The ONE Thing

210. ONE Thing to Grow Together as a Couple | Kaelyn Loes & Brent Wallace

Oct 7, 2019

36:41

When you set your goals, are you doing it by yourself or with your significant other?

When we’re not aligned with the people who are most important to us, the people who have a significant stake in our lives, we’re eliminating one of the most powerful support systems we have — and putting obstacles in the path of our goals. So how can we get them on board with the goal-setting process, even if they’re not goal setters themselves?

In this episode, we’re going to look at what one couple did in this exact situation, Kaelyn Loes and Brent Wallace. One of them was your prototypical goal setter — they read the book, listened to the podcast, used productivity apps — while the other felt that the goal-setting process restricted them at times. But today, they go on this journey together, and in this episode you’ll learn about the tools and conversations that helped them come into alignment.

If you want to put the ideas discussed in this episode into action, consider joining us at our Goal-Setting Retreat. And if you can’t make it to Austin this year, we’ll help you host your own retreat with the Kick Ass Guide® to Your Couples Goal Setting Retreat and the Goal Setting Retreat Master Course.

In this episode, you will learn...

[2:00] Why being disinterested or disengaged with your partner’s goal-setting process can devalue their goals
[6:00] How to support your goal-setting partner, even if you aren’t a goal setter yourself
[20:15] How going on of a couple’s goal-setting retreat can change your relationship
[27:50] How goal-setting retreats can create much-needed context around your partner’s goals
[31:00] What happens if you discover that you and your partner aren’t aligned
[41:15] Questions you can ask your partner to enlist their support in the goal-setting process

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