Help Me Be Me

As adults, subconsciously a lot of us are looking for someone to tell us what’s wrong with us. Like the subconscious is seeking out measurers–asking, “Are you someone who can tell me my worth in this particular way?” What part is doing this? The part that has a scar. And we are drawn to people who validate that implication – that subconscious fear/an unseen subconscious belief. This is for generating love, beauty and personal freedom. Adulthood– for me–has been the process of FREEING MYSELF from mental conditioning of all kinds. New things STILL dawn on me as I grow older. Which is so exciting – after you go through therapy and “solve yourself” to still recognize new insights as the years continue on. This is about freeing yourself from a limiting set of thoughts that is induced by someone else’s harsh or dysfunctional values and specific expectations. It’s also about coming home to a truer definition of love, beauty and ultimately a higher vibration for yourself. I send you all love – I wish you all beauty, love and success. Sponsors: Quince.com/helpme for free shipping and 365 day returns Wayfair.com to shop all things homeZenni.com/podcast and use code PODCAST15 for 15% off your first order, plus free shipping on all US orders over $65. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When we are feeling seated in our own value and worth, we can be guided by our highest hopes for ourselves. This is about navigating from a constant place of course-correction toward our “highest compass” which I am loosely defining as that awareness we have when we first wake up in the morning. This has tools for navigating relationships that are formed on codependent terms: growing out of trigger-based loops. It is also about overcoming the self who is energetically depleted and reacts from a place of lack. We can always choose higher if we can recall our higher goals and use tools to jump the train tracks toward that higher goal. Sending love! Sponsors:  AquaTru.com - get 20% off your purifier using promo code HELPMEBEME Quince.com/helpme for free shipping and 365 day returns  Wayfair.com to shop all things home Zenni.com/podcast and use code PODCAST15 for 15% off your first order, plus free shipping on all US orders over $65. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Always the one who gets everything done? This restorative conversation explores the hidden costs of over-functioning, duty, people-pleasing, and perfectionism. It delves into reclaiming choice, asking for help, making room for play, and reconnecting with creativity without performance pressure. Along the way: Enneagram patterns, practical ways to reorganize life, and a playful writing exercise.

Explore how grounded routines and firm boundaries create a safe inner container for lasting healing. The conversation examines stepping back from unhealthy relationships, recognizing validation-seeking patterns, and redefining what supportive connection looks like. It also covers journaling, handling low feelings without impulsive reactions, turning triggers into growth signals, and moving beyond attention-driven coping.

They explore attention as a force that shapes outcomes and relationships. Practical tools appear throughout: mirror practices, word choices, mantras, and perspective shifts. Conversations cover aligning intention with desired results and preparing yourself to receive. The thread ties energy, self-worth, and daily habits to what you grow by focusing on it.

This episode is for creating emotional relief and soothing. I have tools for healing unhealthy loops, tools for giving yourself kindness and calm, and clearing your energy in the moment something old arises. I am pretty excited about this episode because it’s something I have been practicing myself frequently and I think it’s pretty magical. It’s about giving your brain external feedback to alter the hold of runhealthy energy. I think one thing that people often underestimate is visual feedback: how your space being clear and open translates directly to how calm you feel, for example. I have some visual practices that I will describe but if it helps you can also watch this on YouTube. Here is the podcast channel on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLOWnmmRaDe-yI2A1IVUhUx0Zi1mKnH3gj Here’s the book I am reading and loving that inspired some of the tools: https://amzn.to/4xzCYmF Sponsors:  Betterhelp.com/helpmebeme - sign up and get 10% off your first month of therapy   AquaTru.com - get 20% off your purifier using promo code HELPMEBEME Quince.com/helpme for free shipping and 365 day returns  Wayfair.com to shop all things home Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A guide to building a steady inner center that soothes reactive panic. Tips for cutting off rumination and handing worries back to the universe. Simple rituals and a brief meditation to restore calm and agency. Tools for spotting recurring scarcity fears, shifting language, and choosing small steps to regain momentum.

When an issue recurs in your life and you attract a specific kind of person or conflict, some would label that as karmic.  A loop can also be a pattern we fall into that draws energy and creative force away from us – something that doesn’t align with our goals in life. The loops that I am talking about in this episode are mostly relationship-based there are also tools around individual behaviors. I called this “going along with it anyway” because it’s really about that moment of override: when our bodies tell us that something is wrong and we still get pulled into a conflict that makes us lose track of our values. What I find is when I get into these situations, there is something origin-based being triggered: a need to please or appease or prove our validity. When we heal from these wounds, we can completely skip them and do not get pulled into a compromising negotiation. That book I keep talking about is: The game of life and how to play it. https://amzn.to/3T3qaWY Sponsors:  Betterhelp.com/helpmebeme - sign up and get 10% off your first month of therapy   AquaTru.com - get 20% off your purifier using promo code HELPMEBEME Quince.com/helpme for free shipping and 365 day returns  Wayfair.com to shop all things home Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We affect a lot in our life path with our energy and our intentionality. You quite literally get back what you put out – like attracts like. This is about having faith and putting the right magnets into this world. Leading with love. One thought from one of the books I am reading is, “The subconscious is energy without direction.” Meaning, it just flows at whatever you think about, it doesn’t factor in the qualifiers you may mentally be wrapping around that concept. So if you are thinking about a future situation, thinking “I don’t want this thing,” your subconscious energy is really just channeling the thing. With that in mind, how can you be really clear and intentional about what you focus on and what you tell yourself with your actions and the contexts you place yourself? This has exercises for welcoming only goodness, love and success. I have a couple books I am reading right now that I love and they very much inspired this episode. If you’d like to check them out: https://amzn.to/4gjPW2G https://amzn.to/4v9YuNm Support our sponsors: Quince.com/helpme for free shipping and 365 day returns  Wayfair.com to shop all things home Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’re a creative person, you are likely vulnerable to a lot of specific conditions: anxiety, boredom and also overly harsh self-analysis. Because you are right-brained, you are overly harsh on yourself and you imagine others judging you more harshly than they do. I have a few creative loved ones affected recently by the harshness of life (suffering on a soul level). Not saying it was all the fact that they are creative, but I do think it’s a big factor. If you’re creative, you are overly feeling– and also get bored by “the system” so it’s a double whammy. I am writing this with the hopes that it gets you into a better channel of thinking and using your creativity for positive change in your life. It has some tools for enhancing ego and intuition, and love for self. Sponsors:  AquaTru.com - get 20% off your purifier using promo code HELPMEBEME Quince.com/helpme for free shipping and 365 day returns  Wayfair.com to shop all things home   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices