The Different Types of Energizing Relationship Behaviors

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The key difference between energizing relationships and draining relationships lies in the type of response given when someone shares news. There are four different ways to respond: active constructive, passive constructive, passive destructive, and active destructive. The most energizing response is active constructive, where one shows genuine interest and encourages the person to share more. Passive constructive responses are neutral at best, while passive destructive responses focus on one's own achievements. Active destructive responses are unhelpful and dismissive. Research shows that people who engage in active constructive responses are seen as more energizing, charismatic, and enjoyable to be around.

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If navigating your 20s feels like a race against time, you’re not alone. You might be anxious about whether you’re on the right path (like whether you should stick to a conventional career or go travelling), you might be struggling to find your ‘true self’ (like what your purpose and passions are), or your might be struggling to balance your relationships with your 9-5 job. Let’s face it. The period of our 20s isn’t the easiest to navigate. Today I’m joined by Jemma Sbeghen. Jemma is the podcast host of The Psychology Of Your 20s, the podcast that talks through some of the big life challenges and changes of your 20s and what they mean for our psychology. Jemma has a degree in psychology and started her podcast during the covid lockdown where she applied psychological concepts she’d learned to the common problems people face in their 20s, including everything from imposter syndrome, to break ups and existential crisis’. In its first year, the podcast catapulted to Spotify’s top 10 podcast charts in the US, UK, and Australia. In the episode we talk about this feeling of uncertainty, often known as the quarter-life crisis, how to navigate these feelings filtering into different aspects of our life, as well as talking about the habits we can develop in our 20s to help us feel more in tune and at peace with our relationships, careers and identity.

(00:00) Intro

(01:34) What is a quarter life crisis?

(06:30) The paradox of choice

(12:57) Life is a picture but you live in a pixel

(16:20) The different narratives of your 20s

(29:00) Friendships are the most important relationships in our 20s

(31:10) Loneliness and alonement

(34:55) Journalling

(37:25) How to maintain friendships

(48:50) Setting boundaries

(53:12) Stepping out of your comfort zone

(01:12:54) Habits for finding work life balance

(01:21:05) Advice on finding your identity

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