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ERP 409: How To Experience An Opening During A Difficult Conversation For More Progress & Connection — An Interview With Chad and Angela Imhoff

Jan 30, 2024

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Navigating conflicts with a romantic partner can feel like an impossible challenge for many couples. Disagreements are a natural part of any long-term relationship as each individual brings a unique set of experiences, needs, and communication styles to the dynamic.

Conflicts often escalate quickly as defensiveness and hurt feelings take over, resulting in distance rather than resolution. Without tools to reframe discussions, truly listen without judgment, and repair misunderstandings, the relationship itself can be damaged over time by an accumulation of unaddressed issues.

In this episode, we offer valuable insights for effectively handling these challenges. Drawing on concepts from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we explore methods to deliberately slow down reactions and enhance self-awareness, uncovering the underlying dynamics at play. The principles of EFT guide individuals to navigate conflicts with empathy, fostering a genuine desire to fully understand their partner. Practical strategies are presented, providing a toolkit for fostering openings in challenging conversations.

Dr. Chad Imhoff is an EFT Certified Therapist, EFT Supervisor, and the director of the Arkansas EFT Community. He serves as Clinical Director of the Joshua Center, where he is also a therapist. Angela received her Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and is a Certified Life and Relationship Coach. They have a passion for helping couples have relational transformation and are devoted to seeing healing and change happen among individuals, couples, and families.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode

6:04 The transformative journey of Dr. Chad and Angela Imhoff in relationship therapy.

17:07 The influence of attachment theory in relationship dynamics.

21:26 How appraisal theory shapes relationship dynamics.

32:22 Understanding and honoring attachment styles.

35:31 Real-life examples showing how couples continue to navigate and understand the details of their relationships over time.

49:55 Navigating relationship triggers: Transforming conflict into understanding and growth.

56:56 Advanced strategies for navigating triggers and fostering connection.

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Dr. Sue Johnson

George Faller

Dr. Ryan Rana