Stop Trying to Change That Guy (Infinitely Happier, Part 5)

Today we’re going to do a little relationship brain surgery. 

Because when you’re trying to change your life, it seems like there’s always one person- THAT GUY- who’s out there to stymie you. 

Last episode, we talked about the new job I’m taking in a new place. I'm so pumped about it, because Lisa and I and our team are bringing neurosurgery to a community that’s never had access before. And I have decided to make it the best and most successful part of my career.

I want you to make the same decision: success is the only option because you're tired of being stuck in some places of your life. What if you could guarantee that, with a solid purpose, careful planning, and a little help, there was no chance that you could fail to make major life change happen in your mind, body, spirit, work and relationships?

I'm here to tell you that it's possible. No one knows what life's going to hold for us. There's a lot of scary stuff out there- the economy, COVID-19, the uncertainty of aging... there's no telling what might come along in your life. But if we're put together right, we can not just survive but actually thrive despite our circumstances and have a healthier, better, and happier life. 

Today, we’re going to talk about what to do when there’s THAT GUY out there, getting in your way, causing you trouble, being mean or abusive or hateful or whatever. It requires brain surgery, learning to look at relationships in a new way. And you’ll be surprised how effective it is.

You might be saying, “But Doc, how can I change my mind, how can I learn to be infinitely happier when THAT GUY keeps doing things to irritate, hurt, anger, offend, and cause me trouble?”

You know THAT GUY- no matter how hard you try, there's that one person in your life who's always out there, saying the wrong thing, not doing the right thing, holding you back, putting you down, being mean or neglectful or unfair or abusive to you. It might be more than one person. It might be your husband, your mom, your boss.

But trust me, if you hate THAT GUY, you're the one who's going to suffer.

My new book is called Hope is the First Dose: A Treatment Plan for Recovering from Trauma, Tragedy, and Other Massive Things. It is coming out on July 25, but you can pre-order it now anywhere books are sold.

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