The Dildorks Cis & Tell
Jul 4, 2023
Dive into the complexities of cisgender identity as Kate shares her personal journey and the shifting landscape of gender presentation. Explore the intersection of style and identity, reflecting on how fashion influences self-perception. Listen as misconceptions about gender and pronouns are challenged, emphasizing respect for individual experiences. The conversation also touches on the motivations behind cis individuals experimenting with testosterone and the joys of being recognized for one's true self in an often cisnormative world.
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Cisgender Is Not a Slur
- Cisgender means your gender identity aligns with your gender assigned at birth and is not a slur but a factual Latin-derived descriptor.
- People often mistake "cis" for a slur due to discomfort with being identified as part of a majority or default group.
Use the Gender Workbook Often
- Explore gender deeply through tools like Kate Bornstein's Gender Workbook to better understand your identity and expression.
- Reflect on identity regularly as it can evolve over time; revisiting such exercises every 5-10 years can be helpful.
Boyish Style vs Masculinity
- Kate's personal style blends 1950s pinup, 1980s teen queen, and British schoolboy elements, with queerness influencing her boyish presentation.
- She distinguishes boyish style from masculinity, embracing androgyny and queer femininity for empowerment and swagger.
