Embracing Intensity 264: Overcoming Perfectionism: Building Self-Compassion for Gifted and Neurodivergent Adults
Are you a gifted or neurodivergent perfectionist struggling to overcome the damaging effects of perfectionism? In this episode of the Embracing Intensity podcast, host Aurora Remember Holtzman invites special guest Aileen Kelleher, a therapist and life coach, to delve into the topic of overcoming perfectionism. Together, they explore the intersection between perfectionism and giftedness and discuss the various ways in which perfectionism can impact our lives. From high expectations and low self-esteem to time limits and parental expectations, Aurora and Aileen shed light on the challenges faced by perfectionists and provide practical strategies for managing perfectionistic tendencies and fostering self-compassion. Join the Embracing Intensity community at embracingintensity.com to dive deeper into understanding and overcoming your own perfectionism. Gain access to courses, tools, and support from like-minded individuals who appreciate and celebrate the power of high personal standards. You can also, explore the free self-regulation workbook for gifted and neurodivergent adults, titled "Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity," which offers a practical guide for overcoming perfectionism and embracing your unique abilities. Visit the show notes or embracingintensity.com for more information and resources. In this episode:
- The definition and negative impact of perfectionism, including its association with depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. - Overlaps between perfectionism and giftedness, such as high expectations, sensitivity, and self-criticism. - The unhealthy coping mechanisms often employed by perfectionists, such as procrastination and avoidance. - Strategies for managing perfectionism, including incremental steps, setting realistic goals, and practicing self-compassion. - The importance of recognizing and embracing the messy nature of overcoming perfectionism and learning new skills. - The role of self-compassion and cultivating present-moment awareness in overcoming perfectionism and achieving high performance. - The damaging effects of perfectionism on daily life, relationships, and emotional well-being. - Practical tips for parents and educators to support gifted children and help them navigate the pressures of perfectionism. - The unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in managing perfectionistic behaviors and finding balance in their lives. By addressing the problem of perfectionism and providing practical strategies for overcoming it, this episode offers valuable insights and guidance for high achievers, gifted individuals, and neurodivergent adults who struggle with the damaging effects of perfectionism in their own lives. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of perfectionism and learn how to cultivate self-compassion and embrace your unique abilities.
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