When an HCP is a Narcissist...

Do you know someone whose moods swing wildly? Do they act unreasonably suspicious or antagonistic? Do they blame others for their own problems? When a high conflict person (HCP) has one of five common personality disorders – borderline, narcissistic, paranoid, antisocial, or histrionic – they can lash out in risky extremes of emotion and aggression. And once an HCP decides to target you, they’re hard to shake.

Most everyone has been around a narcissist, but not everyone understands how to handle a narcissistic HCP. Bill and Megan do a deep dive into this personality type, exploring:

• Their fear-based need to be superior and makes others feel inferior
• The differences between vulnerable, narcissistic and malignant types
• Why they see themselves as a hero and protector while those around them experience them as bullies
• How to spot them
• Statistics on Narcissistic Personality Disorder and narcissistic HCPs in the U.S

Understanding and dealing with Narcissistic HCPs come in layers, and understanding the why they behave that way is the first step.

If you’ve been the Target of Blame for a narcissistic HCP, you know the devastating impact it can have. It’s easy to get emotionally hooked by their aggressive behaviors and respond with aggression or avoidance, which emboldens them. Instead, learning the necessary skills –that don’t always feel natural – is the ticket to managing interactions with them. The first step is to understand their behavior patterns, starting now.

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Links & Other Notes

Books:

• BIFF at Work
• 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities
• It’s All Your Fault: Managing Narcissists and Other High Conflict People
• All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books and some in audio format.

Training:

• For attorneys: Dealing with Narcissistic Personalities: The Arrogant Players of Divorce
• The Narcissistic Family Member: Prickly and Superior

Articles:

• Do Narcissists Make Good Leaders in Business?
• Narcissism and Incivility: Is There a Connection?
• Narcissist in Your Family? 4 Tips for Dealing with Them

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You can also find these show notes on our website as well.

• (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
• (02:45) - Last Time...
• (03:10) - HCP Refresher
• (06:06) - The Narcissistic HCP
• (08:38) - Statistics
• (09:54) - Dealing With an Narcissistic HCP
• (10:57) - Sexual Abuse
• (11:21) - Genetic Component?
• (13:47) - Empathy Factor
• (15:58) - How They See Themselves
• (18:45) - Types of Narcissists
• (24:56) - Lack of Self-Awareness
• (27:07) - Treatment
• (30:00) - Dealing With a Narcissistic HCP in Your Life
• (33:27) - Getting Support
• (34:40) - Gender Breakdown
• (36:18) - Don't Tell Them They're an HCP
• (37:04) - Narcissists vs. Narcissistic HCPs
• (37:50) - Are HCPs bad people?
• (40:00) - Raising Healthy Kids
• (43:06) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Antisocial HCPs

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