John Wineland, an LA-based speaker, teaches about life purpose, sexual intimacy, and embodiment. In this podcast, he discusses masculine leadership, emotional leading, and cultivating intimacy within partnerships. He also shares a defining moment in his life and teases his upcoming book. Get ready for insights on relationships, masculinity, and personal growth.
Creating a safe container for open communication and prioritizing empathy is essential to deepen intimacy in relationships.
Practicing feeling your partner on a daily basis, praising their radiance and beauty, and matching breaths can deepen connection and intimacy.
Deep dives
Creating a Safe Space for Intimacy
To deepen intimacy in a relationship, it is important to create a safe container where partners can clear any resentments, withholds, or judgments. This requires prioritizing empathy and making the happiness and expression of one's partner more important than being right. A helpful practice is the Imago dialogue, which allows partners to express their needs and feelings without judgment. Cultivating a culture of honesty and open communication is key.
Practicing Feeling Your Partner
A simple but powerful way to deepen intimacy is to practice feeling your partner on a daily basis. This can be done by placing your awareness on them, feeling how they are breathing, moving, and experiencing emotions. Breathing together and matching your breath to theirs can create a deeper connection. Praising your partner for their radiance, beauty, and energy is also important, as it helps them feel seen and appreciated.
Broaching Desires and Feedback
When it comes to discussing desires and giving feedback in the relationship, creating a safe and non-judgmental space is crucial. Partners should feel free to express their desires and fantasies, using language that focuses on what they would love more of rather than criticizing or making the other person wrong. After sex, having open and honest conversations about what was enjoyed and what could be improved can further enhance intimacy and connection.
The Power of Language in Rewriting Programming
Language plays a significant role in intimate relationships, as it helps shift old patterns and beliefs. Choosing words that praise and appreciate one's partner helps create a culture of trust and vulnerability. Additionally, language can be used to open new possibilities and reshape how partners communicate their desires and needs. By focusing on language that affirms and uplifts, couples can rewrite their programming and create a more fulfilling connection.
For the better part of a decade, John Wineland, an LA-based speaker, teacher and workshop facilitator has been guiding men and women in the realms of life purpose, sexual intimacy and embodiment.
Known for his groundbreaking work with men, and his vision to create 1000 men's groups in the next five years, John travels world-wide teaching his vision of embodied men's work and deep relational practice. John's embodiment driven teaching draws from not only over 30 years experience of his own Buddhist meditative practice, but from the deep lineages of Vajrayana, Tantra, Kundalini yoga; as well as the Taoist traditions of Iron Shirt Qi Gong, to create a profound experience for men and women looking to create depth, passion and boldness in their relationships and their lives.