EP 514: Maybe There Isn't a Problem at All with SJ

In this tender and powerful coaching session, Christine works with SJ—a single mother who has done tremendous inner work but still wonders if something is blocking her from partnership. Together, they explore the difference between apathy and protection, generational patterns, and the fear of letting someone see you at your most vulnerable.

As SJ opens up about her history, caregiving responsibilities, and longing for connection, Christine reflects back the progress she's already made and challenges the belief that there's "a problem" to be solved. Instead, this conversation shows how surrender, self-love, and reframing our stories can transform what we see as liabilities into pathways for deeper intimacy.

If you've ever felt "stuck," compared your progress to others, or believed that your life circumstances made you unlovable, this episode will help you soften those fears and recognize the growth already alive within you.

Consider/Ask Yourself

• Do you sometimes confuse surrender with apathy?
• Have you felt so self-sufficient that there's little room for anyone else?
• Do you carry the fear that your challenges or past make you undesirable in relationships?
• How might it feel to let someone witness you in your weakest moments and discover that you are still worthy of love?

Key Insights and A-HAs

• Not every challenge is a "problem" to be solved—sometimes there's no problem at all.
• What looks like apathy may actually be self-protection.
• True partnership is about interdependence, not codependence.
• Intimacy often deepens when we let others see us in our hardest moments.
• Shifting your inner language and beliefs can change how others experience your life story.

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