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The Power of Repair: Transforming Relationships through Acknowledgment and Responsibility
Repair is the act of going back to a moment of disconnection, taking responsibility for your behavior, and acknowledging the impact it had on another. Repair assumes there has been a rupture and aims to add elements that were missing in the first place: safety, connection, coherence, love, and goodness. Without repair, children may resort to self-blame, internalizing badness and fault, which can lead to negative consequences in adulthood. Repair effectively changes the past by rewriting the story, and it begins with self-repair, separating identity from behavior. It then extends to repairing with the child, involving naming what happened, taking responsibility, and stating what you would do differently next time. A 15-second intervention can have a lifelong impact, replacing a child's story of self-blame with self-trust, safety, and connection.
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