Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
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Apr 7, 2024 • 15min

#brunchtalk: How Do You Have Difficult Conversations When You're Anxious And They're Avoidant?

Difficult conversations are difficult for a reason – but even more when you're hyper-communicative and your partner is well...not. We're discussing how to having challenging conversations especially when it comes to the momentum of your relationship when one person may be more avoidant and slower paced than the other. We're discussing it all from how to broach these convos without smothering the other person, ways you can advocate for yourself while still listening to your partners perspective, and why it's pivotal that you both get more vulnerable and out of this anxious-avoidant trap.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comJoin our Finding Your Person Program! https://www.findingyourperson.com/ Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:Last Bottle Wines: Get 10% off your first order with the code DATEABLE at https://www.lastbottlewines.com/Hinge: Download Hinge and try voice prompts today at https://hinge.co/Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of your clothing rental membership, up to $125 off using the code DATEABLE at https://armoire.style/refer/dateable/VIIA: Get 15% off + one free sample of their sleepy Dreams gummies. (21+) at https://viiahemp.com/ using the code DATEABLEOsea Malibu: Get 10% off their skincare from the sea at https://oseamalibu.com and use the code DATEABLEDone: Turn ADHD into your strength with mental health care made easy: https://get.donefirst.com/podcastBadlands Ranch Dog Food: Learn more about how to improve your dog's health at badlandsfood.com/dateableDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Apr 5, 2024 • 7min

Quickie w/ Julie: The Best Is Yet To Come

We're back for another “Quickie” where every other week, we’ll share a single idea, theory, or revelation – in 10 minutes or less – that you can take back to your own love life. This week, Julie is sharing a framework to look at past dates or relationships that didn't work out not as failures – but rather as building blocks that lay the foundation for your great relationship that's still yet to come. Enjoy!Join our Finding Your Person Program! https://www.findingyourperson.com/ Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:Hinge: Download Hinge and try voice prompts today: https://hinge.co/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Apr 3, 2024 • 1h 15min

S18E6: Can AI Save Dating Apps? w/ Ben Chiang

No, we're not talking about ChatGPT or tools that write your profile or texts (or even worse, create fake photos!). We're talking about how AI can actually revolutionize dating apps in the way Tinder did in 2012 (over a decade ago!) Join us as we chat with Ben, the founder of Volar dating, about how they're using AI to cut through the BS of dating apps and make them more efficient. We get it: AI is scary. Before talking to Ben, we weren't 100% onboard either. But now, all we can see are the possibilities. So if you're sick of dating apps as they are, you don't want to miss this episode!Check out Volar https://www.volardating.com/ or download it on the app store.Join our Finding Your Person Program! https://www.findingyourperson.com/ Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.Related Episodes:The 80/20 Rule of Dating Apps#brunchtalk: Can I Use ChatGPT On Dating Apps?Slaying the Dating Apps w/ Dawoon Kang of Coffee Meets BagelThis episode is sponsored by:Last Bottle Wines: Get 10% off your first order with the code DATEABLE at https://www.lastbottlewines.com/Hinge: Download Hinge and try voice prompts today at https://hinge.co/Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of your clothing rental membership, up to $125 off using the code DATEABLE at https://armoire.style/refer/dateable/VIIA: Get 15% off + one free sample of their sleepy Dreams gummies. (21+) at https://viiahemp.com/ using the code DATEABLEOsea Malibu: Get 10% off their skincare from the sea at https://oseamalibu.com and use the code DATEABLEDone: Turn ADHD into your strength with mental health care made easy: https://get.donefirst.com/podcastBadlands Ranch Dog Food: Learn more about how to improve your dog's health at badlandsfood.com/dateableDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Mar 31, 2024 • 13min

#brunchtalk: How Do You Step Into Your Feminine Energy (Or Is That Total BS)?

If you identify as a woman (or date women!), you've probably heard about why 'feminine energy' is so important to attract a mate. But it's 2024 people, and we're discussing why this is actually quite problematic even though it feels innocent enough. So buckle up as we chat about why this advice is simply outdated, how to embrace a natural style for you that still gives off an interested vibe, and ways we can all start dating in a way that doesn't feel as performative.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comJoin our Finding Your Person Program! https://www.findingyourperson.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:Last Bottle Wines: Get 10% off your first order with the code DATEABLE at https://www.lastbottlewines.com/Hinge: Download Hinge and try voice prompts today at https://hinge.co/Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of your clothing rental membership, up to $125 off using the code DATEABLE at https://armoire.style/refer/dateable/VIIA: Get 15% off + one free sample of their sleepy Dreams gummies. (21+) at https://viiahemp.com/ using the code DATEABLEOsea Malibu: Get 10% off their skincare from the sea at https://oseamalibu.com and use the code DATEABLEDone: Turn ADHD into your strength with mental health care made easy: https://get.donefirst.com/podcastBadlands Ranch Dog Food: Learn more about how to improve your dog's health at badlandsfood.com/dateableDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Mar 27, 2024 • 52min

S18E5: Dating In Your 30s

Does dating get harder after 30? We’re digging into the challenges but also why we think it's the BEST time to date. Join us as we dive into all the myths and misperceptions of dating after turning 30. We discuss the fear of running out of time, the reasons this age is actually working in your favor, and why it's not only possible – but probable– to find love at any age. TW: We also discuss the very real pressures of the biological clock and options like egg freezing, and alternative family configurations in today's word.Join our Finding Your Person Program! https://www.findingyourperson.com/ Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.Related Episodes:The Decision to Have Kids or Not w/ Kate KennedyDating in your 20s, 30s and 40s w/ Rob RiveraFinding Love At Any Age w/ May LeeThis episode is sponsored by:Last Bottle Wines: Get 10% off your first order with the code DATEABLE at https://www.lastbottlewines.com/Hinge: Download Hinge and try voice prompts today at https://hinge.co/Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of your clothing rental membership, up to $125 off using the code DATEABLE at https://armoire.style/refer/dateable/VIIA: Get 15% off + one free sample of their sleepy Dreams gummies. (21+) at https://viiahemp.com/ using the code DATEABLEOsea Malibu: Get 10% off their skincare from the sea at https://oseamalibu.com and use the code DATEABLEDone: Turn ADHD into your strength with mental health care made easy: https://get.donefirst.com/podcastBadlands Ranch Dog Food: Learn more about how to improve your dog's health at badlandsfood.com/dateableDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Mar 24, 2024 • 16min

#brunchtalk: How Do You Know When To Trust Your Gut?

When something feels off...is it just your anxiety talking or is this your gut telling you something is very wrong? Whether you're dating someone new or in a long-term relationship, we're discussing a framework to decipher these feelings, how to determine if you're in a "Yue situation" (as the listener so endearingly refers to it), and ways you can actually talk it out instead of jumping to conclusions.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comJoin our Finding Your Person Program! https://www.findingyourperson.com/ Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:Last Bottle Wines: Get 10% off your first order with the code DATEABLE at https://www.lastbottlewines.com/Hinge: Download Hinge and try voice prompts today at https://hinge.co/Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of your clothing rental membership, up to $125 off using the code DATEABLE at https://armoire.style/refer/dateable/VIIA: Get 15% off + one free sample of their sleepy Dreams gummies. (21+) at https://viiahemp.com/ using the code DATEABLEOsea Malibu: Get 10% off their skincare from the sea at https://oseamalibu.com and use the code DATEABLEDone: Turn ADHD into your strength with mental health care made easy: https://get.donefirst.com/podcastBadlands Ranch Dog Food: Learn more about how to improve your dog's health at badlandsfood.com/dateableDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Mar 22, 2024 • 11min

Quickie w/ Yue: Stop Waiting For That Text Back (Among Other Things That Are A Waste of Your Time)

We're back for another “Quickie” where every other week, we’ll share a single idea, theory, or revelation – in 10 minutes or less – that you can take back to your own love life. This week, Yue will discuss a framework she uses to stop spending time on trivial things in dating – whether it's that text back or anything else that ends up being a waste of your time when dating.Join our Finding Your Person Program! https://www.findingyourperson.com/ Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:Hinge: Download Hinge and try voice prompts today: https://hinge.co/Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Mar 20, 2024 • 1h 11min

S18E4: The 333 Dating Strategy w/ Haifa Barbari

Date 3 People at a time, for 3 months, with 3 chances. Does this strategy work? We're chatting with Haifa about how her 333 Dating Strategy helped her find love after wasting four years on dating apps feeling unconfident and insecure. We're discussing the pros and cons of multi-dating, why it's important to give dating experiences time to see the person for who they truly are, and ways you can still be intentional while dating multiple people at once.Follow Haifa @thehaifab and check out 'her app: https://www.bewhatmatters.co/Join our Finding Your Person Program! https://www.findingyourperson.com/ Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.Related Episodes:The ManfunnelMeeting Your Half Orange25K Reward For LoveThis episode is sponsored by:Last Bottle Wines: Get 10% off your first order with the code DATEABLE at https://www.lastbottlewines.com/Hinge: Download Hinge and try voice prompts today at https://hinge.co/Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of your clothing rental membership, up to $125 off using the code DATEABLE at https://armoire.style/refer/dateable/VIIA: Get 15% off + one free sample of their sleepy Dreams gummies. (21+) at https://viiahemp.com/ using the code DATEABLEOsea Malibu: Get 10% off their skincare from the sea at https://oseamalibu.com and use the code DATEABLEDone: Turn ADHD into your strength with mental health care made easy: https://get.donefirst.com/podcastBadlands Ranch Dog Food: Learn more about how to improve your dog's health at badlandsfood.com/dateableDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Mar 17, 2024 • 16min

#brunchtalk: What To Do When You're The Last Single Friend

So all your friends are all boo'ed up...and then there's you. Single as a Pringle. We've been there before and we get how crappy it can feel to be the only single one in the group. But have no fear! We're diving into how navigate this time so you can feel less alone in the process. We discuss ways to expand your social circles to connect with others who get where you're at, how you can reconnect with your friends despite your different life stages, and ways you can get the support you need.Got a question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comJoin our Finding Your Person Program! https://www.findingyourperson.com/ Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by:Last Bottle Wines: Get 10% off your first order with the code DATEABLE at https://www.lastbottlewines.com/Hinge: Download Hinge and try voice prompts today: https://hinge.co/Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of your clothing rental membership, up to $125 off using the code DATEABLE at https://armoire.style/refer/dateable/VIIA: Get 15% off + one free sample of their sleepy Dreams gummies. (21+) at https://viiahemp.com/ using the code DATEABLEBetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLEDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Mar 13, 2024 • 1h 10min

S18E3: Nice Guys Finish First w/ Vince Xu

We've been told nice guys finish last, but we're debunking this myth as we chat with return guest Vince Xu about how being the nice guy actually is what got him the girl. We discuss how we need to reframe "the nice guy" and "fboy" tropes, ways that good guys can make their intentions known in a way that builds chemistry, and how as women dating men we can look at the overall character of the person we're dating.Follow Vince @vincexu and check out 'Fuckboy Island"Join our Finding Your Person Program! https://www.findingyourperson.com/ Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview w/ iHeart Podcasts available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, or wherever you get your podcasts.Related Episodes:The One Who Got Away w/ Vince Xu and Yurika YonedaHow to Fail At Being A F*ckboy w/ Kane HollowayInside The Psyche of a F*ckboy w/ Martin MorrowThis episode is sponsored by:BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLELast Bottle Wines: Get 10% off your first order with the code DATEABLE at https://www.lastbottlewines.com/Hinge: Download Hinge and try voice prompts today at https://hinge.co/Armoire: Get 50% off your first month of your clothing rental membership, up to $125 off using the code DATEABLE at https://armoire.style/refer/dateable/VIIA: Get 15% off + one free sample of their sleepy Dreams gummies. (21+) at https://viiahemp.com/ using the code DATEABLEDateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcastsWE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "🌎 Get an exclusive 15% discount on your first Saily data plans! Use code DATEABLE at checkout. Download Saily app or go to to https://saily.com/dateable ⛵"Our Sponsors:* Quince: Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns. * Washington Red Raspberries: Check out https://redrazz.org to learn about Washington Red Raspberris and get recipes and more!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dateable-your-insiders-look-into-modern-dating-and-relationships/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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