A Really Good Cry

Tired of fighting your inner critic?Struggling to say no without guilt?Why does comparison feel so painful, and how do we use it to grow instead?Do your friendships feel more like nostalgia than connection?   In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with bestselling author and clinical psychologist Dr. Julie Smith for a deeply honest, relatable, and practical conversation about what it actually means to take care of your mental health.   Dr. Smith opens up about her own journey from NHS therapist to one of the world’s most followed psychologists, and shares the science and soul behind her new book Open When?, a guide for navigating life’s emotional ups and downs.   Together, Radhi and Julie explore the traps we fall into — like comparison, envy, self-doubt, and the fear of saying “no” — and how to lovingly untangle them. You'll learn how to set boundaries without guilt, how to respond to resentment, and how to speak to yourself like a coach, not a bully.   In this episode, you’ll learn: Why comparison can destroy relationships—and how to stop doing it. How to turn envy into a powerful guide for your growth. The truth about friendships that fade, and how to handle them with grace Why guilt isn’t a sign you’re wrong—it’s a sign you care What to do when your inner critic won’t shut up How to be socially brave (even if you feel awkward) What “winning” arguments can cost—and how to argue with love How to reconnect with your real values when life feels overwhelming This episode is not just therapy—it’s empowerment, emotional clarity, and permission to be human. If you've ever felt "not enough" or lost in the noise of your own mind, Dr. Julie Smith offers you a way back to yourself.   Follow Julie: https://share.google/c1zQm2CV2X5Z6AN4r https://youtube.com/@drjulie https://www.tiktok.com/@drjulie https://www.instagram.com/drjulie Follow Radhi: https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ https://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/ https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukia See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why do we rush to fill silence even when there's nothing more to say?Are you using filler words to hide your nerves or to prove you're still interesting?What are you trying to cover up with “like,” “um,” or oversharing?When was the last time you sat in silence with someone you love, or with yourself? In this solo episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi takes you deep into an unexpected topic: silence. What starts as a reflection on eliminating filler words like “um” and “like” quickly becomes an introspective and revealing look at the discomfort we feel when we’re quiet—and what we’re really trying to hide. She shares how learning to pause and breathe while speaking transformed her confidence, and how too often, we speak just to prove we belong. But what if true connection doesn't come from filling every gap—but from being fully present, even in stillness? Radhi also opens up about self-monitoring, the pressure to perform in conversations, and how she's learning to feel safe even when she has nothing to say. Plus: a sweet life update on her grandma’s health, nostalgia in London, and a birthday plan that’s pure joy. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why filler words can be subtle signs of insecurity and anxiety. How silence can feel threatening—but also freeing. Tools to eliminate filler words without losing your flow. Why slowing down your speech makes people actually listen. How to feel more seen and less performative in conversations. The emotional impact of always adjusting to fit in. What it means to be present with yourself—and others. This episode is a gentle invitation to stop performing and start feeling. Whether you’re a fast talker, a chronic over-sharer, or someone afraid of awkward silences—this one will meet you where you are. Follow Radhi:https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQhttps://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukiaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are your unrealistic expectations the reason you’re still single?Do you actually want a partner, or just a “perfect” person who doesn’t exist?Is your dating app profile keeping you single without you even realizing it?Can you tell the difference between a pet peeve and a dealbreaker?   In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with Logan Ury—behavioral scientist, dating coach, and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge—for an honest, myth-busting conversation on love, dating, and emotional intelligence in the modern world.   Together, they unpack the hidden tendencies that quietly sabotage our relationships, the outdated myths we’ve been sold about romance, and why our obsession with “the spark” might be holding us back from something deeper and more real. Logan shares the truth about modern dating apps, how to read digital body language, and what Gen Z is teaching us all about vulnerability and connection.   Whether you’re single, dating, or somewhere in the messy middle, this episode is a warm, honest guide to building relationships with more self-awareness, clarity, and compassion.   In this episode, you’ll learn: How to spot your unconscious dating tendencies Why emotional intelligence is more attractive than the “spark” The difference between a red flag and a personal preference How to write a dating profile that actually reflects who you are What to do on a first date—and what to never ignore The questions to ask yourself before becoming exclusive How to approach dating with curiosity instead of pressure   If you’re tired of feeling like love is something to “get right,” you’re not alone. This conversation is a call back to what actually matters: presence, emotional integrity, and connection that’s honest, even when it’s messy.   Follow Logan Ury: https://www.loganury.com/http://instagram.com/loganuryhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/loganury/https://www.tiktok.com/@loganury Follow Radhi:https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQhttps://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukiaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Can you mourn someone who’s still alive?What would you say if you knew time was short? In this honest and deeply moving episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi Devlukia shares her experience of “living grief” as her 91-year-old grandmother faces an untreatable illness. This isn’t a conversation about death — it’s about life and how we choose to show up when we know time is limited. Radhi opens up about the emotional complexity of loving through loss, the power of presence, and the spiritual and personal awakenings that emerge when we’re forced to let go before we’re ready. You’ll hear reflections on generational wisdom, family dynamics, spiritual detachment, and the importance of asking hard questions before it’s too late. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why “living grief” might be the hardest kind — and how to move through it. How regret is often born from inaction, not circumstance Rituals that ground you when you feel helpless The emotional, physical, and spiritual impact of anticipatory grief Why presence is the most powerful gift you can offer The healing power of memory-making, even in grief What it means to detach with love — not avoidance This is an invitation to pause, feel, and live fully with the ones you love — while you still can. Follow Radhi:https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQhttps://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukiaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever felt anxious talking about money—even when you’re doing everything “right”?Are you working hard but still not sure where your money is going?Are you afraid of investing because it feels too complicated or risky? In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with Vivian Tu—former Wall Street trader and founder of Your Rich BFF—for a grounded, eye-opening conversation on money, mindset, and how financial literacy can be a form of healing. Vivian shares her journey from the pressure-cooker world of finance to becoming one of today’s most trusted voices in personal wealth education. Together, they unpack the emotional layers we carry around money—shame, scarcity, comparison—and how learning the basics can unlock freedom, confidence, and joy. This isn’t about hustle culture or rigid budgets—it’s about clarity, empowerment, and creating a financial life that supports your well-being. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to shift from financial shame to financial clarity Why debt isn’t always bad—and how to make it work for you How to build healthy money habits without sacrificing joy The most common mistakes people make with savings, credit, and investing Simple ways to get started—even if you're earning less or starting late What women should really know about financial independence If you’ve ever felt like money was too overwhelming to figure out, this conversation will help you feel grounded, informed, and empowered to take your next step—with compassion and confidence. Follow Vivian Tu:https://www.linkedin.com/in/viviantu-yourrichbffhttps://www.instagram.com/your.richbffhttps://www.tiktok.com/@yourrichbff Follow Radhi:https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQhttps://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukiaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you ever feel like your life is on autopilot?Could romanticizing life be the key to feeling connected?Are you mistaking peace for boredom?Are you stuck in a cycle of waiting for the “big moments” to finally feel alive? In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi Devlukia dives into the trending idea of “romanticizing your life”—and why it’s so much more than an aesthetic. Sparked by a friend’s comment that life felt “too still,” Radhi offers a thoughtful exploration of what boredom really means and how it might be a signal from your soul, not just your schedule. Drawing on wisdom from The Daily Stoic, ancient Sanskrit philosophy, and her own life, Radhi shares how you can shift your perspective and reconnect to the joy, purpose, and peace already present in your daily rhythms.   In this episode, you’ll learn: Why boredom is often misdiagnosed—and what it might really be telling you How to build a life you’re excited to wake up to without needing big changes Rituals and small sensory shifts to bring presence and magic into ordinary moments How to reframe "boredom" as peace, stillness, or sacred routine The powerful difference between consuming and creating Practices to cultivate curiosity and emotional presence Whether you’re in a season of stillness or just looking to reconnect to your spark, this episode is your gentle reminder: you don’t need a new life—just a new way of seeing the one you have. Follow Radhi:https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQhttps://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukiaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are you overwhelmed by skincare trends and wondering what actually works?Do you feel like skincare advice wasn’t made with your skin in mind?Are you constantly switching products but still not seeing results? In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with board-certified dermatologist and skincare educator Dr. Noreen Galaria for a heart-opening conversation that goes beyond beauty trends and into the deeper truths our skin holds—especially for people of color. They explore how your diet may be aging your skin, why melasma is so misunderstood, and how inflammation often starts from within. Dr. Galaria breaks down myths around collagen creams, SPF, and “clean beauty,” while offering gentle, science-backed guidance on what actually works—and what really doesn’t. In this episode, you’ll learn: What products and foods to avoid for healthy skin How your skin can signal what's happening inside your body Foods and natural remedies that support real skin healing The truth about anti-aging products and what aging gracefully really means Why internal sun protection and edible skincare are more powerful than you think The emotional impact of beauty standards—and how to detach from perfection How to create a skincare routine that’s aligned with your lifestyle and your skin tone Whether you’re just starting your skincare journey or trying to cut through the noise, this episode is a reminder that your skin is not just about how you look—it's about how you feel, live, and nourish yourself from the inside out. Follow Noreen: https://galariamd.com/https://www.instagram.com/galariadermatology/https://www.linkedin.com/in/noreen-galaria-6749bb58 Follow Radhi: https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQhttps://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukiaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are gender roles quietly running your relationship?Do you keep arguing over the same small things with your partner?Is your partner's mess really the problem — or is it what it represents?Are you confusing being strong with being emotionally shut down? In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi shares a funny, heartfelt, and eye-opening story about one couple’s fight over mess—and how it revealed something much deeper. From shoes by the door to unspoken resentment, this solo episode unpacks how the little things we fight about are rarely the real issue. Radhi reflects on her own journey with Jay, explores the emotional weight women often carry at home, and offers practical ways to build healthier communication, better balance, and more compassion in your relationship. In this episode, you’ll learn: How unspoken trauma and conditioning shape the way women handle domestic labor What guilt is trying to tell you—and how to respond to it in your relationship How to hold a weekly “domestic debrief” that keeps resentment from building up The power of daily validation and why micro-acknowledgements matter How to consciously reassign roles so they reflect your real strengths, not outdated expectations What “learned helplessness” looks like and how to stop enabling it Why you might expect your partner to fix everything—and how to let go of that pressure This episode is a heart-opening, honest look at love, triggers, and teamwork. Whether you’ve been together 2 months or 25 years, it’s never too late to have this conversation — and maybe even laugh about it too. Follow Radhi:https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQhttps://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukiaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever outgrown a dream—but felt guilty letting it go?Are you struggling to find your purpose—but don’t know where to start? Or maybe… you’re navigating the challenges of friendship while figuring yourself out too? In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi sits down with Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik—co-founders of the Almost 30 podcast—for an honest, soul-nourishing conversation on friendship, purpose, healing, and letting go of what no longer serves you. From recording episodes on closet floors to becoming one of the top wellness podcasts in the world, Krista and Lindsey reflect on the practices and values that have kept them grounded through nearly a decade of change. They talk about “clearing conversations” (and why every relationship needs them), navigating codependency, honoring expired dreams, redefining what your purpose means, and what Saturn Return really teaches you about self-worth and spiritual growth. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to navigate conflict and stay connected in long-term friendships What a “clearing conversation” is—and how it can change your relationships Why your purpose can shift over time—and how to know when a dream has expired What Saturn Return is and how to move through big life transitions with grace Simple spiritual practices to ground yourself when everything feels uncertain How to stretch moments of joy and trust the timing of your life If you're navigating change, this episode will help you let go with grace, reconnect with your why, and find clarity in the in-between — all through the lens of friendship, healing, and spiritual growth. Follow Lindsey Simcik:https://www.instagram.com/lindseysimcik/https://www.linkedin.com/in/lindsey-simcik-98204060 Follow Krista Williams:https://www.instagram.com/itskrista/https://itskrista.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristawilliams1 Follow Almost 30:https://almost30.com/https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/almost-30/id1148183612https://www.instagram.com/almost30podcast/https://www.youtube.com/c/Almost30Podcasthttps://www.tiktok.com/@almost30podcast Follow Radhi:https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQhttps://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukiSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week on A Really Good Cry, I’m sharing what I learned from spending time with Radhanath Swami—a monk, teacher, and someone whose presence teaches more than words ever could.  I first met Radhanath Swami over a decade ago, and in that time, simply observing how he lives—how he speaks, how he treats others, and how he holds presence in every moment—has quietly answered so many of the questions I’ve wrestled with on my spiritual path. This episode is about alignment—how our daily actions reflect our values, and how small, consistent practices shape our sense of purpose. We’ll explore what integrity really looks like in daily life, how rituals help create emotional stability, and why love isn’t just a feeling—it’s a choice we make again and again. Whether you’re deep in your own journey or just beginning to ask the bigger questions, I truly believe these reflections will offer something meaningful to your heart, too.   What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:24 Who is Radhanath Swami? 04:27 The moment I first heard the meaning of true integrity 05:31 Why embodiment inspires more than advice ever could 06:19 The truth about religion 09:58 What is Sadhana? 11:27 Prayer is not a routine 12:17 Being conscious of God’s presence all the time 14:56 Why we all need role models in life 17:52 The power of silence and soul-to-soul connection 20:32 How can to be a vessel of grace and compassion   Follow Radhi: https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQ https://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/ https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukiaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.