YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton “I’m Okay”: Emotional Regulation in Neurodiverse Relationships
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Jan 21, 2026 When emotions peak, how do neurodiverse couples stay connected? Randall and Ashley discuss their practical tools for managing conflict, including the helpful mantra 'I’m okay.' They share strategies to prevent meltdowns, like routines and weighted blankets, and the importance of establishing boundaries during emotional overload. Discover how they navigate surprises, plan for holidays, and employ code words to ease anxiety. Their journey reveals how understanding each other's neurotypes has deepened empathy and strengthened their bond.
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Use The Two-or-Ten Rule
- Use the Two-or-Ten rule to decide whether to invest energy in small disagreements.
- Rate how important the issue is and skip conflicts when it ranks low so you preserve relationship energy.
"I'm Okay" As An Internal Reset
- Ashley describes freezing under rapid questioning and interpreting it as criticism.
- She started repeating "I'm okay" to remind herself she's not dumb but sensory overloaded.
Freeze Response Feels Like Danger
- Jodi explains freeze responses interpret social overload as danger, so self-reassurance reduces perceived threat.
- Recognize neurotypical partners can feel like outsiders in neurodiverse households and deserve empathy too.