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Daily Boost Motivation and Coaching

Monkey Effect: When Others Dump Their Problems on You

Jan 8, 2025
10:55

Daily Boost Podcast - Episode 5003

Monkey Effect: When Others Dump Their Problems on You

Host: Scott Smith


Episode Description:

Scott explores how people try to burden us with their problems (their “monkeys”) and how this affects our ability to pursue our goals. Through a personal story from his fifth grade, he illustrates why we should be mindful of taking on others' responsibilities while managing our challenges, especially during New Year's resolution season.


Key Takeaways:

- External influences and others' agendas are constantly trying to impact your path

- Everyone has their own "monkeys" (challenges/problems) to deal with already

- Big goals naturally come with challenges, but they shouldn't be overcomplicated

- Saying "no" without explanation is sometimes necessary to protect your time and energy


Featured Story:

Scott shares a memorable childhood story about his fifth-grade teacher, who literally put a monkey on his back while visiting her home. This amusing yet pointed anecdote is a metaphor for how people frequently try to burden others with their problems and responsibilities, demonstrating why we should be cautious about taking on others' challenges.


Scott's Three-Step Approach:

1. Expect others will try to distract you with their problems and learn to say "no" without explanation

2. Don't overcomplicate or self-sabotage by putting monkeys on your own back

3. Avoid putting your monkeys on other people's backs - they'll just return them anyway


Memorable Quotes:

- "Life is your circus, and you are in charge of your monkeys."

- "You've got your dreams, ambitions, goals, desires, all the things you want to do... And while they may be good, they can still feel like a monkey on your back."

- "Not my monkey, not my circus."


Connect With Scott:

Search for The Daily Boost on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

https://motivationtomove.com

https://faceyourpassion.com

https://9minuteclaritycodecom

https://perfectweekplanner.com


#DailyBoost #Motivation #PersonalDevelopment #GoalSetting #Boundaries #PodcastTips #SelfImprovement #LifeLessons #ProductivityTips #MindsetMatters

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