Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we'll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you've always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you're looking for a podcast that's relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private 'Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our website for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!: https://www.findingyourperson.com/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts
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Dec 24, 2023 • 16min
#brunchtalk: Should You Go No Contact With Your Ex?
If you got your heart crushed – or even if the breakup was amicable – does it make sense to stay in touch with your ex? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing the No Contact Rule and how it can help you move forward. We discuss how no contact doesn't have to be forever, ways to set boundaries so you're putting yourself first, and what to do instead when you inevitably want to reach out to them.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:Factor: Get 50% America's #1 Meal Delivery Service at https://factormeals.com/dateable50 or use the code DATEABLE50Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Dec 20, 2023 • 1h 8min
S17E17: Lessons In Love (From A Former Serial Dater) w/ Matteson Perry
Fast-forward 15 years: what does your love life look like now? We're chatting with former guest Matteson Perry, author of a memoir chronicling his single life, about what he wishes he knew now – fifteen years later as a devoted husband and father. We discuss why you must go through all the heartbreak of dating, the unexpected qualities to look for in a partner, and how to avoid the biggest mistake that prevents you from finding your true love.Check out Matteson Perry https://www.mattesonperry.com/ and his book 'Available: A Memoir of Heartbreak, Hookups, Love, and Brunch' and listen to the first episode we did with Matteson here: https://www.dateablepodcast.com/episode/s2e15-love-sex-and-burning-man-with-matteson-perryFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:Factor: Get 50% America's #1 Meal Delivery Service at https://factormeals.com/dateable50 or use the code DATEABLE50Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Dec 17, 2023 • 16min
#brunchtalk: What Constitutes As Cheating?
From strip clubs to liking sexy Instagram photos, what's the line of cheating in this day and age? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing the grey area of behaviors that make you feel uncomfortable that may not be as black and white as a physical affair. We discuss forms of microcheating, ways to navigate prior single behaviors, and how to talk to your partner about anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:Factor: Get 50% America's #1 Meal Delivery Service at https://factormeals.com/dateable50 or use the code DATEABLE50Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Dec 13, 2023 • 1h 14min
S17E16: A Second Shot At Love w/ Heather & Laura from Thirsty
We think our chances of love are over after that divorce or heart-wrenching breakup, but it's just the beginning. We're chatting with Laura & Heather to hear how their love stories continue only to get better – and how their views on dating, relationships, and marriage have changed drastically from all they've learned. We discuss the problems of being so tied to the relationship escalator, why your checklist doesn't matter, and how you can create a different – but better – kind of love this second time around. Follow Heather & Laura on Instagram @thirstythepodcast and check out their podcast 'Thirsty: The Podcast' wherever you get your podcasts.Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:Factor: Get 50% America's #1 Meal Delivery Service at https://factormeals.com/dateable50 or use the code DATEABLE50Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Dec 10, 2023 • 19min
#brunchtalk: How Do You Manage A New Relationship?
How much time do you spend together? When should you meet each other's friends and families? How do you still make time for your friends? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing how to manage a new relationship – without loosing yourself in the process. We discuss how to understand both of your needs in a relationship, ways to make it a collaborative process to determine what works best for the two of you, and how to carve out your own time to bring your best selves to the relationship. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:Factor: Get 50% America's #1 Meal Delivery Service at https://factormeals.com/dateable50 or use the code DATEABLE50Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.HoneyLove: Treat yourself to the best shapewear on the market and save 20% Off at honeylove.com with the code DATEABLEDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsGot a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Dec 6, 2023 • 1h 13min
S17E15: Healing Your Intimacy Wounds w/ Andre Lazarus
We're getting intimate, y'all with Intimacy Coach Andre Lazarus as we talk about how past sexual experiences – or inexperiences – may be holding you back from having the sex life you've always wanted. We discuss how to take back control of anything that's caused you shame, ways to feel more confident about your sexual desires, and why it's entirely possible to live a more connected life with deeper intimacy.Trigger Alert: We touch briefly on sexual traumas including rape, assault, and more.Follow Andre on Instagram @comingcloserwithandre and check out his work: https://coming-closer.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:HoneyLove: Treat yourself to the best shapewear on the market and save 20% Off at honeylove.com with the code DATEABLEFactor: Get 50% America's #1 Meal Delivery Service at https://factormeals.com/dateable50 or use the code DATEABLE50BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEDrizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Dec 3, 2023 • 17min
#brunchtalk: Is It A Date Or A Vibe Check?
Dating can be hard (and expensive!) when you're dating multiple people at once, never sure if that first date will amount to anything more. In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing balancing all the planning aspects of modern dating with putting your best foot forward for each new person you meet. We discuss the differences between first dates and meet and greets, how to do a "vibe check" without killing the vibe, and ways to plan more intentional lower-budget first dates that still wow. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comOur FINDING YOUR PERSON program is open for a limited time from 11/24-12/3 at findingyourperson.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:Factor: Get 50% America's #1 Meal Delivery Service at https://factormeals.com/dateable50 or use the code DATEABLE50Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Nov 29, 2023 • 1h 7min
S17E14: Is There Any Reality In Reality TV Dating Shows? w/ Justine & Natasha From 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose
From the Bachelor to Love is Blind to Indian Matchmaking, how much is reality TV is seeping into real-life dating? We're chatting with Natasha & Justine from 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose about what reality dating shows teach us (if anything) about modern dating, love, and relationships. We discuss why we're all so intrigued by reality shows in the first place, how the pick-me mentality has been perpetrated into dating culture, and ways reality TV shows have made us buy into (or out of) the fantasy of love.Follow 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose on Instagram @2BlackGirls1Rose and check out their podcast ‘2 Black Girls, 1 Rose’ wherever you get your podcastsFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.Our FINDING YOUR PERSON program is open for a limited time from 11/24-12/3!! USE code FLUFFING for 20% off on Black Friday only at findingyourperson.comThis episode is sponsored by:NOCD: We're partnering with NOCD to raise awareness of relationship OCD. To book a free 15-minute call, go to nocd.com/dateableFactor: Get 50% America's #1 Meal Delivery Service at https://factormeals.com/dateable50 or use the code DATEABLE50Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift at uncommongoods.com/dateableDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Nov 26, 2023 • 14min
#brunchtalk: Can Your Relationship Work If Your Friends Dislike Your Partner?
Nothing is more uncomfortable than when friends don't approve of your relationship, but is it a dealbreaker? In this week’s brunch talk, we’re discussing what to do if your friends don't like your partner – or your partner's friends don't like you. We discuss when this becomes problematic versus something you can get over, how to best handle the situation to try to get closer, and ways you can move forward if the relationship with the friends is beyond repair. Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comOur FINDING YOUR PERSON program is open for a limited time from 11/24-12/3 at findingyourperson.comFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:Factor: Get 50% America's #1 Meal Delivery Service at https://factormeals.com/dateable50 or use the code DATEABLE50Drizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift at uncommongoods.com/dateableBearaby: Get your hand-nit weighted blankets @mybearaby or bearaby.comDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Nov 22, 2023 • 40min
S17E13: F*ck Cuffing Season
If you’re freaking out about finding a partner during cuffing season – stop right there. We're talking about why cuffing season is actually the WORST time to find love – and why you should try fluffing season instead. We discuss the reasons starting a relationship now doesn’t set you up for long-term success, what fluffing season is and why it’s a better use of your time, and ways you can fluff to be more strategic while everyone is scrambling. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.Our FINDING YOUR PERSON program is open for a limited time from 11/24-12/3!! USE code FLUFFING for 20% off on Black Friday only at findingyourperson.comThis episode is sponsored by:NOCD: We're partnering with NOCD to raise awareness of relationship OCD. To book a free 15-minute call, go to nocd.com/dateableFactor: Get 50% America's #1 Meal Delivery Service at https://factormeals.com/dateable50 or use the code DATEABLE50Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift at uncommongoods.com/dateableDrizly: Download the Drizly app or go to Drizly.com and use promo code FAST5 for $5 off your first order.Bearaby: Get your hand-nit weighted blankets @mybearaby or bearaby.comDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Armoire: Get up to 60% off your first month, up to $150 OFF by visiting https://armoire.style/DATEABLE* Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and bedding sale at https://AvocadoGreenMattress.com/DATEABLE * Kensington Books: Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Roehrich is on sale now: https://www.kensingtonbooks.com* Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable* Talkiatry: Get matched with an in‑network psychiatrist in just a few minutes at https://talkiatry.com/DATEABLESupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy


