#486: The 6 Stages Of Relationships: Thais Gibson

Nov 24, 2025

Thais Gibson, a relationship expert and co-founder of The Personal Development School, delves into the six stages of relationships, from the exhilarating Honeymoon to the challenging Power Struggle. She discusses how many couples falter in the Power Struggle and offers insights on transforming conflict into intimacy through vulnerability. Thais emphasizes that secure attachment is attainable through specific skills, guiding anxious and avoidant partners to build lasting connections. Practical steps for improving communication and fostering deeper trust are also explored.

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INSIGHT

Relationships Have A Predictable Life Cycle

Relationships follow a six-stage life cycle: Dating, Honeymoon, Power Struggle, Rhythm, Devotion, Everlasting.
Each stage has rites of passage you must learn to progress rather than view conflict as failure.

ADVICE

Date Intentionally And Be Vetted

Define your standards, needs, and non-negotiables before dating and choose environments where those people appear.
Show your true self early so you get vetted and avoid harsher ruptures later.

INSIGHT

Attachment Predicts Dating Pace

Attachment styles shape dating pace: anxious people rush commitment; avoidant people delay.
These patterns set up how much conflict you'll face once comfort drops the mask.

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In this episode Mark welcomes relationship expert Thais Gibson to break down the six stages of relationships—from Dating and Honeymoon to Power Struggle, Rhythm, Devotion, and the Everlasting stage—and the exact rites of passage required to move through each. Together they expose why most couples stall (and split) in the power struggle, how to turn conflict into intimacy through vulnerability, needs-based communication, and trait integration, and why secure attachment isn’t a mystery—it’s a set of repeatable skills. You’ll learn how anxious partners can stop chasing, how avoidant partners can stop flaw-finding, and how both can build the habits that create a lasting “us.” If you’re ready to trade roller-coaster love for a relationship that’s rooted, resilient, and deeply satisfying, this conversation is your roadmap.

Thais Gibson is the co-founder of The Personal Development School, a best-selling author, podcast host, Ph.D. recipient, and a leading expert in personal development and attachment trauma. With over 13 certifications in modalities such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Hypnosis, and Somatic Experiencing, she spent nearly a decade in a high-demand client practice where a growing waitlist highlighted the need for more accessible tools for emotional healing. This inspired her to create The Personal Development School (“PDS”), which has since expanded into a global community of over 55,000 members across 145+ countries, supported by her extensive clinical experience and research.

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