Thais Gibson: How Attachment Styles Control Your Love Life and How to Reprogram It

Oct 8, 2024

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What if your childhood experiences shaped your relationships more than you ever realized?

In today’s episode, I’m joined by Thais Gibson, an expert in attachment theory, who reveals how our subconscious rules for love shape every connection we form. Thais breaks down how these attachment styles influence not just romantic relationships but also our friendships, family dynamics, and most importantly, our relationship with ourselves.

Thais and I dive deep into the roots of attachment theory, exploring how core wounds from our past can keep us stuck in unhealthy patterns—and more importantly, how we can heal and reprogram these wounds. With her insights and actionable strategies, Thais explains how anyone can shift from an insecure attachment style to a secure, thriving connection.

We also discuss the transformative power of understanding your own needs, setting healthy boundaries, and learning how to cultivate emotional regulation for deeper, more fulfilling relationships. This episode will leave you inspired to change the way you approach love and connection.

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
02:27 What is Attachment Theory?
07:38 Identifying your core wounds
13:16 Reprogramming emotional triggers
17:27 How past emotional scars shape present reactions
20:55 Why do you keep dating the same type?
23:37 Heal yourself first
26:52 Learn what your needs are in a relationship
28:52 Communicate your needs vulnerability and transparently
31:34 Have healthy boundaries
32:23 Why do you find secure people boring?
35:23 The six stages of relationships
37:13 Are you hooked on the drama or the person?
40:40 The difference between sacrifice and compromise
43:45 Being in a relationship with a dismissive avoidant person
46:13 Enmeshment
52:04 Can you be a mix of attachment styles?
54:41 When anxious meets avoidant
57:17 What are your non-negotiables?
59:51 What are your standards or needs?
1:01:19 How do you actually feel when you’re around someone?
1:04:16 Three questions to ask your partner
1:09:24 Thais’ other books
1:10:48 Know more about Thais

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