Paula Byrne, author of 'Hardy Women: Mothers, Sisters, Wives, Muses', investigates the women in Thomas Hardy's life. They discuss his romantic life, the impact of domestic violence on his work, contradictions in his views on women, and the relationships portrayed in his novels.
Thomas Hardy's mother, Jemima, played a significant role in shaping his development as a man and a writer, instilling in him a love of literature and serving as a muse for his works.
Thomas Hardy had a complex relationship with women, exhibiting a deep understanding of their inner lives while also sometimes treating them poorly, showcasing contradictions in his views and treatment of women throughout his life and writing.
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The Influence of Thomas Hardy's Mother on His Life and Writing
Thomas Hardy's mother, Jemima, played a significant role in shaping his development as a man and a writer. She was deeply influential in his education and directed his reading, instilling in him a love of literature. Jemima's impact on Hardy was profound, and their close relationship is reflected in his works. Described as formidable, intelligent, and sometimes caustic, she provided inspiration and served as a muse for Hardy. Additionally, Jemima's own experiences with domestic violence, which she shared with Hardy, influenced his depiction of the darker aspects of rural life in his novels.
Hardy's Obsession with Privacy and his Ghostwritten Autobiography
Thomas Hardy had an intense desire for privacy and actively sought to control the narrative of his own life. He burned many of his papers and correspondence, and discouraged biographers from writing about him. Hardy was deeply concerned about how he would be remembered and sought to control his legacy. As a way to ensure that his story was told as he wanted, he even came up with the idea of ghostwriting his own autobiography, pretending that his second wife would be the biographer. However, this ghosted biography was not entirely truthful and contained gaps, whitewashed details, and hidden relationships, offering only a curated version of his life.
Hardy's Contradictory Views and Treatment of Women
Hardy's relationship with women was marked by contradiction and complexity. On one hand, he had a deep understanding of female agency and the inner lives of women, which is reflected in his ability to create complex, believable female characters. He treated women as muses and drew inspiration from them. However, he also treated some women poorly, dismissing them and behaving in ways that lacked empathy. Hardy's paradoxical views and treatment of women are evident in his relationships with multiple women, his propensity to fall in love easily, and his resentment towards women who did not fulfill his vision of the ideal muse. This contradiction is explored throughout his life and writing.
Hardy's Intense Romantic Attachments and the Impact on His Writing
Throughout his life, Thomas Hardy had numerous intense romantic attachments and infatuations with various women. These attachments often overlapped, with Hardy experiencing feelings for multiple women simultaneously. While he was not known for philandering or being a Casanova, he was drawn to the idea of being in love and had a tendency to idealize women. However, these relationships were complicated and often ended in disappointment. Hardy's romantic experiences and his desire for love and connection with women deeply influenced his writing, as he sought to explore the complexities of desire, sexuality, and the tensions between romantic ideals and reality in his novels and poems.
My guest on this week's Book Club podcast is Paula Byrne. In her new book Hardy Women: Mothers, Sisters, Wives, Muses, she investigates the women in the life and work of the great poet and novelist Thomas Hardy. She talks to me about Hardy's romantic life, the torture he inflicted on the women he fell for, and how – in the bitter words of his first wife Emma – 'he understands only the women he invents'.
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