Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu, active daters turned influential voices in modern romance, offer insights from their book, How To Be Dateable. They dissect traditional dating advice, emphasizing the importance of meaningful connections over quantity. Listeners learn about innovative first dates that blend everyday life with potential partners, the pitfalls of dating app culture, and the complexities of navigating modern relationships. They also explore personal dating archetypes and the necessity of adaptability in the ever-evolving dating landscape.
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The Sock Dealbreaker
Yue Xu got "the ick" over a partner wearing black socks with white sneakers on a second date and ended it abruptly.
This shows how small details and authenticity impact attraction and readiness for deeper connection.
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Limit Number of Dating Partners
Balance dating multiple people by considering your emotional and time capacity to be fully present with each.
More than three active romantic connections often becomes difficult to manage effectively.
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Choose Dates You Enjoy
Lead with what you enjoy on dates rather than generic advice or scientific studies.
Choose activities that reflect your authentic interests to better evaluate compatibility and connection.
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Amy Guerin's "Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator" explores alternative relationship models beyond traditional marriage and coupledom. The book challenges societal norms and expectations surrounding relationships, offering insights into various non-traditional structures. It delves into the experiences of individuals who choose to prioritize personal growth and autonomy over conventional relationship paths. Guerin's work empowers readers to question societal pressures and embrace relationship styles that align with their values and needs. The book provides a supportive framework for those seeking fulfilling relationships outside of traditional structures.
Today we're joined by Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu from the podcast Dateable to talk about--you guessed it--how to be dateable. We're going to be talking about traditional dating advice, dating archetypes, different perspectives on dating, and more!
Julie and Yue are active daters turned dating insiders, and top influential voices of modern dating, relationships, and connection in the digital world. They’re the authors of How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love and the co-hosts of the hit podcast Dateable, which has been named one of the top podcasts about modern dating and relationships by the New York Times, The Huffington Post, Oprah Daily, and more.
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