Love After Loss & The Vulnerability Gap

Grief changes us, and sometimes, it’s also what brings us together.

This week, a listener shares: “My partner and I both lost our spouses, and we bonded over that. Now, three months in, I’m the only one opening up and being vulnerable. Am I asking too much? Or moving too fast?”

In this episode, Damona explores what it really means to show up emotionally after loss, and why vulnerability often doesn’t look the same from both sides. You’ll hear how to honor your own emotional pace, set gentle boundaries, and recognize the difference between emotional availability and avoidance—even when love is in the room.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Why shared grief doesn’t always mean shared emotional timing
• How to spot different expressions of vulnerability (and not miss what’s there)
• What to do when language that’s meant to be playful actually feels off
• How to speak up about emotional needs without creating conflict
• Why “moving in” can’t solve emotional distance

Resources & Links: Download Damona’s Frustration Free Dating Guide at DatesandMates.com

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