Help Me Be Me

If you’re struggling with trying to keep a handle on your own beliefs in the face of a person with a strong ego, as in a romantic relationship or parental relationship where they talk you out of your feelings or tell you that you’re wrong, this is for you! A lot of people struggle to self-validate. You might defer to another person’s opinion or have a person in your life who talks you out of your beliefs, even if you feel strongly about them the moment you have them. When we are feeling insecure and second guessing ourselves, we are looking for grounding. In the spin – as I call it. We cannot discern the truth – it is illusive to us. We keep thinking “I feel this way! Am I wrong?” What we need to recognize in that moment of that feeling is that we need to back up from the issue and get a wider perspective. The issue is co-created by us and another person and the solution is a longer but accessible one.  This episode is about creating a dose of perspective with context and tools. Often what this comes down to is we are struggling to believe our feelings and trust ourselves and often the other person is controlling us. That might be sinister or it might be totally innocent and invisible to that person. For example, it could be a person who doesn’t want you to leave them. Or it could be a parent who can’t see you any other way than a child. The reason this becomes toxic and unhealthy is when it prevents you from growth. If you have a light inside you that wants to grow, to stand on your own two feet and be the boss of yourself – then this is for you. Sponsors: Chewy: chewy.com/podhelpmebeme to save $20 on your first order with free shipping  BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/helpmebeme to get 10% off your first month of therapy  Indeed: Indeed.com/HELPMEBEME for a $75 sponsored job credit Wayfair: Wayfair.com    BOOK recos for this episode: Intimate Partners https://amzn.to/4kCyBQU Dance of Anger https://amzn.to/3Iqob9T Courage to Change https://amzn.to/44La6en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is about expanding your consciousness using moments of emptiness and dissatisfaction as a starting point. I will invite you to widen your capacity and open your energy to a higher level by “using the material” that is the dissatisfaction.  Lots of tools in this one. If you feel like you’ve been living loops of stagnation and have been unable to see what is blocking your happiness – like “I am doing all the right things, why do I feel empty?” Feeling that something is missing, that we need something to fix us or fill the void…Or being spiritually starved by your environment…Or the intimate relationships never pan out or become what we had hoped. A lot of this comes into play when we are following a bunk map – we set a goal that is a 2D snapshot and think “I just need this and then I am done!” But happiness is about growing in three dimensions, inwardly. So where to go from here?  Lean into your humanity and set the goal to go deeper. We need our humanity and connection to others on an authentic level. We need to utilize our truth and creativity and feel a worthiness in our experiences. It comes from our sense of spirituality: a sense of trust and faith in the universe. We need our own version of “God” whatever that might be, and if you don’t have that, you can grow it by taking small steps. The books I mentioned (True and False Magic) https://amzn.to/4luF8Ot And Notes to George: https://amzn.to/4kgc3Fo Support this week’s sponsors: BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/helpmebeme to get 10% off your first month Headspace: Headspace.com/HELPMEBEME60 to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days. Indeed: Indeed.com/HELPMEBEME for a $75 sponsored job credit Wayfair: Wayfair.com  Mint Mobile: mintmobile.com/helpmebeme - get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Breakups often bring a confusing mix of emotions tied to lost routines and self-identity. The discussion highlights the struggle between mourning the ideal relationship and accepting its reality. Listeners are encouraged to explore their feelings, utilizing tools like journaling and self-care for healing. An inspiring journey of personal transformation through forgiveness is shared, emphasizing the power of letting go. The importance of setting boundaries and embracing self-reflection for emotional well-being is also woven throughout, fostering personal growth.

Explore the challenges of midlife while reassessing happiness and personal fulfillment. Discover a three-part framework to navigate feelings of unfulfillment and realign with your authentic self. Learn practical tools like journaling and self-reflection to enhance well-being during transitions. Embrace small changes and gratitude to significantly boost your overall happiness. This engaging conversation encourages you to prioritize self-awareness and intentional life adjustments.

This is for complicated relationships with complicated boundaries, for example when you are stuck in a relationship you dislike, or you are dating but have gone through a life shift, so you fear choosing the wrong person. The reason I chose this topic is often when we are not fully activating our boundaries around the concepts of what we want and what rewards us, we allow a situation or another person to decide our future, for us. So something external will push us into a long-term situation that we never actively wanted or designed. When we are not fully solved as individuals, we may not know why we are not happy, what is not sitting right, and whether or not that’s “valid” for us to feel what we feel. In other words – there is a vagueness to our own feelings and we question ourselves, which keeps us more stuck in a situation. We may be emotionally ambivalent or have opposite feelings in a relationship, like dating when you are a single parent: any new relationship might bring up opposing priorities that need to be defined for a first time.  Although the situations I discuss are very different, walking into them with awareness of how you feel and simply giving yourself an opportunity to process feelings can be incredibly helpful and enlightening. Heads up there are TONS of journaling prompts in this one! Support our sponsors: Gabb: gabb.com/helpmebme - for the best deals sign up today, no contract required.  BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/helpmebeme to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you feeling anxious, overwhelmed and insecure? This is full of tools for creating an inner sense of sanctuary: a clarity and calm. This is designed for artists and sensitive types who are more open and therefore porous to the world. We take in a lot, feel a lot, and can become inundated with “feedback” which can be heavy to say the least. It’s important to cleanse your energy periodically: to tune your focus and reaffirm a helpful, positive reality versus a negative one. I offer tools and reflections for how to recalibrate your energy toward positivity. So zhuzhing up the inside through manual practices. Sending love! Here are the spiritual books I referenced and if they trigger you in any way, skip them and forget I brought them up! There’s a lot of “new” thinking in these… E Squared Inner Work You Are Psychic The Seat of the Soul Many Lives, Many Masters Notes to George: The Whisper   Sponsors: Chewy: chewy.com/podhelpmebeme to save $20 on your first order and get free shipping.  Gabb: gabb.com/helpmebme - for the best deals sign up today, no contract required.   Meaningful Beauty: Meaningfulbeauty.com/helpmebeme to receive 25% off and get the Targeted Treatment Duo gift set for free! Headspace: Headspace.com/HELPMEBEME60 to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days. Indeed: Indeed.com/HELPMEBEME for a $75 sponsored job credit Wayfair: Wayfair.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dive into the challenge of overcoming decision paralysis fueled by anxiety. Discover how past experiences shape our fear of change. Learn the importance of listening to your inner signals for personal growth. Explore the mental health crisis among youth and the negative impact of social media, along with innovative solutions. Plus, uncover the benefits of teaching kids financial literacy to build their confidence and responsibility. This journey emphasizes trusting yourself and taking calculated risks for growth.

How to ensure your life is conducive to empowerment and love. It can all end tomorrow – how are you living, today? If you are feeling anxious and overwhelmed, this is for cleansing and correcting your energy – becoming more deliberate in that embodiment.The goal for me in this episode is to remind you that you have a hand in resetting your focus and your energy and that that presence/how you show up absolutely affects the world around you. Is your life set up for your nervous system? Remember to be responsible in setting boundaries that honor you in your life. Only take in what keeps you active and powerful and channeling your energy toward the good. Today I know what activates me/what I can take in, and I also respect what overwhelms me to the point of incapacitation/what I cannot take in. Be very deliberate in how you welcome things into your psyche: watch what does good and what does not.I also want to remind you to have hope and to remain open to possibilities: we cannot see the future, from today right now. We cannot know all that will be and we will be a different person with different priorities when the future arrives. Sending love! Sponsors:Chewy: Chewy.com/podhelpmebeme to save $20 on your first order with free shippingVionic Shoes: vionicshoes.com and use code HELPMEBEME at checkout for 15% off your entire order when you log into your account. 1 time use only.Meaningful Beauty: Meaningfulbeauty.com/helpmebeme to receive 25% off and get the Targeted Treatment Duo gift set for free!Hungryroot: Hungryroot.com/HELPMEBEME and use code HELPMEBEME to get 40% off your first box and a free item of your choice for life.Indeed: Indeed.com/HELPMEBEME for a $75 sponsored job creditHeadspace: Headspace.com/HELPMEBEME60 to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The discussion opens with the impact of hormones on women's lives, especially during PMS, and how it relates to self-esteem. Listeners explore the need for personal reflection to combat stress and anxiety stemming from societal pressures. Practical tips highlight how to nurture self-love while addressing negative thought patterns. Tools for enhancing daily living and financial literacy are introduced, promoting empowerment through self-care and informed choices. Ultimately, it's about fostering a compassionate inner relationship and reclaiming peace in life.

Discover how to reconnect with your inner self and honor your personal truths amidst life's chaos. The discussion uncovers the concept of the 'thrive zone' and highlights the importance of self-awareness in combating feelings of disconnection. Learn about the dangers of suppressing emotions and how embracing authenticity can lead to fulfillment. The conversation also touches on modern parenting challenges, like ensuring kids' safety in tech use, and offers strategies for personal growth and emotional well-being.