Paul Millerd, author of "Good Work" and "The Pathless Path," shares his journey from a high-stakes consulting career to a more meaningful, creative life. He discusses the concept of an 'Identity Earthquake' when prioritizing personal fulfillment over societal expectations. The conversation covers redefining success and authenticity in work, the impact of remote work on personal growth, and the emotional relationship with money. Millerd encourages embracing uncertainty and aligning your career with your values for a more joyous life.
Paul Millerd advocates for creative expression and alignment with personal values over societal expectations, reshaping the concept of work satisfaction.
The impact of childhood experiences on professional aspirations reveals the psychological need for validation and the dangers of emotional avoidance in careers.
Embracing the uncertainty of a 'pathless path' allows individuals to explore authentic passions, prioritizing intrinsic fulfillment over conventional success metrics.
Deep dives
Reclaiming Ambition Through Authenticity
The discussion revolves around the idea that work does not inherently have to be a source of dissatisfaction. By exploring one's true desires and interests, individuals can reclaim their inner ambition and align their career paths with what genuinely excites them. Paul Millard, having transitioned from a consulting career that left him unfulfilled, emphasizes the importance of recognizing and nurturing one's passions rather than adhering to societal expectations. This introspective journey allows individuals to redefine what work means to them, moving towards paths that resonate on a deeper emotional level.
Childhood Influences on Career Choices
Both speakers share experiences of feeling inadequate during their childhood, which influenced their drive for success in their careers. They recount episodes from their youth where feelings of self-consciousness led to an intense focus on achievement as a means of validation. This led to a pattern of emotional avoidance, where accomplishments shielded them from confronting deeper feelings of inadequacy. Understanding these formative experiences helps illustrate the psychological ties that often dictate one's career trajectory and the pursuit of external validation.
The Importance of Uncertainty in Growth
Millard discusses the transition from a conventional career path to embracing uncertainty, emphasizing the profound growth that comes from stepping into the unknown. He recounts his deliberate choice to quit a stable job and embark on a 'pathless path,' which led to discovering his true passions. This journey involves experimenting with various creative endeavors without the constraints of traditional success metrics, allowing for a more authentic expression of self. By being comfortable with uncertainty, individuals can foster resilience and adaptability in their careers.
Defining Good Work and Good Enough Work
The concept of differentiating between 'good work' and 'good enough work' is central to the conversation, highlighting the significance of prioritizing meaningful engagement over financial gain. Good work refers to activities that provide intrinsic satisfaction and fulfillment, while good enough work serves as a necessary means to support oneself financially while pursuing passion projects. Millard emphasizes that understanding this hierarchy allows individuals to strategically allocate their time and energy, ensuring they remain connected to what brings them joy. This perspective encourages a balance between financial stability and personal fulfillment.
Finding Purpose and Connection in Work
The discussion concludes by reiterating the essential question of what individuals truly want from their work and lives. Both speakers highlight the need to reconnect with their values, focusing on meaningful connections, creativity, and time with loved ones as integral to their definitions of success. The importance of fostering a deep connection with one's work not only enhances personal satisfaction but also informs the choices made regarding careers and projects. Ultimately, aligning one's career with personal values leads to a more fulfilling and purpose-driven life.
It’s rare to see someone leave the McKinsey/BCG track to become a writer. This involves financial sacrifices and an “Identity Earthquake.” But what do you gain? The right to creatively express yourself and to know that you are living in alignment. And that you’re doing your Good Work. [Episode 73]
Paul Millerd is the author of Good Work and The Pathless Path.
