Lost Touch? Simple Prompts to Reignite Friendships [Social Intelligence Brief]
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May 29, 2025
Feeling disconnected from friends? Discover the power of surprise check-ins and why people appreciate them more than you think. Learn four actionable strategies to reignite those important connections, like asking for advice to show respect or sharing memories to spark nostalgia. Explore how following up on past guidance can deepen relationships and why reconnecting can be more impactful than making new friends. It's time to take the leap and reach out!
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Maintain Relationships Over Time
Relationships decay over time, but brief contact prevents quality decline.
Maintaining old relationships is easier and more impactful than starting new ones.
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Value of Surprise Check-Ins
People value surprise check-ins more than senders expect.
The longer the silence, the greater the recipient's appreciation for reconnecting.
question_answer ANECDOTE
The Power of Reaching Out
Johnny Dzubak shared how people reaching out to him after years made him feel special.
It's rewarding to be on the receiving end of reconnection, adding value to lives.
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You’ve got names in your phone that make you smile—but when’s the last time you actually reached out? In this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ Harbinger and Johnny Dzubak share four simple, science-backed strategies to reconnect with old friends, former mentors, and professional contacts—even if it’s been years.
From “because I thought of you” texts to expert taps and nostalgia sparks, this is your action plan for rebuilding relationships that matter. If you’ve been waiting for the perfect moment to reach out, this episode is your sign to stop waiting and start reconnecting.
What to Listen For
[00:00:00] Why reconnection matters—and why it feels harder than it actually is
[00:03:00] Why people appreciate surprise check-ins more than you think
[00:04:30] Strategy #1: The Expert Tap—ask for advice to reignite respect
[00:06:30] Strategy #2: The Thoughtful Share—send content that reflects shared interests
[00:08:30] Strategy #3: The Nostalgia Spark—use memories to bring back connection
[00:09:30] Strategy #4: The Results Loop—follow up on past advice to show impact
[00:10:30] Why mentors love hearing the outcome of their guidance
[00:12:00] This week’s challenge: Reconnect with 3 people using any strategy
Episode Takeaways
Most people love being contacted out of the blue, even if it’s been years
Rebuilding old relationships is often faster and more impactful than making new ones
Use the Expert Tap to ask for advice—it shows respect and reignites connection
Send a Thoughtful Share (article, podcast, project) to rekindle shared interests
Trigger warm emotions through Nostalgia Sparks—photos or throwback memories
Close the Results Loop by showing how someone’s past advice helped you
Reaching out adds real value to others’ lives and strengthens your network long-term
This week: reconnect with one friend, one mentor, and one former coworker
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