Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
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Nov 19, 2023 • 16min
#brunchtalk: How To Deal With Your Family Asking About Your Love Life Over the Holidays
Tis the season....for the grilling of what's going on in your love life. From questions about why you're still single to when we'll ever get grandchildren, the holidays can be a stressful time. But have no fear! In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing how to navigate these conversations in a way that puts you in control, why we need to remember our family members are probably coming from a good place with these questions anyway, and ways you can use these conversations to bring you closer instead of ruining the holiday. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift at uncommongoods.com/dateableBearaby: Get your hand-nit weighted blankets @mybearaby or bearaby.comHoneyLove: Treat yourself to the best shapewear on the market and save 20% Off at honeylove.com with the code DATEABLEDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Nov 15, 2023 • 59min
S17E12: When You're Ready And They're Not w/ Dr. Alexandra Solomon
This week, Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a licensed clinical psychologist and author, dives into the complexities of navigating differing paces in relationships. She shares insights on how to communicate needs without ultimatums and why understanding emotional readiness is crucial. Dr. Solomon highlights the importance of empathy and accountability, offering tactics for both faster and slower-paced partners. Learn how to foster connection during challenging discussions and view relationship discrepancies as opportunities for growth.
Nov 12, 2023 • 13min
#brunchtalk: What Should You Do When Your Partner Prioritizes Their Family Over You?
From spending time with their children or even their parents, what do you do when you feel like you come second to your partner’s family? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing how to balance your relationship with other relationships in your life, ways to get to the bottom of the actual feelings you may be experiencing, and why it’s important to broach this topic in a way that doesn’t compete for each other’s time. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift at uncommongoods.com/dateableModern Fertility: Get $20 off your fertility test when you go to modernfertility.com/dateable.Bearaby: Get your hand-nit weighted blankets @mybearaby or bearaby.comDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Nov 8, 2023 • 1h 9min
S17E11: The Reason They May Not Be Making Moves
Maybe you've experienced that great date only to be confused when it didn't result in a kiss goodnight – or anything more. Are they just not that into you....or could it be something else? We’re discussing the different ways we all experience desire as we chat with Mike about being a hetero man who leans more on the submissive spectrum. We discuss the differences between responsive and spontaneous desire, how gender roles perpetuate stereotypes, and why we need to better understand our partners instead of making assumptions. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:NOCD: We're partnering with NOCD to raise awareness of relationship OCD. To book a free 15-minute call, go to nocd.com/dateableUncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift at uncommongoods.com/dateableDrizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Modern Fertility: Get $20 off your fertility test when you go to modernfertility.com/dateable.Bearaby: Get your hand-nit weighted blankets @mybearaby or bearaby.comDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Nov 5, 2023 • 14min
#brunchtalk: Why do exes leave breadcrumbs and stay in your life?
From the IG story view to continuing to profess their love, why don't exes just go away once the relationship is over? In this week's brunch talk, we’re discussing what to do when you have a lingering ex and what this may mean. We discuss the different ways you can respond, why it's important to clarify intentions before making any assumptions, and how to not let your ex derail you from having the love life you actually want.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift at uncommongoods.com/dateableDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Nov 1, 2023 • 58min
S17E10: Pretty Much Done w/ Julia Mazur
Guest Julia Mazur discusses her mentality change after hitting a milestone birthday, breaking up with her boyfriend, and getting bullied on the internet for being single. They talk about embracing singlehood, finding happiness on your own, embracing loneliness, dealing with online criticism and cyber bullying, belief in fate and positive connections, navigating between single life and long-term relationships, and the challenges of dating apps and mental health priorities.
Oct 29, 2023 • 14min
#brunchtalk: Should I Continue To Date Someone With Mental Health Struggles?
What happens when the person you're dating is going through mental health struggles that make it difficult to date? In this week's brunch talk, we’re discussing when it's time to walk away from this type of relationship, how to feel secure in the decision you make, and ways to avoid the trap of the on-again-off-again relationship. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Mochi Melt: Get 15% off beautifully designed lube at mochimelt.com with the code DATEABLE.Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Oct 25, 2023 • 50min
S17E9: The Benefits of Situationships
Yup, you heard us right. We often talk about how situationships wreak havoc to your love life...but today we're back with a solo episode looking at how situationships may actually help you. We’re discussing what relational skills you can learn even in a situationship, how to use them to understand what you need in a partner (or what you'll never stand for again), and why even the worst situationship can help open your heart for something bigger and better.Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Mochi Melt: Get 15% off beautifully designed lube at mochimelt.com with the code DATEABLE.BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Oct 22, 2023 • 16min
#brunchtalk: Is it a Bad Idea to Date Someone Who is Going Through a Divorce?
So you met someone amazing except they aren't fully separated yet...in fact, maybe they're still living with their ex! Is this a total dealbreaker? In this week's brunch talk, we’re discussing the importance of breaking away from the past before starting something new, ways to set boundaries that don't keep you waiting around, and how to see if someone is ready or not to start something new.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Oct 18, 2023 • 1h 3min
S17E8: Why People Cheat w/ Dr. Nicolle Zapien
Once a cheater, always a cheater? We’re finding out as we break down the psychology of infidelity with Dr. Nicolle Zapien about the psychology of cheating and why people cheat in the first place. We’re discussing the main reasons for infidelity, why certain people may be more prone to cheating than others, and how to determine if reconciliation is in the cards (or not).Learn more about Dr. Zapien: https://nicollegottfriedzapien.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchickh and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:HoneyLove: Treat yourself to the best shapewear on the market and save 20% Off at honeylove.com with the code DATEABLEMochi Melt: Get 15% off beautifully designed lube at mochimelt.com with the code DATEABLE. Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy


