Help Me Be Me

There are many phases to a long-term partnership – many moons. When it comes to long-term partnerships, we are traveling through a human existence which includes dealing with that pain of our own identity. That pain then interacts and affects our partner, which can define the kinds of conflicts we perceive are happening. This is about how to humanely deal with the pain of miscommunication and unmet needs in long-term, intimate relationships. Many relationship issues don’t have “correct” solutions. They result from being different people with different needs and different styles of communication. The goal then becomes to act humanely as we deal with that fact – including toward ourselves. This episode is about having that goal of doing no harm and also being able to step back from our own programming. Whereas when we are choosing a partner we must be incredibly stringent in our standards, once we have chosen one, we can become accountable enough to challenge ourselves. We can practice acceptance of who the other person is and also look at how we choose to change.This is for about working with our own ego wounds as they occur, and also stepping back from old chain reactions. It’s a reminder that marriage can be hard and often the best we can do is come from love and respect, for ourselves and others. Support this week’s sponsors!  ZocDocGet started on the mental health work you want to do! Go to ZocDoc.com/HelpMeBeMe and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So much of our ability to enjoy and live a rich life comes down to our frame: how we interpret the ingredients and recognize “what is.” We also expect a TON from ourselves: We are constantly lamenting what we didn’t do, the thing that we failed at, how we fucked up this or that thing in our life, where we are still falling short. We have a very inhumane set of expectations around what we ask of ourselves: I am talking about overworking, overscheduling, overdemanding. At the cost of…happiness. A lot of people believe they are supposed to continue to chase and muscle through work all the time. And that work will always come first and SHOULD always come first.Like everything else should be scheduled in between all that striving and it will always come at a much lower priority. Work-first is a cultural norm that many have unconsciously accepted without considering whether or not that supports your truest goals. This is an episode aimed at asking what your authentic hierarchy is and then placing time and emphasis on those things. So it’s for taking note of what is meaningful and then consciously putting time, focus and more energy toward those things. Which includes fighting against the current that is our natural energy saving tendencies. Because we are so inundated with stuff, it’s really hard to stay focused on what we really actually want to do! It’s harder than shutting off. So hopefully this will help with that as well. Support this week’s sponsors! BluelandBlueland has a special offer for listeners. Right now, get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/HelpMeBeMe BetterHelpBecome your own soulmate, whether you’re looking for one or not. Visit BetterHelp.com/HelpMeBeMe today to get 10% off your first month. RitualNo more shady business. Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ is a multivitamin you can actually trust.Start Ritual or add Essential For Women 18+ to your subscription today. Get 20% off your first month for a limited time at Ritual.com/HelpMeBeMe   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you have a sense of ambivalence or blah–like you’re staring at a white wall, but on an emotional or spiritual level. I wanted to write an episode that reminds us all of our humanity and what that feels like and looks like. This is about regrowing and regenerating our vitality by listening inward and channeling our creative, original voices. Allowing yourself to be “original” and not what everyone else wants you to be. Often we lose sight of who that person is, as we grow into adults and we do all the things we “should” for a very long time. I think a lot of us either grow numb or we feel a pervasive sense of dread and exhaustion when we move through a routine set of adult functions, day after day. It can start to feel like we just need to be better at swallowing it or medicating it versus tuning in to see what is starving us. I am really talking to my type-A friends out there and also my creative friends out there. Something I notice is that many of us feel a sense of anxiety over all that we have on our plates and the neverendingness of it. And what we often do to deal with that anxiety is take meds to allow ourselves to do more of it. Like this will fix that pain. But that is not a positive, holistic or long-term solve. What I am inviting you to do with this episode is try rewarding that inner self and seeing how that improves all factors in your life – creative, calmness and also clarity. This process of reconnecting with that inner self takes time and commitment but it IS important! It’s important in how it corresponds to the vastness and scale that is the quality of your life. If we were to stand at the end of your life, how colorful is it? (Not from a stuff and literal places you’ve travelled perspective – but in a depth of self, kind of way?) Like the way you talk and write about your experiences – the way you report them to others: are you skimming the surface and checking boxes? Or do you feel fully alive and like you are savoring this ride? Let’s fucking savor, man. Let ourselves be based on who we would like to be and not who everyone else seems to be on social media. I for one, forgot who that self was for a long time. And I was in a routine of checking boxes.Support this week’s sponsors!Lume!Control Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get $5 off off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code HELPMEBEME at LumeDeodorant.comZocdoc.comNow’s the time to get the mental health support that’s perfect for you, in the privacy of your home. Go to Zocdoc.com/HELPMEBEME and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated therapist, psychiatrist, or psychologist today.EarthBreezeRight now, my listeners can get started with Earth Breeze and save 40%! Go to EARTHBREEZE.com/helpmebeme for forty percent off your subscription! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Learn how to renew energy and motivation when feeling stuck. Discover the importance of setting ambitious goals and hear about the power of public relations. Find out why taking action and never giving up are crucial for success.

This is my yearly new year reflection style episode where we take stock and celebrate what we have accomplished in the year prior as well as start this year off on the right foot. In this episode I will ask you to ponder - What would you like to change? What would you like to let go of? And what would you like to invite forth as you move through the year? As you listen to this episode please take note of where you are energetically and respect that season. I am in a winter state, coming out of sickness. All stages are good and valuable in how they set a stage in our cycle: all supports our greatest form of thriving. My wish for you this year is that you are more able to enjoy your life and live it authentically. We are so primed to be searching for something: “I need X. I should post about X. What are other people doing? Should I be doing that, too?” We are almost automated by our devices and technology to do so. This ordinary stuff of life is pretty great and wonderful, just as it is. If you can tune into the simple moments with your energy: stop that busy searching loop and step outside of it. Maybe quiet life is relaxing and lovely and we should enjoy all that we have, right now.Sending love to you all and happy new year!Support this week’s sponsors! BluelandReduce plastic waste with these gorgeous cleaning products that smell amazing!Blueland has a special offer for our listeners. Right now, get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/HELPMEBEME  OneSkinOneSkin is the world's first skin longevity company. By focusing on the cellular aspects of aging, OneSkin keeps your skin looking and acting younger for longer. Get started today with 15% off using code HELPMEBEME at oneskin.co. After you purchase, they’ll ask you where you heard about them. PLEASE support our show and tell them we sent you. New year, healthier skin. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is my invitation to reset as you move through holiday functions. What does that mean? Not getting sucked into family drama and also keeping your eyes on what’s important: feeling a sense of gratitude and being able to savor all that you have. Holidays can be heavy for a lot of people. I want to invite you to tune into joy and optimism. As you move through the end of the year, this is an episode with tools for grounding and setting boundaries. It’s also for journaling and recalling what is most important and what is actually a total waste of time. I’d call this episode a meditation or reflection of sorts in that it’s about resetting how we think about life and what we prioritize. And also just feeling grateful. Never a bad time to do that! Sending so much love! And to check out the book by Rick Rubin, here is a link! Support this week’s sponsors! Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ is a multivitamin you can actually trust. Get 40% off your first month for a limited time at Ritual.com/HELPMEBEME This offer is only available through January 31st. Start Ritual or add Essential For Women 18+ to your subscription today. That’s Ritual.com/HELPMEBEME for 40% off. Check out the coolest gifts for nerds you love (just like my baby Yoda that is totally realistic and life-sized..) Visit Sideshow.com - promo code HELPMEBEME - right now and get ready to Let Your Geek Sideshow!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this podcast, the speaker explores the concept of self-forgiveness and the impact of holding onto past regrets. They discuss the importance of confronting fears and regrets, particularly during the holidays, and how therapy can be beneficial. The speaker also emphasizes the neutrality of truth and the potential for relief and connection through reflection. Additionally, they talk about setting personal standards and boundaries, retelling our stories for self-forgiveness and perspective shift, and taking action against sex trafficking.

This is for anyone who is looking to be inspired and get closer to their unconscious goals as an artist and creator. I am trying to move closer to my artist self which has been a beautiful process of reuniting with the child that lives inside. One aspect of that process involves really letting go of what other people think is right and asking instead, “what do I have to say?” Removing the measures that pressure your ego to strive in ways that feel in opposition to who you are. I have some practices in this episode for you that are hopefully going to tune your being toward the best form of your creative projects that are ready to be expressed. I highly recommend you practice a meditation of some sort before you begin any creative work- for me it's incredibly helpful!This episode is aligned with the teachings of The Artist’s Way, Rick Rubin’s new book The Creative Act and Inner Work. Putting links to them because I love them so!https://amzn.to/3GcpFAghttps://amzn.to/47Ly5tShttps://amzn.to/3GcsEbESupport this week’s sponsor, BetterHelp:Find your bright spot this season, with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/HELPMEBEME today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode discusses letting go of a smaller self and embracing growth, focusing on self-awareness and shedding negative aspects. It explores the concept of wounded selves and the importance of deliberate actions and energetic echoes. The episode also emphasizes the power of conscious thought and provides tools for achieving openness during the holiday season. It offers insights into personal growth and happiness, as well as creating a personally curated holiday experience. To support the episode's sponsors, visit BetterHelp.com/HELPMEBEME and lifemd.com/HELPMEBEME.

This is about building a mental sense of sanctuary from the outside in and the inside out. This is aimed at moving through your life in a state of trust and openness: teaching yourself out of self-limiting thought loops and responses. One thing I’ve been thinking about a lot lately is the importance of our conditions. They very much co-create our lives in that they create the factors we have bandwidth to respond to. What conditions are you being subjected to in your day-to-day life? How can we become conscious of them and begin to set higher goals in this area? All change in life begins with a goal. Once you set it we are already moving toward it.A life that is conducive to happiness and serenity and success really comes down to curating the ingredients that allow for that to happen. Often what stops that from being possible is small thinking (stopping ourselves from striving) or one negative factor like a bad relationship or an unhealthy work environment. So how can we create a life of happiness, harmony, inspiration and luxury? If you feel like you could use a cleanse or a boost in this area this one’s for you.To support this week’s sponsors check out Better Help!Make your brain your friend, with Better Help.Visit BetterHelp.com/HelpMeBeMe today to get 10% off your first month.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices