How to Deal with Anger When Appraisal is Hurt

To deal with anger when you don't want to feel angry, the advice is to pay attention to other things. For example, in an argument, you can focus on the possibility of extenuating circumstances instead of just feeling angry. Similarly, when faced with a horrific crime, shifting the attention to understanding the circumstances that led the person to commit such an act can change the emotions. The key takeaway is that changing your attention can help change your appraisal and deal with anger.