Calmly Coping

In this week's episode, I spoke with Jim Van Allan, vice president of schools and a professional speaker of over 12 years. Jim also hosts a podcast, Communicate to Motivate. In this episode, Jim shares his experience being a public speaker as an introvert who struggles with social anxiety. He shares the importance of self-awareness, effective communication skills, managing anxiety-provoking social situations, and the power of positive self-talk. This is an excellent episode that I know anybody struggling with anxiety and/or social anxiety will find helpful!   In this episode you will learn: Jim's experience being a public speaker as an introvert struggling with social anxiety How introverts vs. extroverts interact differently in social situations Why introverts need to actively work on communication skills How self-awareness is the key to effective communication How having a plan can help you prepare mentally for a social situation Strategies to use to communicate in social situations Tips to jumpstart a conversation when coping with anxiety How to reframe the way you view anxiety and accepting yourself as you are The difference between listening and hearing Specific tips for how to be a good communicator Why sharing your own experiences and stories when listening to somebody isn't always helpful How to communicate in meetings as an introvert in both in-person and virtual meetings How Jim copes with the nervousness that comes up before public speaking engagements The power of positive self-talk to communicate with yourself   Where you can find Jim: Communicate to Motivate Podcast: https://communicatetomotivate.libsyn.com/ www.JimVanAllan.com www.EnergyBusSchools.com https://www.instagram.com/jimvanallan/   ++++++++ Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for overthinkers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident.   ++++++++ ****TAKE THE FREE HIGH-FUNCTIONING ANXIETY QUIZ **** http://hfaquiz.com   ***** WORK WITH ME ***** My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching and course offerings below. https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me   ***** JOIN THE CALMLY COPING GROUP ***** The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety.Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping   ***** SAY HI ON SOCIAL ***** Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc   ***** INTRO/OUTRO MUSIC ***** Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead   DISCLAIMER All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.

If there is one thing that is common in today's society, it's that everybody is busy. Even though we have technology and access to tools that have made our lives easier in many ways, we still have full schedules with work, family, personal hobbies and leisure activities, and other obligations and responsibilities. When you're busy, especially when you're feeling overwhelmed, it can be difficult to justify and even make time for relaxation. It's so easy to get caught up in constantly doing, doing, doing, that it can be hard to know how to rest and relax. In this episode, I will be sharing my tips for how to relax when you don't have the time... because relaxing is important and enjoyable, but unfortunately it often gets relegated to last on the to-do list. In this episode you will learn: Why you need to relax even more the busier you are Simple ideas for ways to relax My 5 tips to help you prioritize relaxation so you can take care of your mental and physical health Todoist: https://doist.grsm.io/s1a29wu13sd2-H ++++++++ Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for overthinkers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident. ++++++++ LEARN MORE ABOUT MY CALM & AMBITIOUS MEMBERSHIP https://www.calmandambitious.com/   ***** WORK WITH ME ***** My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching and course offerings below. https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me   ***** JOIN THE CALMLY COPING GROUP ***** The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety.Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping   ***** SAY HI ON SOCIAL ***** Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc   ****TAKE THE FREE HIGH-FUNCTIONING ANXIETY QUIZ **** http://hfaquiz.com   ***** INTRO/OUTRO MUSIC ***** Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead   DISCLAIMER All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.

Day 1: How to cultivate a positive mindset so you feel calmer throughout your day Day 2: The mistakes you’re making when it comes to creating healthy habits & routines, and how to change that so you’re working with your human nature rather than against it Day 3: How to set healthy boundaries so you can finally start taking care of your needs in the way you deserve. REGISTER FOR THE FREE 3-DAY CHALLENGE https://calmlycoping.com/calmchallenge ++++++++ Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for overthinkers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident. ++++++++ LEARN MORE ABOUT MY CALM & AMBITIOUS MEMBERSHIP http://www.calmandambitious.com/   ***** WORK WITH ME ***** My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching and course offerings below. https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me ***** JOIN THE CALMLY COPING GROUP ***** The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety.Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping ***** SAY HI ON SOCIAL ***** Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ****TAKE THE FREE HIGH-FUNCTIONING ANXIETY QUIZ **** http://hfaquiz.com   DISCLAIMER All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.

Day 1: How to cultivate a positive mindset so you feel calmer throughout your day Day 2: The mistakes you’re making when it comes to creating healthy habits & routines, and how to change that so you’re working with your human nature rather than against it Day 3: How to set healthy boundaries so you can finally start taking care of your needs in the way you deserve. REGISTER FOR THE FREE 3-DAY CHALLENGE https://calmlycoping.com/calmchallenge ++++++++ Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for overthinkers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident. ++++++++ LEARN MORE ABOUT MY CALM & AMBITIOUS MEMBERSHIP http://www.calmandambitious.com/   ***** WORK WITH ME ***** My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching and course offerings below. https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me ***** JOIN THE CALMLY COPING GROUP ***** The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety.Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping ***** SAY HI ON SOCIAL ***** Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ****TAKE THE FREE HIGH-FUNCTIONING ANXIETY QUIZ **** http://hfaquiz.com   DISCLAIMER All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.

Day 1: How to cultivate a positive mindset so you feel calmer throughout your day Day 2: The mistakes you’re making when it comes to creating healthy habits & routines, and how to change that so you’re working with your human nature rather than against it Day 3: How to set healthy boundaries so you can finally start taking care of your needs in the way you deserve. REGISTER FOR THE FREE 3-DAY CHALLENGE https://calmlycoping.com/calmchallenge ++++++++ Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for overthinkers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident. ++++++++ LEARN MORE ABOUT MY CALM & AMBITIOUS MEMBERSHIP http://www.calmandambitious.com/   ***** WORK WITH ME ***** My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching and course offerings below. https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me ***** JOIN THE CALMLY COPING GROUP ***** The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety.Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping ***** SAY HI ON SOCIAL ***** Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc ****TAKE THE FREE HIGH-FUNCTIONING ANXIETY QUIZ **** http://hfaquiz.com   DISCLAIMER All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.

I commonly hear from those struggling with high-functioning anxiety that you feel like a failure, and as though what you are doing is never good enough.  You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it can feel extremely disappointing and discouraging when you are constantly chasing success and happiness, but you feel as though you can never reach a point of fulfillment and satisfaction.   It doesn’t have to be this way, and you don’t have to change your job or your lifestyle (unless you want to of course), but you just have to change your mindset and the way you speak to yourself.  That’s what I’m going to talk all about in this episode: how to stop feeling like a failure and recognize your worth.   In this episode you will learn: Why you feel like a failure What the second dart is, and why it’s so important to changing your mindset 5 tips to help you stop feeling like a failure so you can increase your self-worth   ++++++++ Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for overthinkers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident.   ++++++++ **REGISTER FOR THE FREE 3-DAY CHALLENGE: HOW TO CULTIVATE CALM FROM WITHIN** https://www.calmlycoping.com/calmchallenge   **LEARN MORE ABOUT MY CALM & AMBITIOUS MEMBERSHIP** http://www.calmandambitious.com/   *** WORK WITH ME *** My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching and course offerings below. https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me   *** JOIN THE CALMLY COPING GROUP *** The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping   *** SAY HI ON SOCIAL *** Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc   **TAKE THE FREE HIGH-FUNCTIONING ANXIETY QUIZ ** http://hfaquiz.com   *** INTRO/OUTRO MUSIC *** Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead   DISCLAIMER All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues. 

Overthinking can be one of the most uncomfortable things to deal with when you struggle with anxiety and high-functioning anxiety.  The feeling that your brain doesn’t shut up, overanalyzing every little thing, always thinking of the “what if’s” and the future… If this sounds like you, then this episode is perfect for you.  In this episode I will be sharing my top tips for what you can do when you just can’t stop overthinking everything.   In this episode you will learn: Why you overthink everything (the 4 main reasons) My 4 steps to help you stop overthinking everything Why you need to accept your overthinking before you can stop it!   Episode Links: Anticipatory Anxiety Podcast Episode: https://www.becalmwithtati.com/anticipatory-anxiety/   Daylio Mood Tracking App: https://daylio.net/   ++++++++ Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for overthinkers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident. ++++++++ **REGISTER FOR THE FREE 3-DAY CHALLENGE: HOW TO CULTIVATE CALM FROM WITHIN** www.calmlycoping.com/calmchallenge   **LEARN MORE ABOUT MY CALM & AMBITIOUS MEMBERSHIP** http://www.calmandambitious.com/   *** WORK WITH ME *** My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching and course offerings below. https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me   *** JOIN THE CALMLY COPING GROUP *** The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping   *** SAY HI ON SOCIAL *** Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc   **TAKE THE FREE HIGH-FUNCTIONING ANXIETY QUIZ ** http://hfaquiz.com   *** INTRO/OUTRO MUSIC *** Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead   DISCLAIMER All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues. 

Do you struggle with relaxing, resting, and doing nothing?  When you struggle with high-functioning anxiety it can feel difficult to relax and you might feel a drive to always be busy so that you can get more done and avoid failure or negative consequences. In this episode I’m going to discuss why always being busy is making your high-functioning anxiety worse, and what you can do about it.   In this episode you will learn: How hustle culture has a negative impact on high-functioning anxiety The roots of your desire to be busy and how it makes things worse My 4 tips to help you manage busyness when you have high-functioning anxiety   Daylio mood tracking app: https://daylio.net/ ++++++++ Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for overthinkers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident.   ++++++++ **DOWNLOAD MY FREE ESSENTIAL GUIDE TO OVERCOMING HIGH-FUNCTIONING ANXIETY** http://www.hfaguide.com/   **LEARN MORE ABOUT MY CALM & AMBITIOUS MEMBERSHIP** http://www.calmandambitious.com/   *** WORK WITH ME *** My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching and course offerings below. https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me   *** JOIN THE CALMLY COPING GROUP *** The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping   *** SAY HI ON SOCIAL *** Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc   **TAKE THE FREE HIGH-FUNCTIONING ANXIETY QUIZ ** http://hfaquiz.com   *** INTRO/OUTRO MUSIC *** Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead   DISCLAIMER All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues. 

What causes high-functioning anxiety?  Is it the same as what causes other anxiety disorders?  Is it your genetics, experiences, or a combination of both?  And what can you do to treat and prevent it?   In this episode I’m going to be answering all of these questions to help you understand more about high-functioning anxiety so you can recognize it and ultimately learn how to overcome it.   In this episode you will learn: How high-functioning anxiety is different from an anxiety disorder How you genetics and upbringing can cause your high-functioning anxiety The best treatment for high-functioning anxiety and how to prevent it   Sources: A review and meta-analysis of the genetic epidemiology of anxiety disorders https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/11578982/ Genetics of generalized anxiety disorder and related traits https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5573560/ DSM 5, Generalized Anxiety Disorder https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK519704/table/ch3.t15/ High-Functioning Anxiety Signs & Symptoms https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/high-functioning-anxiety#signs-and-symptoms ++++++++ Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for overthinkers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident. ++++++++   **DOWNLOAD MY FREE ESSENTIAL GUIDE TO OVERCOMING HIGH-FUNCTIONING ANXIETY** http://www.hfaguide.com/ *** WORK WITH ME *** My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching and course offerings below. https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me   *** JOIN THE CALMLY COPING GROUP *** The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping   *** SAY HI ON SOCIAL *** Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc   **TAKE THE FREE HIGH-FUNCTIONING ANXIETY QUIZ ** http://hfaquiz.com   *** INTRO/OUTRO MUSIC *** Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead   DISCLAIMER All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues. 

**TAKE THE FREE HIGH-FUNCTIONING ANXIETY QUIZ ** http://hfaquiz.com   When you have high-functioning anxiety, you are able to function well and even be extremely successful in your career, family life, and/or personal life… but the thing that nobody knows is that on the inside your behaviors are driven by fear, self-doubt, and avoidance, rather than feeling grounded and confident in yourself. This fear might drive you to push yourself too hard, always need to be busy, always be overanalyzing things, have difficulty saying no and setting boundaries (which results in you taking on too much), and a quick road to burnout. In this episode, I’m going to walk you through my high-functioning anxiety test to help you understand if you might be struggling with high-functioning anxiety, and what you can do about it.   ++++++++ Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for overthinkers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help you feel more calm, balanced, and confident. ++++++++ **FREE COURSE: HOW TO CALM YOUR MIND SO YOU CAN FINALLY RELAX** https://www.becalmwithtati.com/calm-your-mind-and-relax/   **DO YOU NEED THERAPY OR COACHING?** https://www.becalmwithtati.com/need-therapy/   **WHY HAVING HIGH-FUNCTIONING ANXIETY LEADS TO BURNOUT** https://www.becalmwithtati.com/high-functioning-anxiety-and-burnout/   **THE BEST WAYS TO GET ORGANIZED WHEN YOU HAVE HIGH-FUNCTIONING ANXIETY** https://www.becalmwithtati.com/organizing-with-high-functioning-anxiety/   **8 DAILY HABITS TO CALM ANXIETY** https://www.becalmwithtati.com/8-things-to-calm-down-with-anxiety/   *** WORK WITH ME *** My mission is to help you decrease your anxiety, declutter your mind, and say hello to a life of calm and balance.  Learn more about my coaching and course offerings below. https://becalmwithtati.com/work-with-me   *** JOIN THE CALMLY COPING GROUP *** The free supportive community for high-achievers with high-functioning anxiety. Join Today: https://www.facebook.com/groups/CalmlyCoping   *** SAY HI ON SOCIAL *** Website: https://becalmwithtati.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/tatianaglpc LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatianaglpc/ Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/tatianaglpc   *** INTRO/OUTRO MUSIC *** Rescue Me (Instrumental) by Aussens@iter (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/tobias_weber/57990 Ft: Copperhead   DISCLAIMER All content here is for informational purposes only. This content does not replace the professional judgment of your own mental health provider. Please consult a licensed mental health professional for all individual questions and issues.