Episode 472: Why successful men are jerks (no one wants to do the laundry)

Oct 14, 2024

Explore why success often turns men into jerks as they neglect romance in favor of personal gains. The discussion reveals how societal pressures and achievements influence men's relationship dynamics. Successful men may see romantic gestures as burdens, leading to emotional disconnects. The podcast emphasizes the importance of emotional connections, contrasting the romantic behaviors of successful versus unsuccessful men. It's a deep dive into how success can distort romantic expectations and interactions.

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Intro

00:00 • 2min

The Disconnect Between Romance and Success

02:20 • 2min

The Impact of Success on Romantic Expectations

04:36 • 3min

The Mindset of Successful Men and Relationship Dynamics

07:09 • 2min

Why is it the case that success and selfishness so often seem to go together in men? The answer is simple: men don't really want to romance women. When they are unable to provide the lifestyle and provision for which women typically select, men adopt romantic consideration as a kind of virtuous necessity in the service of their goals. However, once they become successful, they believe that they should be able to dispense with the courtship drudgery they never wanted to do in the first place. This is why successful men are jerks.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

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