Melody Beattie

In this discussion, Melody Beattie, a groundbreaking self-help author, dives into the complex world of codependency. She distinguishes between healthy helping and harmful controlling behaviors, shedding light on the necessity of some codependence. Melody emphasizes that we often gaslight ourselves and explores the journey toward self-love and boundary-setting. Listeners will appreciate her insights on achieving emotional peace and the importance of embracing detachment for personal growth.

Codependency is the existence of unhealthy relationship where one person fixates on taking care of or even controlling the other, forgetting their own needs and letting boundaries fade away. These relationships might stem from childhood but have impacts in our adult lives, especially at work. In fact, many types of high stress jobs seem to be built for people who struggle with these issues.In this episode, host Morra Aarons-Mele speaks to a leading expert on codependency, Melody Beattie, about her recently re-released classic book Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself, and how to learn if you or your boss might have codependent tendencies.

Themes: Codependency, Addiction, Relationships, Boundaries, Technology, Social Media, Spirituality, Self- Love, Healing, Authenticity, Belonging, Transformation, Mental Health, Grief Summary:  Today I am jamming with self-help pioneer, Melody Beattie! Melody is the author of many bestselling books—including The Language of Letting Go, Playing It by Heart, The Grief Club, Beyond Codependency, and The Codependent No More Workbook. In 2009, Codependent No More was named one of the four essential self-help books of all time by Newsweek.  Melody Beattie’s compassionate and insightful look into codependency—the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another—has guided millions toward the understanding that they are powerless to change anyone but themselves and that caring for the self is where healing begins. Join us today as we jam about the ins and outs of codependency in relationships, the challenges faced by those stuck in addictive or enabling cycles, the importance of setting boundaries, and how to break free.    Discover: Melody's incredible journey of overcoming codependency and how she turned her life around, finding freedom and happiness along the way What codependency actually means, and how people can unknowingly fall into its trap The importance of setting boundaries with technology and social media, and why connecting with real people is where it's at for our well-being Tips and tricks to break free from addictive and enabling cycles, empowering yourself to make positive changes and embark on a journey of personal growth and healing 00:00 Intro  00:33 The fine line between being human and a codependent 04:06 How writing ‘Codependent No More’ saved her life 12:31 The role of men and women in relationships 17:58 Healing the division 24:00 Choose your own circumstance 28:21 Boundaries for tech and social media 32:42 Unveiling collective codependency 38:02 Trauma reflecting in present-day anxiety 40:22 How to break free 46:38 Learn to love yourself unconditionally 49:26 There’s nothing human about technology   Links: Book: Codependent No More (2022 updated edition!) https://melodybeattie.com/books/codependent-no-stop-controlling-others-start-caring/ Website: https://melodybeattie.com/   Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at http://www.curednutrition.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at http://createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy