Securely Attached Why you keep getting triggered: Understanding insecure attachment and breaking the cycle with Jessica Baum
Oct 28, 2025
Jessica Baum, a licensed mental health counselor and relationship expert, joins to unpack the complexities of insecure attachment. They dive into how childhood experiences shape adult behaviors and the nuances between avoidant and anxious caregiving. The discussion covers the 'Wheel of Attachment,' emphasizing the fluidity of attachment styles. Baum highlights the gap between awareness and healing, the importance of regulating the nervous system, and how inner work can transform relationships and parenting. Insight and action are key to breaking the cycle.
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Early Attachment Is Implicit And Lasting
- Early attachment patterns form before we have explicit memories and shape how we relate as adults.
- These implicit, sensation-based memories guide reactions in relationships and parenting.
Do Your Own Healing First
- Do healing work for yourself to increase your availability for repair with your children.
- More self-holding and regulation expands your ability to repair and build secure bonds.
Sensations, Not Stories, Build Attachment
- Infants form far more implicit (sensory) memories than explicit (narrative) memories.
- Those implicit sensations store the felt sense of safety or threat that becomes attachment wiring.
