Bare Marriage Episode 179: Why Did a Church Put a Marital Rape Victim under Church Discipline?
Today I want to tell you the story of an amazing woman who was the victim of her marriage AND her church that knew all the gory details, and yet chose to put her under discipline when she decided to end the marriage.
TRIGGER WARNING
In the first half of the podcast there is graphic descriptions of what her husband did to her. I did mention during the podcast when this was about to occur, so that people could fast forward if they chose to. But the description is horrendous. I wanted people to know what she was facing, and to understand her pastor knew this too.
NOTE ON NEURODIVERGENCE
Part of this woman’s story, she believes, is her husband’s lack of diagnosis for autism, which she believes contributed to his inability and unwillingness to see things from her perspective.
Plenty of autistic people are able to relate emotionally with their spouses, even if they do it in different ways. And they value connecting.
What is shared in this podcast is merely her story, and we understand that it is not the case with many neurodivergent people, who can have loving marriages.
THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST
- Our new Fixed It for You Workbook! It’s selling so well, and it’s still on for just $4.99–until Monday!
- The marital rape posts in our original series: The 2 kinds of rape; what to do if you’re a victim of marital rape; 5 next steps if you realize you’ve coerced your wife into sex
- Kate Shellnutt’s article in Christianity Today about John MacArthur’s church’s further abuse of women, and Julie Roys’ account about Eileen Gray that broke the story.
- My commentary from last week about the John MacArthur situation
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