Melissa Febos, a bestselling author and professor, dives into the intricacies of memoir writing. She discusses how confronting fears and vulnerabilities can lead to healing and self-discovery. Listeners learn about the delicate balance between sharing personal truths and respecting privacy. Febos emphasizes storytelling as a liberating act, especially for women and marginalized voices. She also explores the journey of finding purpose in creative writing while navigating the ethical dilemmas of depicting personal relationships.
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From Fiction to Memoir
Melissa Febos started as a fiction writer but was encouraged to write a memoir at 26.
Her professor recognized her talent after reading an essay and told her to pursue memoir writing.
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The Urge to Write
Many people feel their stories aren't interesting enough for a memoir.
Febos emphasizes trusting the urge to write, as it signals a story's importance.
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Nonfiction as Truth Serum
Write nonfiction as a "truth serum" to confront difficult truths.
Nonfiction writing offers a sacred space for honesty and self-discovery, unlike autofiction.
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To some, the act of writing a memoir might seem daunting, invasive, or navel-gazing. But excavating memories, noticing patterns, and revisiting events from other points of view can lead to healing—regardless of whether your work gets published.
On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on Melissa Febos. Melissa is the bestselling author of five books, including Girlhood—winner of the National Book Critics Circle Award in Criticism—and a forthcoming memoir, The Dry Season. She teaches us how to create our own narrative in ways that are safe for you and empathetic of others.
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