Episode 129: High-Conflict Divorce and Family Court Advocacy with Tina Swithin

My guest, Tina Swithin, survived a “Category Five Divorce Hurricane,” while acting as her own attorney in a high-conflict custody battle that turned her family’s life upside down for over a decade. Tina is the author of Divorcing a Narcissist and the founder of One Mom’s Battle. She continues to champion children’s rights through her family court advocacy and works to raise awareness of the issues in the family court system and to educate the general public on post-separation abuse and narcissistic abuse. 

Show Highlights

• Tina shares her journey of becoming an “accidental” author and family court advocate - and how she came to grips with the fact that she couldn’t fix her ex’s narcissism, and would either need to accept this was her life or move on. 
• “It took me almost six years to really see who my ex-husband was. I can't go into family court and expect that the judge is just going to see that this person is a problem...It's a marathon to get to the point where they do recognize who the problem person [is in the relationship]. ”
• Family court is simply not equipped to deal with high-conflict divorce proceedings, plus some of the aspects that are broken.
• The aftermath of divorcing a narcissist: post-separation abuse.

Learn More About Tina:

Tina Swithin survived a “Category Five Divorce Hurricane” while acting as her own attorney in a high-conflict custody battle that turned her family’s life upside down for over a decade. While divorces are never easy, Tina quickly learned that a divorce involving a narcissist takes the term, “high-conflict” to a level that few can comprehend. To articulate what was happening, she took shelter from the storm by chronicling her journey in her (now) internationally recognized blog, “One Mom’s Battle.” Tina’s plight grew from just one mom to a village of tens of thousands who all share the same story. There were different variations and nuances, but the common denominator is toxic, high conflict individuals, and post-separation abuse.  

With all odds against her, Tina’s battle came to an end on August 30, 2019, when she successfully terminated her ex-husband’s parental rights. Tina has chosen to assume the title of survivor versus victim and has become an advocate for change in the Family Court System after seeing the flaws first-hand. Tina believes that the courts have lost sight of their primary focus, which should be the best interest of the child and instead, are too focused on parental rights. Tina believes that children are suffering unnecessarily due to the lack of education on the front lines—and behind the judicial bench.    

Tina Swithin is the author of Divorcing a Narcissist (series) and founder of the High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program. Tina Swithin has been awarded honors such as the “Top 20 Professionals Under 40” and the “Top 40 Professionals Under 40” in several regional California newspapers. Tina resides in San Luis Obispo, California with her husband and her two daughters.

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