266: Soapbox Episode: Desire Discrepancy 101

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the nature of desire discrepancy in intimate relationships. She explains what desire discrepancy is, how it can emerge over time in all couples, and its universal nature. Jessa highlights the relative and situational aspects of discrepancy, emphasizing that roles of higher desire (HDP) and lower desire persons (LDP) can change. She also delves into the inherent control and pressure dynamics in such situations, and how they affect self-worth, relationship tension, and the meaning of sex. Future episodes will address common traps and strategies to bridge these gaps.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

01:08 Understanding Desire Discrepancy

01:35 The Universality of Desire Discrepancy

02:50 Relative Nature of Desire Discrepancy

03:58 Control Dynamics in Desire Discrepancy

06:12 Emotional Impact on Relationships

08:05 Pressure and Desire Discrepancy

09:05 Conclusion and Future Topics

09:33 Closing Remarks and Listener Engagement

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Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

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The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

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