Help Me Be Me

There comes a time when we take stock of our lives and ask whether or not it’s still working for us. That might be our self-definition, our career, our relationship, or all of the above. You might arrive at this by accident, as in a health issue that forces the wake up, or you might simply recognize the feeling and ask, “Why am I so numb and unfulfilled?” This is an episode to help you look at whatever value system you have gotten lost within so you can set better boundaries around it. Often times we get seduced by external definitions of a path and we pour ourselves into it, never stopping to question whether or not it’s really rewarding for us. Other times we just grow out of it and we need to stop and reassess if a change is needed. Sending love!   Sponsors: Chewy: chewy.com/podhelpmebeme to save $20 on your first order and get free shipping.  Mint Mobile: mintmobile.com/helpmebeme - get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans Indeed: Indeed.com/HELPMEBEME for a $75 sponsored job credit Wayfair: Wayfair.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is for complicated relationships with complicated boundaries, for example when you are stuck in a relationship you dislike, or you are dating but have gone through a life shift, so you fear choosing the wrong person. The reason I chose this topic is often when we are not fully activating our boundaries around the concepts of what we want and what rewards us, we allow a situation or another person to decide our future, for us. So something external will push us into a long-term situation that we never actively wanted or designed. When we are not fully solved as individuals, we may not know why we are not happy, what is not sitting right, and whether or not that’s “valid” for us to feel what we feel. In other words – there is a vagueness to our own feelings and we question ourselves, which keeps us more stuck in a situation. We may be emotionally ambivalent or have opposite feelings in a relationship, like dating when you are a single parent: any new relationship might bring up opposing priorities that need to be defined for a first time.  Although the situations I discuss are very different, walking into them with awareness of how you feel and simply giving yourself an opportunity to process feelings can be incredibly helpful and enlightening. Heads up there are TONS of journaling prompts in this one! Support our sponsors: Gabb: gabb.com/helpmebme - for the best deals sign up today, no contract required.  BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/helpmebeme to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you feeling anxious, overwhelmed and insecure? This is full of tools for creating an inner sense of sanctuary: a clarity and calm. This is designed for artists and sensitive types who are more open and therefore porous to the world. We take in a lot, feel a lot, and can become inundated with “feedback” which can be heavy to say the least. It’s important to cleanse your energy periodically: to tune your focus and reaffirm a helpful, positive reality versus a negative one. I offer tools and reflections for how to recalibrate your energy toward positivity. So zhuzhing up the inside through manual practices. Sending love! Here are the spiritual books I referenced and if they trigger you in any way, skip them and forget I brought them up! There’s a lot of “new” thinking in these… E Squared Inner Work You Are Psychic The Seat of the Soul Many Lives, Many Masters Notes to George: The Whisper   Sponsors: Chewy: chewy.com/podhelpmebeme to save $20 on your first order and get free shipping.  Gabb: gabb.com/helpmebme - for the best deals sign up today, no contract required.   Meaningful Beauty: Meaningfulbeauty.com/helpmebeme to receive 25% off and get the Targeted Treatment Duo gift set for free! Headspace: Headspace.com/HELPMEBEME60 to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days. Indeed: Indeed.com/HELPMEBEME for a $75 sponsored job credit Wayfair: Wayfair.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dive into the challenge of overcoming decision paralysis fueled by anxiety. Discover how past experiences shape our fear of change. Learn the importance of listening to your inner signals for personal growth. Explore the mental health crisis among youth and the negative impact of social media, along with innovative solutions. Plus, uncover the benefits of teaching kids financial literacy to build their confidence and responsibility. This journey emphasizes trusting yourself and taking calculated risks for growth.

How to ensure your life is conducive to empowerment and love. It can all end tomorrow – how are you living, today? If you are feeling anxious and overwhelmed, this is for cleansing and correcting your energy – becoming more deliberate in that embodiment.The goal for me in this episode is to remind you that you have a hand in resetting your focus and your energy and that that presence/how you show up absolutely affects the world around you. Is your life set up for your nervous system? Remember to be responsible in setting boundaries that honor you in your life. Only take in what keeps you active and powerful and channeling your energy toward the good. Today I know what activates me/what I can take in, and I also respect what overwhelms me to the point of incapacitation/what I cannot take in. Be very deliberate in how you welcome things into your psyche: watch what does good and what does not.I also want to remind you to have hope and to remain open to possibilities: we cannot see the future, from today right now. We cannot know all that will be and we will be a different person with different priorities when the future arrives. Sending love! Sponsors:Chewy: Chewy.com/podhelpmebeme to save $20 on your first order with free shippingVionic Shoes: vionicshoes.com and use code HELPMEBEME at checkout for 15% off your entire order when you log into your account. 1 time use only.Meaningful Beauty: Meaningfulbeauty.com/helpmebeme to receive 25% off and get the Targeted Treatment Duo gift set for free!Hungryroot: Hungryroot.com/HELPMEBEME and use code HELPMEBEME to get 40% off your first box and a free item of your choice for life.Indeed: Indeed.com/HELPMEBEME for a $75 sponsored job creditHeadspace: Headspace.com/HELPMEBEME60 to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The discussion opens with the impact of hormones on women's lives, especially during PMS, and how it relates to self-esteem. Listeners explore the need for personal reflection to combat stress and anxiety stemming from societal pressures. Practical tips highlight how to nurture self-love while addressing negative thought patterns. Tools for enhancing daily living and financial literacy are introduced, promoting empowerment through self-care and informed choices. Ultimately, it's about fostering a compassionate inner relationship and reclaiming peace in life.

Discover how to reconnect with your inner self and honor your personal truths amidst life's chaos. The discussion uncovers the concept of the 'thrive zone' and highlights the importance of self-awareness in combating feelings of disconnection. Learn about the dangers of suppressing emotions and how embracing authenticity can lead to fulfillment. The conversation also touches on modern parenting challenges, like ensuring kids' safety in tech use, and offers strategies for personal growth and emotional well-being.

Even if you’ve done a lot of work on yourself, feel confident and seated in yourself, there can be new situations when you recon with an unexpected and uncomfortable need to please or be liked by others that even if you disagree with it logically– can betray your intellect. This is a response that is often triggered by new social situations or conditions that remove you from your definition of self. It might happen when you’re entering a tightknit group that is not based in “who you are” or grow slowly in a situation where you are not aligned with the core group. Regardless it feels disconcerting and can catch you off-guard asking “What is happening??” I’ll call it 'the pleasing trigger.’The feeling that we have to fit in and be liked can be intense and desperate, one that is triggered at any age– often when we are in a new forced social situation like a new professional sphere. Know that if this is happening to you it’s not because you are weak or unevolved, it’s because you are wired the way all humans are wired. These milestones when we feel the need to fit in might be when we are entering a life stage that is new with a new social group. Support this week’s sponsors! GabbGabb is offering twenty-five dollars off any device—with no contract required. Just go to Gabb.com/HELPMEBEME to get started. Terms and conditions apply. ProlonJust in time for the new year, Prolon is offering Help Me Be Me listeners FIFTEEN PERCENT off their 5-day nutrition program for your post-holiday glow-up when you go to ProlonLife.com/HELPMEBEME VionicUse code HELPMEBEME at checkout for 15% off your entire order at www.vionicshoes.com when you log into your account. 1 time use only. LumeAs a special offer for listeners, new customers GET 15% ALL Lume products with our exclusive code - Use code HELPMEBEME for 15% off your first purchase at LumeDeodorant.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dive into the primal fear of inadequacy and its captivating effects on our lives. The discussion unveils how the pursuit of perfection often hides deeper insecurities. Listeners are encouraged to confront uncomfortable emotions and embrace vulnerability for personal growth. Discover the importance of self-acceptance and compassion, and learn how materialism can mask our true selves. Ultimately, this journey toward wholeness, joy, and connection empowers individuals to recognize their worth and potential.

Feeling disconnected from yourself? Discover how self-respect is key to liking who you are. Learn to embrace your 'wise second self' and combat negative thoughts with compassion. Explore the impact of your inner narrative and how it shapes self-perception. Hear personal anecdotes about overcoming blind spots in behavior change. This journey of nurturing self-compassion not only transforms you but also influences those around you, especially your children. Start the commitment to become your own best friend today!