Marshall Rosenberg

Working with anger, depression, self-judgement, and not giving away our power to cultural programming In this session, I would like to focus on how we apply non violent communication within ourselves. Then violent communication requires quite a transformation from how many of us have been programmed to communicate. Many of us have been programmed to communicate in terms of a language of categorizing people and their actions to judge what they are for doing what they’re doing. Excerpt: OJ Harvey at the University of Colorado, went around the world and took samples of literature from different cultures to see how often this verb “to be” was used in judging people’s actions good, bad, right, wrong, etc. And he correlated this with measures of violence - violence toward oneself, violence toward others, and he finds a high correlation the more cultures think in terms of what people are and their actions, the more violence in those cultures. We have four friends that can help alert us that we are thinking in a way that contributes to violence. These four feelings are very helpful because when we feel these feelings, we can use them as an alert, that we’re thinking in a way that’s contributing to violence on the planet. And here is an opportunity for us to transform that thinking. So what are these four friends that we have? anger, depression, guilt, and shame. Whenever we’re feeling those feelings, we are thinking in a way that we have been taught to think for about 10,000 years. A way of thinking designed to make us obedient to authority, but a way of thinking that is not conducive to safety and peace on our planet. So we can use those feelings as a wake up signal. Wake up, we’re thinking in a way that’s not conducive to peace, on the planet. Let’s transform the thinking into one that promotes peace on our planet. So let me show you what I mean. Training Session # 2 Marshall Rosenberg CNVC org (youtube) Full Transcript Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.

Self Empathy by Marshall Rosenberg Leave a voice message https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message

In this session, I'll be talking about how nonviolent communication can support us in deepening our intimate relationships. And let's start with a dialogue that is likely to be heard in almost any intimate relationship, at least variations of it. One person says to the other, do you love me? And the other person said, Oh, yes, of course.  And the first person said, but I want you to be really sincere about this. I want you to seriously look at this. Do you love me?  And the other person seriously contemplates this and waits and thinks and then finally said, Yes, I really do. The first person said, then why did it take you so long to respond? This question is very important, you know, do you love me And it's very hard to answer because we very often don't get clear in intimate relationships what we really mean by that word love. In an earlier session, I mentioned how some people use the word love as a feeling and emotion. And if they do that, it's pretty hard to know how to answer that question without reference to a specific time and place because feelings change every few seconds. In nonviolent communication, we use the word love as a need, and a very important need. What's very important that is to know how to manifest this need, what to do to contribute to that need being met, in people that we care for, and that we have intimate relationships with. I have found in working with couples for many years, that the best way that we can really meet people's need for love is to do two things. First of all, express those needs within us those messages within us that are the hardest to express the most scary to express. Because when we have that ability to share that which is not easy to express, we get a chance to get these needs fulfilled. But if we are so frightened of expressing these needs that we don't say anything that creates barriers in the relationship. Yet it's very difficult for many reasons for people to express these needs that need to be expressed in intimate relationships and when they do express the need Very often it's done with an energy that provokes the very opposite of what we would really like. On Youtube Full Transcript Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.

Needs and Empathy Leave a short voice message to be included on this podcast:   https://anchor.fm/nvc-archive/message For longer voice recordings, episode length recordings, or other NVC content to be shared on this podcast,   contact cognitivetechniq@yahoo.com to discuss content ideas.

Discover the power of NonViolent Communication through practical strategies for effective dialogue. Learn the difference between 'giraffe language' and 'jackal language' and how to express observations, feelings, needs, and requests without evaluations. Explore structured communication frameworks and the concept of emergency empathy for better conflict resolution. Dive into the psychological theories behind NVC and the importance of mirroring emotions for mutual understanding.