#77: Making Friends with the Work

As Jason said early on in this episode - recovery work is painful.  It hurts, it’s scary and no wonder we resist it.  Jason talks about how he went from resisting the recovery work to accepting that there was work to do.  It’s in this process that we make friends with the work.  As Thomas Berry, a coach on our team, says - we go from “got to TO get to”.

How we make friends with the work: 

1 - When recovery calls, we answer the call. 2 - Embrace that it's going to hurt. 3 - We make time. 4 - It brings us closer to God. 5 - We learn from the work. 6 - We help others make friends with their work.

What stops us from making friends with the work: 

1 - Cost:  time, money, ego, our job, our status, our reputation.  Ultimately, it comes down to what we value. 2 - Fear:  of change, what we will find out about ourselves, etc. 3 - The injustice of it. 4 - Lack of guaranteed outcomes and a lot of unknowns. 5 - Bad theology

Jason then left me underwhelmed when he said: The place to start is by starting.  (As you will hear, I was ready for the next step and he looked at me and said - that’s it.  Just start.)  Okay then.  So we dedicate time daily to the recovery work.  And if doing the work isn’t getting you anywhere - consider the practice of implementation (Jason asks some great questions geared toward looking at implementation and if it’s happening) as well as consider if the work you are doing is actually not the right work and needs to be revamped.

We segue into a conversation about recovery plans and relapses and I really appreciate what Jason shares about recovery plans being the means to the end and not the end.  “The plan isn’t the issue, the person is the issue."

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