Modern Wisdom #908 - Dr Shannon Curry - What Traits Should You Look For In A Partner?
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Feb 27, 2025 
Dr. Shannon Curry is a clinical psychologist, researcher, and speaker focused on relationships. She discusses the crucial traits to seek in a partner, such as conscientiousness and flexibility, while warning about red flags like neuroticism. The conversation touches on how connection outweighs compatibility and the significance of communication. Curry also delves into the psychological need to 'fix' partners and the dynamics of self-esteem in relationships. She offers strategies for emotional recovery and highlights the impact of counseling on healthier relationships.
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Key Partner Traits
- Look for partners with conscientiousness, flexibility, and low adventurousness for easier relationship management.
- These traits create a solid foundation, making idiosyncrasies less important.
Finding a Partner Using Science
- Dr. Curry used Tai Tashiro’s research to find a partner, prioritizing personality over traditional attractiveness.
- She chose her husband over a male model because of his kind, intelligent conversation.
Red Flags in Relationships
- Characterological abuse, marked by a desire for power and control, predicts relationship unhappiness.
- Look for cruelty or disregard for your needs, as these can indicate deeper issues.
