https://apps.apple.com/app/id1489982155NEW MERCH! We just dropped our line of merch with masks, cute tanks & tees, comfy sweatshirts, mugs, stickers, and much more! Check it out today: http://dateablepodcast.com.com/shopCover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nov 11, 2020 • 1h 30min
S11E13: New Mindset, Who Dis? w/Case Kenny
Like it or not, there's always gonna be curveballs when it comes to dating and relationships. The good news: you can fully control how you handle all the hurdles that come your way. We're joined by the mindset master, Case Kenny, who will help us reframe three of the most common setbacks in our love life. We discuss why being single can be your superpower, techniques to not take things so personally, and how to find your 'why' when it comes to dating and relationships.Follow Case at @case.kenny, check out his podcast 'New Mindset, Who Dis?' on all the podcast players, and get his mindset journals at https://newmindsetwhodis.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Nov 4, 2020 • 1h 23min
S11E12: Sex, Lies, and Videotape
No, this isn't a political scandal but a real-life story of lying, blackmail, and being caught red-handed on video. We're chatting with Layla about how this eroded her trust in her relationships and how she's learning from the experiences. We discuss what constitutes as cheating, why we stay in bad situations, and how to make changes when there seem to be unhealthy patterns in your relationships. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Function of Beauty: Save 20% on your first order at functionofbeauty.com/dateableShapermint: Get an extra 10% off on your order at shapermint.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 28, 2020 • 1h 36min
S11E11: Politics Aside: A Blind Date Experiment
Can you date someone with opposing political views? We set up Tom and Kiki to check-in through various points of their virtual blind date about how they're feeling from when politics are off the table to when they're open to debate. We discuss when politics should come into the discussion on a first date, how they play into our values for a long-term relationship, and how we can start to break through this divide a bit more...romantic or not.NOTE: for anyone triggered by this topic, our guests are not extremists in any way....just two people who see the world a bit differently. Without giving away too much, they were able to have an open discussion in a peaceful way. We learned a lot and hope you can too.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 21, 2020 • 51min
S11E10: It's all about the Journey
Your journey...your journey to L-O-V-E. Whether it's with a partner or your own self love, we're doing a mid-season solo (duet?) where we talk about our own journeys in finding love and how we've changed the most over the last 5 years since starting the podcast. We discuss how it's all an evolution, how to learn from our dating mishaps / past relationships, and why having trust in your own timing is so important.Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merch.We had a BIG announcement last week where we unveiled our new creation, 'The Sounding Board' where we are bringing all the wisdom and guidance of the podcast in a much more intimate and real-time way. To learn more, visit https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboardThank you to our partners for this episode:Shapermint: Get an extra 10% off on your order at shapermint.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE.Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Oct 14, 2020 • 1h 22min
S11E9: Addicted to Love
You've probably heard of many forms of addiction: drugs, gambling, sex – but what about relationship addiction? We're unpacking what it means to be addicted to love with Celebrity Rehab go-to expert Sherry Gaba and how she overcame her own relationship addiction. We discuss the signs of being a relationship junkie vs wanting to find love, how this addiction can take on unhealthy obsession, and how to find your own confidence – relationship or not.Follow Sherry at @codependencycurious and check out her new book, Love Smacked available today! Also, check out Sherry's Wake Up Recovery communityFollow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, live show dates, and merch.Thank you to our partners for this episode:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLECover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphotoDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Blueland: Get 15% off your first order at https://blueland.com/dateable* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy