Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon Revisit & Reflect: Dr. Thema Bryant on How to Heal through Resting
We’re living in a time of information abundance (sometimes information overload!) and lots of that information is about mental health, wellness, and relational health! But there’s a difference between consuming content and integrating it. When we consume, the information might just pass through us. Whereas when we integrate, the information weaves its way into our unique story or situation. This creates insight and the potential for a shift in mindset, in emotion, in belief, and in behavior.
Reflect and journal with Dr. Alexandra to integrate core lessons from the podcast, continuing with today’s conversation from the archive. Originally released in September 2022, Dr. Alexandra and Dr. Thema Bryant discuss the importance of resting and of tapping into the things that make you feel truly alive. They also recognize that the ways the system impacts our sense of identity may hinder us from experiencing ease in rest or leisure. They invite us to incorporate these essential self-care acts into our lives little by little.
Get out your favorite pen and journal to reflect on these perspectives:
- Many of your struggles are influenced by systemic issues and are not as personal as you might think. Acknowledging this makes a lot of the negative voices in our heads related to our worth less of a mystery - often, they did not come from us.
- Rest is a radical act of self-compassion and connection (and not selfish or lazy!), although many people find it very difficult to slow down for a variety of reasons, particularly those from historically excluded identities.
- While slowing down can feel overwhelming because it brings up avoided emotions, integrating this practice gradually, and slowly noticing the information our emotions provide us can allow us to tap into our truth.
Journaling Prompts:
- How do the macro issues of the world shape your sense of yourself in this moment today? What do the voices in your head tell you about your worth? Did that voice come from you? How might you show up differently if you rejected what the voices told you when they told you negative things about your worth?
- What's your relationship with rest and stillness? Is there some discomfort there? What, perhaps, keeps you from feeling at ease while resting? What does it feel like in your body to be still, to do nothing, to not be productive? What does doing something just for the sake of doing it, not as a means to an end, but just to be in the moment - what does that feel like? What's coming up for you as we sit here together right now?
- What comes to mind when you are being invited to reconnect with some neglected parts of yourself?
- What are you doing when you feel the most alive? What's the setting? What's the context? What time of day is it? What are you up to? What are the constraints to entering that space that makes you feel most alive? What, perhaps, keeps you from feeling entitled to make space for that which makes you come alive?
- What is a pledge that you can make to yourself this week to carve out even the tiniest bit more space for rest, for stillness, for doing that which makes you feel alive? And if and when you carve out a little tiny bit more space, can you just notice and land and savor how you feel when you enter that space of rest and stillness?
Resources worth mentioning from the episode:
Reimagining Love episode, Coming Home to Ourselves: The Path to Thriving with Dr. Thema Bryant
Homecoming: Overcome Fear and Trauma to Reclaim Your Whole, Authentic Self by Dr. Thema Bryant:
The Homecoming Podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-homecoming-podcast-with-dr-thema/id1471604689
Dr. Thema’s Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/dr.thema/
Tricia Hershey’s The Nap Ministry (Healing via the REST IS RESISTANCE framework):
https://thenapministry.wordpress.com/about/
Managing Back to School Stress on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/backtoschool
Couple Therapy Certification Course from PESI: http://pesi.com/dralexandra
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