At Peace Parents Podcast Ep. 84 - Using Declarative Language with Your PDA Child or Teen
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Oct 17, 2024 Discover the power of declarative language in supporting PDA children and teens. Learn how this communication style differs from commands and questions, reducing feelings of threat. Explore practical uses, like conversation starters and casual cues, to encourage dialogue without pressure. Gain insights on common parental misconceptions and receive handy phrases for effective communication. Plus, tips on how to engage schools in using these techniques for a cohesive approach to your child's needs.
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Why Declarative Language Matters
- Declarative language avoids direct commands and questions that can trigger a PDA child's threat response.
- Neuroception senses loss of autonomy and shuts down communication in PDA children.
Eating Apples Example
- Casey describes asking her son to eat apples and how questions or commands activated him and reduced eating.
- She learned that declaratives aimed at making him eat still felt like control and didn't work.
Use Declaratives Without Expectation
- Use declarative sentences as a connection tool, not a demand to change behavior in the moment.
- Keep a neutral energy so the statement is an invitation rather than a covert command.
