Let a Win Be a Win in High Conflict
It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People
Letting a Win Be a Win in High Conflict
In high conflict situations, letting a win be a win means recognizing and appreciating any progress made in the interaction, mediation, or negotiation. It is important to stop and acknowledge the progress instead of pushing for more resolution or perfection. Seeking perfection can often sabotage the good progress that has been made. In a divorce mediation example, two parties made progress in two hours, and it was suggested to build on this progress in the next meeting. However, the husband's lawyer mistakenly tried to reinforce the progress by asking the husband if he felt better. This opened up emotions and caused the husband to react negatively, erasing the progress that had been made. It is crucial to understand that a win in high conflict situations is not about winning over the other person, but about making progress and building upon it.
