Healthy Parenting Handbook with Katie Kimball

Power. Control. Parenting.Which of these three doesn’t belong?My guest today is Wendy Snyder, a positive parenting educator who reminds us, “Control is not the goal of parenting.”Obviously, there is a balance of power in a parent-child relationship, but taking the power or fighting over who has power isn’t the right game to play.Wendy will teach you:Why yelling is sometimes what parents do when they feel powerLESSWhy it’s so difficult to parent “cactus kids” - aka those who want to be in powerSteps to reduce your reliance on fear, force, bribery, rewards & nagging to influence your kidsPowerful positive strategies that not only help you self-calm, but also work to decrease pushback from your kiddosHow to get to the root of your child’s power-seeking misbehavior so you can effectively redirect them toward better behaviorIf you’re struggling with a powerful child or wishing you had a roadmap to calmer parenting, this one is for you!Wendy was a camp leader in #LifeSkillsNow Season 3. You can purchase access to the season here or see four free life skills workshops now!Thanks to today's sponsor Perfect Supplements. Shop here: https://kidscookrealfood.com/perfectResources We Mention for Raising Strong-Willed KidsWendy's free power struggles master classFind Wendy onlineIs your child highly sensitive?Get more practical tips for picky eaters hereFollow her on social media: Facebook, Instagram, Youtube The Fresh Start Family Show podcastWendy's free guide to raising strong-willed kids Kitchen Stewardship Kids Cook Real Food follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at kidscookrealfood.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

I used Tosha's tips the very DAY we recorded this interview, and I have to tell you -- they work. So well.Once you hear about her strategy for reducing frustration and nipping "negative spirals" in the bud, you'll know why when my husband spent a ton of time hanging with our then-5-year-old, Gabe, over Christmas break, he said:"You know, Gabe has had a really good break. He hasn't been having any tantrums or behavior issues at ALL. And I'm really treasuring my time with him...he won't be little for very much longer!!"Tosha Schore is a parent coach who specializes in the biggest surprise of her own life -- parenting boys!In this interview that I did NOT want to end, you'll learn:Why empowered women can still raise strong, balanced boysThe very first step to disciplining without punishment (I kind of had to ask this twice because I wasn't understanding; I was a little slow to catch on because the answer has nothing to do with children!!)Why words are not powerful enough to stop aggressive behaviorHow the isolation of modern parenting is hurting our effortsThe mindset shift that rocked my thinking when Tosha explained how to respond to and appreciate a boy getting upset when fun time ends (I will have to work HARD to implement this one, folks, I need all the encouragement I can get!)The most powerful antidote to aggression (and it's free to use!)I do think a lot of Tosha's tips apply to girls too, but I really appreciate her focus on boys and the disconnect a lot of mommas in particular feel with their opposite-gender child. (Yes, boys and girls are different! Amazing fact!!)Resources We Mention for Parenting BoysTosha's 10-day reconnect: Register now Tosha's websiteTosha's book: Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges (Amazon/Bookshop.org)Tosha's Facebook pageIt starts with a healthy parent: Interview with Dr. Ryan WohlfertPositive parenting strategies: Interview with Suzanne TuckerVisit today's sponsor, Happsy, at https://www.kidscookrealfood.com/happsy and see full show notes and video at https://www.kidscookrealfood.com/017. Kitchen Stewardship Kids Cook Real Food follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at kidscookrealfood.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

I’ve been telling everyone about this book!Ever since I read  The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey, it has truly changed my parenting. My mindset about the mistakes my kids make and little accidents they have is totally more peaceful, and the whole time I was absorbing the information, I was thinking, “How can I interview this author so I can share her amazing wisdom with my audience???”Turns out all I had to do was post something I had done using the Failure Philosophy with one of my kids here on Facebook, and someone tagged her and now — here we are! 😀Here are a few things we talked about:How teachers are finding that kids these days are literally “less teachable,” and how fear of making mistakes and inability to deal with frustration turned out to be at the rootJessica’s surprising story of how old her child was when he learned to tie his shoes, and how that wake-up call brought her middle school teaching strategies into her parentingWhat simple three-letter word we need to use so much more with our kids to help them focus on process and progressWhy it’s so hard for us as parents to let our kids fail!The reason college kids are taking longer to finish college even though they are really smart and have high test scores… One simple step to help our kids break free from their helplessnessWhy “self-directed executive function” should be part of your interaction with your kids, and some questions to ask them regularly An easy equation for figuring out how much responsibility we can give each of our children at various agesWhy the kitchen is an excellent place to promote failure and the motivation for us to do it!If you have kids in sports, want more homework help, and wish you knew what to do with report cards or chores and more, The Gift of Failure is a must-read (or listen to)!Resources We Mention for Letting Kids FailYou can find Jessica at her website.The Gift of Failure (Amazon/Bookshop.org)MindsetHow to Raise an AdultScreenwiseThe Stinky and Dirty ShowJessica’s blog post on laundryIf you enjoyed this interview, you’ll also enjoy my interview with Shannon Miller on instilling a “Gold Medal Mindset” in your kids and my talk about mastering Kitchen Stewardship Kids Cook Real Food follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at kidscookrealfood.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

I'm so happy to have my stress mastery mentor here today!Heidi Hanna, PhD, is one of the most intellectual, intuitive and compassionate people I know, and I'm honored to host her wisdom today. We recorded this interview in March 2020, when we were all in a tailspin and figuring out managing our stress was more important than ever!Fill your brain with Dr. Hanna's research and her personal experience today:At age 10, Heidi was fainting from stress - literally. Find out how to help if this happens to your child, or if they seem to get stomachaches and headaches in uncomfortable situations.Highly sensitive kids actually fare better than other kids if raised in the right environment...but we don't always get that right as you'll hear.What research is showing about how stress-sensitive people's brains work and why Dr. Hanna doesn't love the term "negativity bias," even though it's technically accurate to describe stress-sensitive people.Why HSCs sometimes spiral into thinking like, "It's all my fault, I messed that up, I'm so dumb, and this is why NO ONE LIKES ME!" (I feel like that's my whole high school life!)And more importantly, what parents can do to help kids stop that spiral, appreciate what their reactions are trying to tell them, and reverse the reaction.How we can look at the ways in which our kids (or ourselves) are reacting to stress and understand what recharge techniques they need to get more capacity.Dr. Hanna's encouragement for parents of HSCs and how we can see the positive about our children's personality.Resources We Mention for Managing StressDr. Hanna's websiteDr. Hanna's courses: Stress Mastery Fundamentals 101 and Stress Mastery FoundationsElaine Aron's WebsiteMy Healthy Parenting Handbook Episodes on Stress Mastery: part 1 and part 2My interview with Dr. K, an expert on highly sensitive childrenMy introduction to highly sensitive peopleGoNoodleHeartMath device helps regulate stress responseCheck out today's sponsor, JustThrive, at https://www.kidscookrealfood.com/justhrive, and use Katie15 for 15% off! Kitchen Stewardship Kids Cook Real Food follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at kidscookrealfood.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

We talked last week about STRESS and its impact on our health and our relationship with our families. I challenged you to be more aware of your breath and take the “Moment to Breathe” challenge, and a few of you chimed in after trying it that it’s really working!!Personally I found being aware of my breath and its ability to control my bodily reaction to stress to be life changing and revolutionary! Why? Because I can control my breath, and in this world where too often things feel out of control, that’s a game-changer.In part 2 today, we’ll discuss how to close the gap between demand and capacity…it turns out that stress ISN’T what happens to you that’s stressful, it’s a combination of what happens and how capable you are in reacting to it. (Hint: Responding is better than reacting anyway. More in the video!)I’ll teach my Stress Mastery instructor’s BFF method – you’ve learned the “B” and now for the rest! Dr. Heidi Hanna is the director of the American Institute of Stress and absolutely brilliant at making stress positive fuel for change, plus keeping everything easy to understand. I hope I share her information well as I’m certified as a “Stress Mastery Educator"!Show NotesTake this free quiz to find out how stressed you are.Free recharge suggestions and meditations.The Inner Balance sensorOur sleep hacks post on Kitchen StewardshipCheck out the free Stress Mastery for Busy Moms Challenge here! Kitchen Stewardship Kids Cook Real Food follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at kidscookrealfood.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

Raise your thumb if you feel STRESS on a normal day!We busy moms (and dads) tend to experience stress and feel it right down to our breathing and heart rate, and it affects the way we parent, our productivity, and our own mental AND physical health.Today I’m so excited to use my stress mastery training to teach you about how our brains respond to stress, how it affects our bodies, and best of all, how WE CAN be in control of it!Check out this one simple technique that you can teach your kids for stress relief!Notes for TodayThe American Institute of StressChef Junior cookbookGet more help with my Stress Mastery for Busy Moms free challenge! Kitchen Stewardship Kids Cook Real Food follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at kidscookrealfood.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

Ryan Pink is a survivor. Like many of us, he’s faced some hard things, and has come out the other side swinging.In this episode, we dive pretty deeply into trauma - what it is and isn’t, and how we can protect our kids from trauma digging too deeply into them.Ryan walks through his own healing journey, including how expensive it was (I hope you’re sitting down!).That experience led him to ask a lot of questions and talk to over 500 adults trying to heal from their own trauma, and he came up with some answers…and more questions.“What did we do to heal from trauma before therapy existed? Can we still tap into those strategies?”What if people don’t have a lot of money or bandwidth to figure out how to heal from their own demons?Ryan founded HopeGuide, an online service designed to reduce the barriers to healing for those with trauma. You’ll love hearing about how HopeGuide works, and even more, how Ryan instructs us to build resilience in our families for our children.Shall I spoil the ending? I think so:”Relationship is THE most important thing we can have.”If you’re on board with that, this interview is for you!Resourced We Mentioned Today:Hope Guide, for lower-cost guidance on healing from traumaThe Myth of Normal by Gabor Maté (Amazon/Bookshop.org)I talked all about helicopter parenting and free-range kids with Lenore SkenazyBuilding resilience in kids through self-compassion with Dr. Mary WildeTips for improving sleep qualityResearch on the different forms of magnesiumDr. Kelly Brogan on helping kids with depression and anxietyThe benefits of family dinnerDr. Meg Haworth on how your body might be holding onto trauma from childhood Kitchen Stewardship Kids Cook Real Food follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at kidscookrealfood.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

How does a mom get time for herself to dream?She uses a system!My guest today founded Mom University to give moms the training, tools, and support for the most important job they will ever do.In this episode, she’ll teach us about a proven method for figuring out what that “thing” is outside of motherhood that you really want, and then making it happen - without sacrificing your family in the process.In fact, everyone will be happier when Mom is doing better.We talk about making dreams into actionable goals, then making tiny habits that actually STICK to make those goals into a reality. Chanelle applies her system for all of you who are thinking, “I wish I could teach my kids to cook!” but it feels too big, too hard.You’ll love this inspirational episode!Resources for Moms We Mentioned Today:Mom University - scroll to the bottom of the page and opt in for the Simplify ToolboxThe Kids Cook Real Food™ eCourse and the free knife skills classSubscribe to Chanelle's Mom University podcastHow to teach kids to cook when you don't like messes.Chanelle's books on AmazonFind Chanelle on her website or on Instagram @UniversityforMoms‌ Kitchen Stewardship Kids Cook Real Food follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at kidscookrealfood.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

Sensory Processing Disorder refers to difficulties that happen in some children where their brain struggles to make sense of input coming from the sensory environment. Information comes to our brain through our five senses. The brain has to make sense of it so that we can react appropriately. The brains of kids with SPD struggle to make sense of this information quickly and effectively.This usually impacts eating in some way. There is a difference between picky eaters and kids with true feeding disorders. Kids that are picky won’t eat some foods, but at least they have a range of foods they eat. Kids with feeding disorders usually have less than 20 foods in their diet, and they may even be brand or presentation specific.Usually, the first step for BOTH of these types is exposure to new foods without expecting them to eat them. Listen to the interview to find out how to get kids to eat a wider variety of foods by asking them not to eat!Resources We Mention for Sensory Processing Disorder and Picky EatersMore on problem feeders vs. picky eaters and strategies for picky eatersMary Voogt is an expert on SPD as well because her own kids struggle with sensory processing. Here is a post on her own blog, my interview with her about eating styles, and her post on Kitchen StewardshipGet on the waitlist for my No More Picky Eating ChallengeMy episode with Renae Fieck on raising kids with sensory processing disorderDr. Beurkens' book Life Will Get Better Find Dr. Beurkens on her website Kitchen Stewardship Kids Cook Real Food follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at kidscookrealfood.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

See full show notes at kidscookrealfood.com/009. Plenty of parents complain about their kids being "so darn picky!" (including me, even though I know I shouldn't use that word!).But what IS a picky eater, really?Did you know:Only about 1/3 of kids are actually picky, although 50% struggle age 2-3.Only about 25% of kids outgrow it.5-10% are problem feeders and need professional help.Dr. Kay Toomey explains how parents can determine if their "severity" meter is accurate when it comes to their kids eating. Do you have a problem feeder who is truly extreme? Or just a picky eater? These questions will help you determine!And the craziest part -- it might not all be in your child's head, even if they are having trouble accepting a wide variety of foods.It turns out that what matters is how much it takes to chew, physically, and what food feels/looks/tastes/sounds like etc. to the child. Some picky eaters just never learned to chew properly! :o #mindblownHere you'll get help understanding WHY your kids are so wiggly at dinner, the special chair that could make all the difference, and more practical tips and picky eater solutions.According to Dr. Toomey, it takes real intentionality to help your kids expand their palates — most kids won’t just “grow out of it” like we secretly hope!From the extra little plate you’ll now set on the table to the way in which food is served, to your rules about who moves (the food or the kid), your routines are about to be turned upside down! But if your kids eat better with fewer power struggles…isn’t it worth it?Resources We Mention to Help Picky EatersFind Dr. Kay Toomey online hereDownload the Picky Eaters vs Problem Feeders PDFThe importance of family dinnersHow to teach your kids to clean up after a mealThe importance of letting kids play with their food10 Ways to prepare vegetables for picky eatersBig encouragement for kids to try new foodsRecipe for picky eaters: blended green soupThe magic of the tiny saladThe Tripp Trapp Chair by StokeyKeekaroo Height Right Chair by Special Tomato Kitchen Stewardship Kids Cook Real Food follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at kidscookrealfood.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!