Help Me Be Me

This is a conversation with Zak Rosen of “The Best Advice Show” all about how small acts make massive waves of change outwards. This is a feel-good show all about changes that affect the arc of life: the small, conscious tweaks we make change our trajectory in terms of happiness and overall quality of life. And the advice you hear in this episode is not necessarily what you’d expect–it’s grounded, simple, and life-altering.If you guys want to hear the episode mentioned when Zak interviewed me on his show, check out the link below:https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/expecting-the-opposite-with-sarah-may-b/id1507811918?i=1000485483262 Support this week’s sponsors! Gabb is the leader in safe, smart phones and watches for kids,teens, and tweens. Right now, Gabb is offering $25 off any device to new customers—with no contract required! That’s $25 off any Gabb smartphone or smartwatch. Just go to GABB.com/HELPMEBEME—that’s whereyou’ll get the best deal. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This podcast explores the struggles of leaving an unhappy relationship, focusing on internal barriers like old beliefs and traumas. It delves into the concept of invisible walls in relationships rooted in fears and cultural upbringing, urging listeners to differentiate their values. Encouraging self-reflection and perseverance, the podcast highlights the importance of overcoming self-limiting beliefs and staying focused on personal growth and authenticity.

This is for seeing a wall or a low point as an opportunity for transformation. This is an episode for moving out of a state of woe. When we surrender and deliberately hold ourselves as we “pass” the pain, this is when new doors open and we grow amazing new capacities. The aim of this episode is to start floating atop top the water versus fighting it, when you’re in a place of resistance and suffering.Other names for this episode were ‘Being happy when others in your life aren’t’ and ‘Welcoming synchronicity and grace.’ And that is because when we surrender and accept powerlessness, signs begin to come in. I hope this helps you!Let us all let go. Welcome what is. Hold ourselves through where we are. And with that, allow in the flow of love and trust. Sending love...The two books I mention in this episode are here:https://amzn.to/4bQwC7Hhttps://amzn.to/4bsBNLbSupport this week’s sponsors:Fearless Finance - Visit FearlessFinance.com today. You can chat with a planner for free to make sure it’s a good fit, and you’ll get $50 off your first planning meeting when you use the code HELPMEBEMEAstepro and Go! - Get fast-acting nasal allergy symptom relief with Astepro. Go to AsteproAllergy.com for a discount so you can Astepro and Go! today. AsteproAllergy.comUse as directed for relief of nasal congestion, runny nose, sneezing and itchy nose due to allergies.AquaTru. AquaTru water purifiers come with a 30-day Money-Back Guarantee and they also make great gifts!Today my listeners receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Go to AquaTru.com and use promo code HelpMeBeMe at checkout!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is about taking stock of a relationship and deciding how you feel about it in an honest way. Maybe you’re considering a breakup, or you don’t know that just yet but you’re not happy with how things are. One way to tell how we feel about someone is to examine our own behavior: the things we are doing on a loop. When we can see a fight loop, we can see perhaps we are not accepting the truth of who someone is, or we can see our own unmet needs arising. This is how we move forward and grow up in a sense – by becoming aware.This for knowing where you stand instead of fighting what is. When we can move from what is, we can honor ourselves AND our relationship! And in some cases that means coming out of the closet on what we truly want. Nothing bad about that – it just is. Accept and welcome it. When we draw boundaries around that concept, we create a life that rewards us.Caveat: You can’t decide something based on another person’s advice. If you’re not ready for action, simply processing feelings is a great place to start. Support this week’s sponsors! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this podcast, the host celebrates 10 years of self-reflection and values-based decision-making. She emphasizes the importance of self-love, therapy, and connecting with one's true self amidst external influences. The episode explores tools for rediscovering core values through journaling and childhood memories, promoting self-awareness, openness, and authenticity for personal growth.

We all grow, mature and become different people, however sometimes we cannot see that change or those around us cannot see it. This is about redefining yourself to yourself. Allowing room to witness yourself, anew. Especially in the face of people who treat us based off an old identity. This episode has exercises to help you see where you are headed and mark the change you’ve made over the past year. It’s also for examining your actions as a means to map out your internal allegiances. Often we cannot see how we truly feel because we get lost in the day-to-day content of powerful or repetitive emotions. The goal for me coming out of this episode is for you to feel as if you were given a new awareness of yourself. One that is positive, clear, and empowered. And that you can see the conscious change you have made in your life. If you want to know who you are, just look at your physical actions. They are a map to our truth: what we believe, what we are working on, and also how we feel about ourselves. They tell us who we are more than our words, so if you want to learn something new, tune into what has changed. And take heart–change is change! No matter how incremental. Support this week’s sponsors! Better HelpThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/helpmebeme and get on your way to being your best self. Find your social sweet spot, with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/helpmebeme today to get 10% off your first month. OneSkinOneSkin is the world's first skin longevity company. By focusing on the cellular aspects of aging, OneSkin keeps your skin looking and acting younger for longer. Get started today with 15% off using code HELPMEBEME at oneskin.co After you purchase, they’ll ask you where you heard about them. PLEASE support your show and tell them we sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Think of this episode as a memory to be conjured. A memory of the truth of yourself: your power and goodness, and that you feel more present on the ride that is your life. It’s easy to live out a perspective fixated on what you haven’t done right or what is just out of reach. To reduce life to transactions versus a felt sense of magic.This episode is kind of “hippy” in that it’s got some guided imageries. Reason being, a lot of us don’t see the greatness in ourselves unless we are given a powerful mirror. Someone who has witnessed the path we have walked and all that we have grown to become. Often it takes an experience with this kind of person or getting outside of our bubble, to jog this deeper memory of self. A compliment from the right person has the power to inspire us and move us. Through these glimpses, we see a different truth and a more positive version of the world. I wanted to try some visualizations with you today that tap into that knowing, deliberately.Unless we curate a deeper perspective of ourselves and humanity, we can miss it for years at a time. We get conditioned into reaching toward stuff, or we get stuck in a powerful current of work that leaves us in an energy saving mode. My goal is that you tune into a sense of fullness with this episode and a deeper connection to the person you have become. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is about having a loving mindset as we move through our life. What does that mean? It means feeling complete and having an inner sense of safety. From here we do not feel lack when we interact with others. Nothing is “at us” and even when someone does mean us harm, it does not land. This is the energetic state where we can be the most effective, creative, wise. So really the question becomes – how do we deliberately CURATE this state in our lives? I have some tuning exercises for this in particular as well as some reflection exercises.When we can embody love and kindness, we can light up the world, we can create limitlessly, we can see all potential.In this episode, I’m going to be talking about these two things that seem in opposition: coming from an energy of wholeness and fullness–tuning yourself to that. And then also shoring up what I call the holes in the boat, or checking what might need boundary work in your life. In other words, making sure you are being deliberate in designing a life that is conducive to a life full of love and peace. Byron Katie calls this “loving what is” – which is EXACTLY what it’s like! Fully embracing and welcoming the truth of what is, including what supports you and makes you feel safe, and also accepting what does not. From here we can build a life that is in accordance with our values.Sending so much love! To support the show, you can make a donation at YayWithMe.com or visit me on Patreon.Support this week’s sponsors!AquaTruAquaTru water purifiers come with a 30-day Money-Back Guarantee and they also make great gifts!Today my listeners receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Go to AquaTru.com and use promo code HelpMeBeMe at checkout! BetterHelpLearn to make time for what makes you happy, with BetterHelp!Visit BetterHelp.com/helpmebeme today to get 10% off your first month. BluelandBlueland has fantastic cleaning products that work so well, look amazing and they reduce plastic waste because they’re refillable! Blueland has a special offer for listeners. Right now, get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/HelpMeBeMe Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are many phases to a long-term partnership – many moons. When it comes to long-term partnerships, we are traveling through a human existence which includes dealing with that pain of our own identity. That pain then interacts and affects our partner, which can define the kinds of conflicts we perceive are happening. This is about how to humanely deal with the pain of miscommunication and unmet needs in long-term, intimate relationships. Many relationship issues don’t have “correct” solutions. They result from being different people with different needs and different styles of communication. The goal then becomes to act humanely as we deal with that fact – including toward ourselves. This episode is about having that goal of doing no harm and also being able to step back from our own programming. Whereas when we are choosing a partner we must be incredibly stringent in our standards, once we have chosen one, we can become accountable enough to challenge ourselves. We can practice acceptance of who the other person is and also look at how we choose to change.This is for about working with our own ego wounds as they occur, and also stepping back from old chain reactions. It’s a reminder that marriage can be hard and often the best we can do is come from love and respect, for ourselves and others. Support this week’s sponsors!  ZocDocGet started on the mental health work you want to do! Go to ZocDoc.com/HelpMeBeMe and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So much of our ability to enjoy and live a rich life comes down to our frame: how we interpret the ingredients and recognize “what is.” We also expect a TON from ourselves: We are constantly lamenting what we didn’t do, the thing that we failed at, how we fucked up this or that thing in our life, where we are still falling short. We have a very inhumane set of expectations around what we ask of ourselves: I am talking about overworking, overscheduling, overdemanding. At the cost of…happiness. A lot of people believe they are supposed to continue to chase and muscle through work all the time. And that work will always come first and SHOULD always come first.Like everything else should be scheduled in between all that striving and it will always come at a much lower priority. Work-first is a cultural norm that many have unconsciously accepted without considering whether or not that supports your truest goals. This is an episode aimed at asking what your authentic hierarchy is and then placing time and emphasis on those things. So it’s for taking note of what is meaningful and then consciously putting time, focus and more energy toward those things. Which includes fighting against the current that is our natural energy saving tendencies. Because we are so inundated with stuff, it’s really hard to stay focused on what we really actually want to do! It’s harder than shutting off. So hopefully this will help with that as well. Support this week’s sponsors! BluelandBlueland has a special offer for listeners. Right now, get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/HelpMeBeMe BetterHelpBecome your own soulmate, whether you’re looking for one or not. Visit BetterHelp.com/HelpMeBeMe today to get 10% off your first month. RitualNo more shady business. Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ is a multivitamin you can actually trust.Start Ritual or add Essential For Women 18+ to your subscription today. Get 20% off your first month for a limited time at Ritual.com/HelpMeBeMe   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices