Help! I Have a Narcissist In My Life Communicating with a Narcissist - Resist Being Derailed
Dec 19, 2020
This discussion dives into effective ways to communicate with narcissists, highlighting their common tactics like shifting blame and avoidance. A two-step strategy helps maintain focus: setting clear goals and using the 'broken record' technique to assert your points. Consistency is key in addressing derailment behaviors, while practice and perseverance are encouraged for effective responses. Listeners can also engage in specific exercises to identify these tactics and reinforce their communication skills, supported by uplifting scripture.
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Derailing Is Deliberate Avoidance
- Derailing is avoidance, control, and manipulation used by narcissists to avoid problem solving.
- It frustrates progress by shifting focus away from the original issue and preserves the narcissist's denial of responsibility.
Recognize Common Derailment Tactics
- Recognize common derailment tactics like lying, blame-shifting, minimization, and defending intentions so you can ignore them.
- Refuse to engage with these tactics and steer the talk back to the original issue.
Derailment Keeps Problems Unresolved
- Every derailing tactic ends the exchange 'instead of attending to the original issue.'
- If you accept derailing, you leave the problem unsolved and feel worse emotionally.
