Separation anxiety can be tough for both kids and parents. One mom feels overwhelmed by her four-year-old's extreme demands for closeness, while another worries about her two-year-old's tears when she leaves. The discussion revolves around finding the balance between comforting kids and fostering their independence. Janet offers insights on compassionate communication and setting healthy boundaries, aiming to help parents nurture their children's emotional growth and resilience during transitions.
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Managing Separation Anxiety
Acknowledge children's distress during separation, but avoid feeling guilty or overly apologetic.
This transmits insecurity to the child, hindering their ability to cope with separation.
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Understanding Bids for Closeness
Children's bids for closeness aren't solely about physical proximity; they crave emotional connection.
Allow them to express difficult feelings about separation without taking control.
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Setting Boundaries
Set clear boundaries, even if children object or have meltdowns.
This teaches children valuable lessons about respecting others' boundaries and decisions.
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This book provides practical ways to respond to the challenges of toddlerhood while nurturing a respectful relationship with your child. It covers common toddler concerns such as setting clear boundaries without yelling, understanding behaviors like biting, hitting, and tantrums, and advice for parenting strong-willed children. Lansbury’s approach to discipline is seen as an act of compassion and love, helping parents to be gentle leaders and stay calm in challenging situations.
Is it ever okay to say no to our child's requests for closeness or attention, to separate when that makes them upset? What if these requests are frequent, or even seem to evolve into a habit of unreasonable, seemingly over-the-top demands? In this episode Janet responds to two notes from parents who feel they may be in this predicament. One shares that her four-year-old "starts crying hysterically and won't calm down" if the parent doesn't acquiesce to her demands immediately. This parent understandably feels stressed. "It's getting to a ridiculous point, and the demands seem to be growing," she says. "It feels like I'm being held hostage."
The second mom shares that her two-year-old often cries when she leaves her side, even when her dad is there for her. She wonders if this is a sign her daughter is anxious and if there's something more or different the parents should be doing.
In both cases, these parents are hoping to help their kids feel more confident and secure, and Janet shares a perspective she believes will help them achieve these goals.
Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: NoBadKidsCourse.com.
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