Lost Debate

Marriage, Polyamory, and Kids

May 16, 2024

Tyler Austin Harper, an Assistant Professor of Environmental Studies at Bates College, discusses the rise in polyamory among affluent progressives and its portrayal in the media. He explores generational attitudes and societal implications of this lifestyle. Brad Wilcox, a Sociology Professor at the University of Virginia, dives into his book 'Get Married,' addressing the disconnect between elite perspectives on marriage and related societal declines. They examine the impact of individualism and technology on marriage and childbearing rates, revealing a complex landscape of modern relationships.

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Brad Wilcox

Tyler Austin Harper

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Quick takeaways

The media's portrayal of polyamory, particularly among affluent progressives, often oversimplifies its complexities and emotional challenges for individuals involved.

Economic stability significantly influences marriage and childbearing rates, highlighting the connection between financial security and family formation in society.

Shifts in societal attitudes toward marriage and parenting may lead to intentional family structures, promoting stability and healthier outcomes for future generations.

Deep dives

Media's Role in Shaping Perceptions of Polyamory

Recent media focus has spotlighted polyamory, particularly showcasing affluent individuals and couples engaging in it. This surge began in late 2023, with several notable publications releasing articles and guides on the subject, which primarily featured wealthy heterosexual couples in urban settings. The extensive coverage raises concerns as it often promotes polyamory as an empowering lifestyle choice rather than addressing the complexities and potential pitfalls involved. One critical perspective is that the narratives presented tend to overlook the emotional struggles and implications for individuals who might not genuinely desire such arrangements, potentially misrepresenting the realities of many polyamorous relationships.

Intro

2min

Polyamory: Empowerment or Distress?

12min

Exploring the Fabric of Community Life: From Urban Challenges to Maine's Neighborhoods

2min

Navigating Relationships in a Mill Town

6min

Activism vs. Academic Rigor in Education

4min

Navigating Higher Education Challenges

14min

Marriage, Family, and Societal Values

25min

Shifting Trends in Marriage and Family Life

3min

Ravi welcomes Tyler Austin Harper and Brad Wilcox to the pod for a special episode on relationships. Ravi first talks with Tyler about polyamory, its portrayal in the media, and why a poly lifestyle has grown in popularity among affluent progressives. They also explore the decline of social institutions, generational attitudes toward relationships, and the impact of activism and progressivism in universities.

Ravi and Brad then discuss his new book Get Married, where he explores the divide between the way elites talk about marriage and relationships and the decisions they actually make. They dive into the decline of marriage and childbearing rates in the United States and globally, examining causes such as the rise of individualism, secularism, economic shifts, and the impact of technology.

Time stamps:

Tyler Austin Harper - 0:37

Brad Wilcox - 42:01

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